What are your current life struggles?

posted 3 years ago in Wellness
Post # 2
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252 posts
Helper bee

After years of job hopping happily and never worrying about money, I am now facing possible redundancy. I’ll be ok financially for awhile,  but it will be a blow to my already tarnished resume and self esteem as a career woman…

I always feel sad about not having a real friend to hang out with. My “best friend” mostly spends time when she is going through something bad like a break up etc. But when it comes to going out to dinners, day trips etc she never asks me…and if I am invited it’s last minute because she accidentally mentioned it to me and doesn’t want to hurt my feelings for being excluded. Lol.

Post # 3
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4031 posts
Honey bee

My current struggle right now is adjusting to my new job and responsibilities. I took over my organziation about 7 months ago. I feel competent and capable, but I have been experiencing an emotional roller coaster the last few weeks. Between fundraising $1 million, fixing facilities, figuring out staffing, establishing myself as a leader and balancing prioroities, I am exhausted.

I love my job, but I am just so overwhelmed I actually cried tonight (and I never cry). On top of it, I have had to think a lot about when we want to start a famity and how to balance that with my career. 

I am so grateful for my life and my opportunities, but I just want a break…even just a short one.

Post # 4
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299 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I have an overall happy life. No major problems at the moment. I’ve had my share; cancer, tragic family deaths, drama that nearly destroyed my wedding, I lost close friends, been the topic of gossip etc. I learn to overcome, laugh at the stupid stuff, dance in the rain, fall down but got up. Life is hard. I know. I still feel the effects of things that happened years ago.
I do not usually put my troubles online, I try to show a happy life. Though I don’t fake it, I just only share the good times.
But I have bad days, today was bad. I cried in the store, twice. Cried at home. Tomorrow will be a better day. For I am more blessed today that I have ever been.
Hugs to my fellow bees if today is not your day.
Jacqui

Post # 5
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252 posts
Helper bee

I think we all have our good times and bad times…like seasons.

The last two years were amazing meanwhile others i know went through crap. The key is whenever feeling bad…don’t!  Every dog has its day 🙂 or whatever the saying is….

Post # 6
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1417 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

happybunny177:  Finances, job hunting, freelancing/temping while I look. Ugh.

Post # 7
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4646 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

such an awesome, well needed thread. Such a refreshing change from the perfect picture ppl put forward on FB and Instagram. Love this, thank you!!!

So… for me… constantly dealing with my ex – my son’s biological father and his controlling wife whose main goal is to make my life difficult by using my son as a pawn. 

Post # 8
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299 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

shadows9x:  I understand.  After loosing my best friend of many years who didn’t even come to my wedding then I moving out of state and hardly seeing any of my long time friends.  I haven’t made any super close friends.  My darling hubby is amazing, but he doesn’t always understand that I need to talk out EVERYTHING with out trying to fix it.  Just know you’re not alone.

Post # 9
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252 posts
Helper bee

Haha hooray for loner bees @jacquelinesc84…..yes partner they are great to have but don’t quite hit the same spot as girlie friends. Thanks for sharing your struggle with me

Post # 10
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76 posts
Worker bee

Definitely finding a new job! Right now I’m working at a wedding design company and I love it but it’s just a casual job, weekends and evenings. My other job is working in a restaurant, which I am planning to quit once I find a new job, I really dislike it an I dread going in everyday and I’m a pretty positive person. The constant rude customers have really gotten to me. Besides I’m looking for something I’d like to do long term. I really love elderly people and I’ve been applying for positions as an activity assistant/director in an elderly home which I would really really love to do. I’ve applied to quite a few places and have only gotten one call back, I was really excited as their ad said they needed someone to help start the program. Their ad only had the general area and when she gave me the address and I looked it up it ended up being an hour away from me (almost 3 including traffic), so I decided to turn that one down. The rest still haven’t gotten back to me and it’s been quite awhile, and I’m still currently applying to more. I’ve just been really down as it’s something I can see myself doing and I’d really love to. I just wish I could get an interview (even a phone interview) because I’m pretty sure they would like me.

Post # 11
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521 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

Everyone pretending their lives are perfect on social media annoys me…

Our biggest struggle right now is saving up for a down payment for a home. It’s such a huge stressor for us because we live in a high COL area and want to buy sooner rather than later because of how much home prices keep rising here! But we’ve got student and auto loans, plus regular life expenses so saving enough will take us a few years. We’re caught between being able to buy sooner, but having to spend 1.5 -3 hours/ day commuting or waiting and buying in a better area. 

Post # 12
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124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I got laid off from my job of 8 years in November, right at the time that I discovered a friend with way less experience than me (like, none) was hired at the same company in a similar role. I know I wasn’t laid off for performance. The company recently eliminated pensions for new hires and they flat out told me to reapply in a year once my old benefits no longer “bridge” – they’d love to have me back at a lower pay rate and with fewer benefits!  Financially we’re fine but I went from working 60 hours a week to zero and I’m antsy everyday trying to decide what to do from here! I’m driving SO crazy!

Post # 13
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399 posts
Helper bee

happybunny177:  I’ve been diagnosed with personality disorder with borderline and narcissistic tendencies.  Not by my therapist or anyone on my health care team, but by an ICBC appointed psychiatrist I met once for 6 hours, while battling ICBC (car insurance in BC Canada) over a no fault car accident I was in almost 4 years ago.  This diagnosis was used against me so the insurance company didn’t have to fairly compensate me.  They used everything that’s happened in my life against me, because hey being raped at 14 & 15 is why my chronic pain is not getting any better 20 years later.

I have chronic pain which means I may never work in a full time capacity again.  I go to a hospital once a week to get freezing injections in my low back so that I can function without crippling pain for a few days.

My best friend, sister from another mister died on December 23rd and I feel completely lost without her. 

I barely leave my house as I’m terrified about everything and anything…is that car going to atop at that stop sign; or do they have the mentality of the 2 drivers I encountered who thought a stop sign is more of a suggestion?  Am I being followed?  ICBC had private investigators following me to catch me doing anything I claimed was difficult for me.  Am I going to get in to too much pain to be able to walk home?  Am I going to have a panic attack for no particular reason?  Was that a car exhaust backfiring or am I being shot at *again*?

I have a wonderfully supportive SO, but sometimes life can just be frikking hard 🙁

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 4 months ago by  michkarose.
Post # 14
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1436 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

skplue:  Snap! I’m really worried about being able to afford our own place and being trapped in generation rent. I have a fantastic job that pays well and would be considered a higher earner so I just don’t understand how it’s not possible yet. I’ve finished saving for the wedding so now saving for the deposit but so worried the goal posts might shift. Unfortunately, unlike most of our friends who have been able to get on the ladder, we don’t have parental help like they have told me they received. 

I’m also worried about a lump in my throat but finally have a date for surgery before the wedding. They don’t believe it is likely to be nasty but they will biopsy. It will be great peace of mind and will hopefully alleviate the associated ear pain but with my family’s history of cancer, there’s a little niggle I’m worried about.

Finally, it’s the anniversary of my mum’s death and I am missing her so much. I think this year has actually hit me harder than last year as I’m ever more aware she won’t be at my wedding. Not technically a worry but definitely a current mental struggle.

Post # 15
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299 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I also hate fake “pretend I’m happy” social media but I also hate “woe is me” too.  How I handle my social media post, I’m truthful, tell about tough things I face, bad days and frustrations. But I never post when it’s drama!!! I went through a ton where people were trying to ruin my wedding and destroying my & my soon to be hubby’s reputation. I wouldn’t let them see the tears or they won. Instead I happily posted about my wedding plans, because I’m truly happy. 

I refuse to post about drama, straight on or vaguely.  I steer clear of politics to prevent comment wars in my post.  I try not be offensive, try to be happy because I’m truly that way.  It’s just how I am.  Yes I don’t always post all the ugly parts, but I don’t think I’m fake.

FYI, my rant is because part of my tears today were because I had to remove a post. Because I offended someone by wording something wrong, someone missunderstood. My post was to honor the passing a old family friend. I seriously can’t win. 

 

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