(Closed) What are your bridesmaids doing for you?

posted 11 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

My Maid/Matron of Honor just informed me that she did NOT get her dress!  37 more days to go…… not the happiest person right now……. my Bridesmaid or Best Man is my little sister who is getting ready to go to college so she is a little busy….my poor husband to be has to listen to my craziness…..I just feel BLAH today…..

Post # 18
1020 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’ve talked about inviting my girls over to help with DIY stuff – cutting bottles for centerpieces, etc. and they’ve sounded more than willing. I did promise them cupcakes and cocktails though. 🙂

Post # 19
31 posts

In all fairness to the bridesmaids, you can’t expect them to read your mind. You have to say you would like them to do a certain thing. Of course they should be there for you,get the dress you pick out, and help plan the parties, but other than that, if you want help you have to say something. Remember your bridesmaid isn’t your servant, they are friends that you asked to be in your wedding and they accepted because they love you. So to say your bridesmaid isn’t doing anything isn’t fair to them, when they are spending money and doing extra things for you, that they wouldn’t be doing if you weren’t getting married.  Also, I do think its crummy that some of you are having problems with bridesmaids that aren’t buying the dress you want and aren’t being supportive. I would consider dropping them from the wedding or ask yourself if you want a friend that wouldn’t support you (i.e. lending an ear when you are stressed out) during such a happy and stressful time in your life.


Post # 20
13 posts
  • Wedding: August 2020

I haven’t asked my girls to do anything for me really. My Maid/Matron of Honor has 4 kids – including a newborn – and she hosted and organized a great shower. She and her sister who is my Bridesmaid or Best Man threw me an awesome bachlorette party weekend in Atlantic City. She also came with me to pick out the venue. I don’t want to ask much more of her considering her hectic schedule! I may need help doing some DIY decorations but I am planning on handling that task on my own since they aren’t particularly crafty and I am a bit of a perfectionist.

Post # 21
336 posts
Helper bee

Nothing. My Maid/Matron of Honor and two of my three sisters came dress shopping with me (I have 6 girls total). I’m not expecting too much, sadly. My Maid/Matron of Honor gets married two months after me and is in grad school, my other Bridesmaid or Best Man is at school 2 hours away, all three sisters are in their teens and live 5 hours away, and my FI’s sister doesn’t care to do anything.


Post # 22
11809 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

Mine all live far away, so they haven’t been doing anything up to this point.  But I plan on putting them to work when they come down for the wedding!  My Maid/Matron of Honor is getting here like 9 days before the wedding!!

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