Post # 61
Just wanted to give another perspective. I’m a bridesmaid. Estimating my total cost at ~$1300 when all is said and done. Required costs from the bride (without shower/bachelorette) will be ~$660. :-/ Breakdown:
Dress: $180 (required)
Alterations: $120 (don’t think bride knows mine were so expensive…we just were required to pay for whatever we needed)
Jewelry: $0 (gift from bride)
Shoes: $60 (required – originally $80 but I got them on sale. Pick a style out of 4 – all same cost)
Hair: $60-80 (required…estimating what it will be here. Bride is picking style.)
Makeup: $75 (required)
Hotel: $120 (required)
Nails: $50 (manicure required is~$30, I will probably get a pedicure too)
Gifts: $60 (all split with other bridesmaids)
Shower: $380 a person (bride doesn’t know).
Bachelorette: $150 (bride doesn’t know)
Gas: ~$200? (bride doesn’t know this either. I am out of town and have driven back for dress appointments, local shower, and to a 2nd out of state shower)
Post # 62
I only required the dress- which we all decided on a color and designer and they had like 60 dresses to choose from from that designer. I let them choose their jewelry and shoes, and I let them choose if they wanted to get their hair and makeup done, but didn’t care if they did.
Also, all of my bridesmaids were also family and several of them were still in school/just starting out and I felt extremely guilty asking them for anything especially because they were soooo helpful with everything for the wedding. I told them I didn’t want gifts from them. Some of them still gave me gifts anyway, but really all I wanted was for them to be with me.
I’ve been in several weddings that cost me over $1000 and I’m in my brothers upcoming wedding which will cost me well over that as well. I wanted to make sure I didn’t put anyone in that position. I don’t mind spending it if its asked of me and I can do it, but it wasn’t something I felt comfortable asking my bridesmaids to do.
Post # 63
- Wedding: June 2015 - Rustic barn/ pavilion
Dress: $0 cost to them… I bought all three dresses once the girls agreed on the dress they liked. (Dresses cost $30 a piece with shipping direct from the Grace Karin Evening gown factory.)
Shoes, Jewelry: Wore what they wanted.
Hair, Makeup, Nails: Did what they wanted.
I also made their bouquets. Bridesmaid had to travel a few hours in the car with her Mom and Grandmother. Matron and Maid of Honor were my daughters.
Post # 64
They are paying for their dresses and alterations (probably about $200 all together), their shoes- which they could pick themselves- probably about $40, their hair- $50, and if they want to do their nails they can on their own. We are doing our own makeup so they will just wear whatever they want for that. I paid for their jewelry (about $30 per person) and hotel rooms.
Plus they went together with some other family members for my shower, so I don’t know how much they each spent for that.
Post # 65
I paid for everything. Hair, make up, shoes, hotels, dresses etc. I figure they are really doing me a service. I asked them to be in my wedding so I figured I should cover everything.
Post # 66
I will take care of hair, make up, nails, shoes, jewellery.
They take care of their dress (per my colour range and length request), bridal shower and bachelorette. I don’t want to have to do ANYTHING in that regards. All live locally, so their travel will be local gas or transit.
It’s me deciding to get married. They all still have lives and financial obligations. I’m trying not to take that much away from their lives. One of them also is mother to my flower girl, but my plan is to cover that too. Well, if I can’t afford to cover all I might just cover the flower girl and not care about nails. 🙂
I would like to note if I found 1 dress that was flattering on all and I loved it, I’d pay. I figure at this point, they’d all buy a dress to go to my wedding anyway, so they might as well go buy one they love. Everything I “REQUIRE” as being uniform is what I am paying.
Post # 67
my bridesmaid will pay for dress and shoes. Everything else they need I will give them but knowing them they will get their nails done and hair done. im not requiring it. i just want it to look nice but knowing them i’m sure they will.
Post # 68
I opted for less than $100 but they actually won’t be paying for anything, I bought their dresses, shoes don’t have to be specific, I bought their head pieces and gifts for each of them. None of my bridesmaids need to travel (20 minutes is the absolute most) or pay for hotel rooms. If they want professional hair and make up they will need to pay for that but we will be having a ‘master class’ so that everyone can learn how to achieve the look (make-up and hair). Since it is our wedding I really didn’t want anyone to be burdened.
Post # 69
THIS is why I want to cover as much as I can and give them the freedom of the dress they buy. THAT IS BANANAS.
HOWEVER, that’s the average cost of being a bridesmaid nowadays and I’m rebelling. I hope these costs weren’t close together.
That’s another reason I want a long engagement so I can space out costs and hopefully if every month I financially accomplish either saving towards the catering or making a deposit etc. I won’t feel the hit so hard. Same with my girls, they’ll have hopefully a year and a half to save up for the dress, shower and bachelorette (all I’m planning to ask of them to take care of).
Post # 70
- Wedding: October 2015 - Drury Lane Oakbrook
I have 5 BMs. The 3 who are in town bought their own dresses. The other 2 are coming from out of town so I paid for their dresses since they are paying for travel expenses. I asked them all to wear silver shoes. Since most have been bridesmaids previously they already own silver shoes so it’s not an expense. I am paying for their hair and makeup and also giftin them jewelry and robes from etsy.
Post # 71
- Wedding: August 2015 - Tuscany Falls Banquet Hall
Shoes- whatever they want. just has to be a silver sandle type (heels or no heels, i don’t care)
Nails- I bought the polish. Does not need to be done professionally
Everyone’s hair will be up in a high bun and realistically everyone can do that themselves without having to go to a hair dresser
Makeup – I am paying for
Jewelry – I am paying for
Transportation – I am paying for
Hotel – They are paying for
Post # 72
- Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery
I chose $201 – $300 but it could really vary. The only thing they HAVE to buy is the dress. The dresses I picked average about $200 (they can pick from a variety of styles). They need gold shoes of any style, but can be ones they already have. I just want them to wear jewlery they have/like. Gold, not silver. I *may* buy them earrings.
Hair, nails, and makeup will be optional (though we will be going to a nail salon together the day before and getting ready together the day of, they won’t have to get services.)
They could, potentially get away with spending no more than $225 for dress + shipping. More likely, with hair, nails, makeup, potential alterations, etc. It could be closer to $350+
Two will have to travel, so there is expense there as well.
Post # 73
They had to rent a $55 dress. I didn’t care what they did for jewelry, shoes, hair or makeup. The dresses were long, so shoes didn’t matter, and I trust them to fix themselves up appropriately. They didn’t give my showers, as those were given by church ladies. No bachelorette party, nor was one expected. Wedding was local for all of them except DH’s sister, who was 15 and rode/stayed with her parents.
Post # 74
Shower: $20 – guessing? split between 4 girls hosted in a home for 12 people
Bachelorette: $50 – guessing? staying at a cabin (no flights/hotels) so just food/drinks
We are paying for their hotels, but two bridesmaids have a short flight, which they paid both for the shower and will be paying for for the wedding (about $150 round trip). So two girls spent 300-500 and two will be spending $150-200. Yikes plane tickets add up!
Post # 75
- Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery
I feel ya. I was in a wedding last year that probably cost me over $1200 when all was said and done. $300 dress + $60 alterations. $75 shoes (did use for other wedding I was in the same year though). $50 shower gift. Vegas bachelorette party (fly from KC, stay at Cosmopolitan 2 nights, cover all expenses + split bride’s expenses while there) which cost me at leas $500. Flight to east coast, hotel, hair, makeup, nails for wedding.
Not all was “required” but mostly expected. It’s a good thing I love her because DAMN.