"What are your colors??" is stressing me out

posted 1 year ago in Beehive
Post # 31
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Buzzing bee

Totally agree – hate this question. I still don’t really have wedding colors, though I’ve had to narrow it down a bit for the florist, and I had to pick a dress for my Maid/Matron of Honor (tho we looked at dresses together and I was open to various colors, from blush to navy to sage! We chose what we liked best together). 

I’m not decorating the venue much and I’m sticking with ivory tablecloths/napkins and white/silver tableware, so nothing is going to clash. Most of the color will come from the flowers. I think this question is for people who are going all out with the decorations or who like bold colors and don’t want things to clash. Since I like neutrals and soft tones and am sticking with minimal decorations, I’m not afraid anything will clash. 

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

We didn’t have a wedding party, and people (ok, mainly FSIL) kept asking about colors and I responded “how is this even a THING?!?”

When I went to order my flowers, I knew I wanted hydrangeas. The florist told me which colors were the least expensive, and BOOM…wedding colors. 🙂

 

Post # 34
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Buzzing bee

I found, “what’s your theme?” more obnoxious. I always replied with, “getting married.” lol. 

 

I agree you should pick ugly different colors each time you are asked. lol.

Post # 35
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

trishthedish23 :  I’m really not a fan of colour schemes. Our venue had quite rich and bold decor so all flowers, stationery etc were shades of cream/ivory/pale champagne. My Maid/Matron of Honor and junior Bridesmaid or Best Man also wore ivory, and then the rest were able to choose a colour that suited all 3 (they went with emerald green).

A wedding I was recently in did a similar thing: bridesmaids in pale green but the flowers were a mixture of native flowers in a variety of colours, and everything else was neutral. I honestly think it looks so much more elegant than having everything match. 

Post # 36
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

trishthedish23 :  honestly, I think matchy matchy wedding decor is starting to get a little dated. Lately I’ve been seeing a lot of neutrals such as shades of white and ivory for linens, traditional monochrome invitations, and blushes and muted tones for bridesmaid attire. I actually had wedding colors (orange and purple), but did not go out of my way to get bright purple linens or an orange bouquet. I still stuck with mostly neutrals and used my “wedding colors” just for little accents. 

Post # 37
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

lots of great suggestions in here. 

My fiances favorite color is blue (like Yankees blue) and mine is purple (a reddish – not bluish – purple, like a plum). So I went with that. It’s difficult to find the right shade of purple tho, so mostly we’ve ended up with navy and burgundy/marsala. These colors keep coming up as “fall” colors but IDGAF, and I’m using them at our early summer wedding =)

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

ladyartichoke :  I did this with a tropical peacock feather (not unlike the one in my avatar)

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

knightmiss :  we had burgundy/masala and navy for my fall wedding, and people made fun of me for naming such a specific shade of red. You can’t win either way!

OP, don’t stress too much about having a Pinterest-perfect wedding, just use Pinterest as a tool. I found myself pinning the same colors over and over, and voila – there you go. If you still can’t choose, maybe your Fiance has some preferences?

Post # 40
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Helper bee

Think of the image you have in your head of your wedding day? Do any colors pop out? Start there. I always loved navy blue and that is where I started, then picked the secondary colors I knew went well. 

Post # 42
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Our colors were deep red and light yellow. Like you, I searched all of Pinterest and that was the color scheme I liked best. Yellow is one of my favorite colors, and I liked that red stood out. Done. So, then my bouquet was deep red roses, with yellow calla lilies, and these cream/ivory spiky stalks thing (they were fake from Hobby Lobby, so not sure of type of flower). It was gorgeous. Darling Husband and I only had one attendant a piece, so my Maid/Matron of Honor wore the deep red hue, which went perfectly with her blonde hair, and Darling Husband wore a deep red bowtie. My flower girl had the light yellow for her headband, and our cake was cream with the same red swirls.

Just get swatches of fabric from wherever you get dresses from, carry it with you, and coordinate the details with it. Send it to your cake decorator, to your florist, and let your flower girl and/or ring bearer wear accessories in your accent color. There you go! Color theme.

Post # 43
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Bumble bee

I also struggled with this question. I also don’t have a vision in my head of the wedding. I say just make sure your decorations don’t clash. 

Post # 44
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Sugar bee

You don’t really need a colour, but it can just make choosing things like flowers and bridesmaid dresses easier. We chose ours pretty randomly – i had lavender hair at the time so we just went with that and worked backwards from there. things like your venue and dress can help point you in a direction as well. We definitely didn’t obsess over everything being matchy matchy, just when we had to pick between multiple things we’d go with whatever matched lavander better

Pinterest is your friend though if you want things kinda matchy and aren’t good at picking colour palettes. Literally just search ‘colour palette’ or even ‘wedding colour palette’ and it’ll give you some ideas. 

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