Post # 31
I voted $300-400, but that is with all possible expenses included – from the things you listed, to the shower and bachelorette. I’m not involved in the planning of either event, so I’m just guessing what those might be.
Dress: $180 (plus alterations if needed – hopefully no more than $40)
Shoes: Any black shoes – I checked and they already all had black, so $0.
Jewelry: Part of their gift is their necklace and earrings, which they know ahead of time so they don’t purchase their own!
Hair: On their own – whatever they want.
Makeup: On their own – whatever they want.
Nails: Whatever they want!
So I’m figuring $220 max for dress + alterations, and hopefully no more than $100 or so for shower and bachelorette – thus $300-400 total! The less the better though, I told my Maid/Matron of Honor that the most important thing for bachelorette is keeping it affordable. I also told the BMs they shouldn’t worry about gifts for us, that the dress and everything they’re doing for the wedding is their gift. One Bridesmaid or Best Man is coming from Hawaii, but she is family and was already planning to, and is making it her yearly visit home. One or two others may need one night of hotel, but with the room block it’s only $85.
Post # 32
Mine varied b/c I let them pick out their own dress and shoes. I only asked that the shoes be the same style. I think the dresses they chose ranged from $120 – $300. And I believe the shoes were under $40.
I didn’t require that they get their makeup or hair done. But they wanted professional makeup done, so I said that I would pay for it. That was about $80/person.
Post # 33
The only thing I required was the $250 dress, which was pretty cheap for our area And they need to buy their own nude shoes. It’s up to them how much they want to spend on shoes. I bought their jewelry for them. I also left it up to them to decide what to do fir their own hair and makeup. Their dresses have s keyhole back, so some might also need to buy a new bra if they don’t have a backless one already.
Post # 34
This is the breakdown of what my Maid/Matron of Honor had to pay:
Dress: $150, and I think she may have had some alterations done
Shoes: her pick as long as they were nude pumps. I’m guessing she spent $30-50, but these are definitely shoes she will wear a million times and was planning to buy anyways.
Hair: paid for by me
Makeup: we both did our own
Airfare: paid for by me (about $500)
Hotel: she stayed with me
And this is the breakdown of what my bridesmaid paid: (all paid for by her mom/MIL, but MIL/FIL did not contribute to any part of the wedding or even give DH a card so I consider these costs negligible as parents of the groom)
Dress: $150 plus alterations, paid for by her mom
Shoes: Again, nude pumps of her choice. Probably $30-50, paid for by her mom
Hair/makeup: did on her own
Gas/hotel: she traveled and stayed with her mom
Oh and also, I didn’t ask for any showers or parties, so no $$ required there 🙂
Post # 35
- Wedding: February 2016 - Church by the beach,
I don’t like the idea of charging them to be my bridesmaids with dress, shoes hotel or make up but they do need to travel although I’d be happy to help if they need.
Post # 36
Mine is only 401+ because i am having my wedding in Massachusetts and only one lives in the state others have to fly in from socal. norcal, and maryland. I am paying for hair, make up, nails. They can get any dress they want as long as it is the color I showed them. Of course they still want my approval of the ir dresses but really I could care less. They are already doing so much by spending the money to come out here for the wedding. I wouldn’t care if they wore a sack for a dress.
Post # 37
PP has a point. My BMs paid for their own shoes (navy blue and plain, any style you like) but I paid for the rest of the expenses. However, they still had to arrange their own transportation, and pay hotel costs etc etc, just like every other guest. So the cost was actually quite high, although no higher than for any other guest.
Post # 38
The only thing I required of my girls was to get a dress and the one we ALL agreed on was one that cost $200. They were all willing to pay for it, but I did offer any help if they wanted it.
As far as everything else goes, I’m buying all of their jewelry and day of garments to make them comfortable ($200 for all). Shoes just need to be silver matte colored, I have hair and makeup aritsts but I am not forcing them to use them.
I will most like pay for their hair though since that’s the way they are leaning ($300 for all).
Makeup they will probably do on their own since that’s more of stylistic choice.
I have transportation and they all live close by.
Post # 39
Mine paid for their dress ($100), shoes (I gave them a color and let them pic their own based on their own heel height preference and budget – I just told them neutral and I hope they all picked someth they like enough to wear again), and the tip for their hair and makeup (I paid for the actual hair and makeup but they wouldn’t let me put tips on my credit card).
They also had to pay for 2 nights at a hotel but I got a deal for booking blocks so that was only $100/night.
Post # 40
My bridesmaids paid for their dresses and alterations ($200+).
For shoes I said black and closed toe. Height and style otherwise doesn’t matter. I figured everyone has that one classic fallback pair of shoes. And if you don’t, perfect opportunity to get some.
Hair and makeup they all have the option of DIY or Pro.
one of my girls is from out of town, so she has the added cost of a plane ticket.
Post # 41
Mine was pretty similar:
Dress: I think they were around $130-150 (and that was at a place that had them the cheapest)
shoes: I didn’t care what they wore, but my sister (MOH) found a pair of nude wedges that she could wear other times, so SIL (BM) bought the same ones to match. I think they were $40
jewelry: I gave them a necklace and earrings to wear $0
hair done: My stylists salon was a good deal, and was probably around $30-40. I can’t even remember.
makeup done: They did their own
nails/toes: This was up to them, but we all went in for mani/pedis the day before. They both got gel french tips, which were $30, and pedis were around $30. $60 total.
I think that was all for costs, as everything else was provided or paid for. I don’t think it was really that much, compared to what I see on here and what others spend (and the area you live in). I had debated paying for their hair, but didn’t in the end.
Post # 42
- Wedding: August 2015 - Carmen\'s Lakeview
Dress: $180. We chose a dress within everyone’s budget so this wasn’t a problem.
shoes: $0 – they pick, they don’t have to buy new ones 🙂 It’s a floor length dress so whatever they want is fine
jewelry: $0 – necklaces – which are gifts
hair done: $0 – we are paying
makeup done: optional, $40 a bridesmaid IF they want (which includes airbrush & lashes)
nails/toes: $0 – we are paying
total – $180, $220 if they want their makeup professionally done
Post # 43
I purchased their dresses (I also let them choose) and flowers. They can wear whatever shoes and jewelry they please.
Hair/Makeup is optional. If they choose to use my stylists, it’s $90/hair and $90/makeup. They are all local so no hotels necessary unless they choose to stay.
Post # 44
We paid for everything so the only thing they paid for was the optional gift they chose to give us and shower/bach party
Post # 45
My situation may be unique, because I have a fairly large wedding budget, but here goes. We are paying for the dresses, hotel room, necklace, hair, and makeup for the girls. I am expecting them to pay for the alterations, bring their own shoes (whatever shoes they want), and provide their own other jewelry if they want it. My mom paid for my bridal shower (though the girls planned it). They are paying for my bachelorette party coming up, (which I never said I expected a bachelorette party, so it’s not like I’m forcing them.) But there’s no way I am going to volunteer to pay for that, so they will have to deal with that. Surprisingly, the bridesmaid whom I was trying to be considerate of financially (because she has cancer, large medical expenses, and cant work) has been the one to volunteer to pay for the most stuff. It has been other bridesmaids who have actually complained about the cost of alterations etc, which sort of surprised me since I thought we were paying for a lot more than most couples do for their bridal party.