What are your current life struggles?

posted 3 years ago in Wellness
Post # 31
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31 posts
Newbee

Working two nursing jobs so that I can help my mom pay her bills. Having to live paycheck to paycheck even though I make good money is very frustrating. Feels good to say it! 

Post # 32
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332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Finances. Trying so hard to keep Fiance and I afloat until hours increase for him at his job.  His ex and the drama surrounding his daughter. Trying to adjust to being a parent figure of sorts (and not get walked all over) when we do have his young daughter at the house. Worrying about my own fertility and if I will miss out on having a child and then regret it, because of the life I have chosen. My dear grandpa is dying of lung cancer. FI’s sister, who I don’t get along with, is chronically ill and we have been taking her children overnight a lot, so I often have a full house of little ones and feel like I dont have any down time.  I have depression and anxiety that I struggle with all day every day.

That felt good. I will say, I am blessed and fortunate and despite my struggles I try to spend some time each day practicing gratitude. Life can really be very overwhelming sometimes and it is easy to get so overwhelmed that I forget to appreciate things like… waking up this morning.

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 3 months ago by  lolita1027.
Post # 33
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740 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I’ve been struggling with the idea of pushing the wedding back until next year – this year hasn’t gone the way I hoped and I feel like we’re more stressed than happy lately. His job has become all-encompassing, its left me a little bitter and uncertain. Wedding planning has begun feeling like more of a distraction than anything, so I think it’s best to turn our planned honeymoon into a much-needed vacation and get married next Spring instead. I also have my first two big exams this coming week! Stress is high 😎

Post # 34
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4277 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I choose to be happy most of the time because if I sat and complained about everything that I am struggling with it would get me down.  Sure, on Facebook I don’t often share the negative things that are happening in my life, but I choose not to let my life be defined by the things that aren’t great.

My biggest daily struggle is my struggle with Crohn’s disease.  It affects my life every single day.  I feel much better than I used to, but it can be exhausting having digestive issues almost daily.  I actually came out about this publicly on Facebook about a month ago and I had so many friends who were really surprised because they had no idea –I was hiding it for the past 10 years.

My job is also a struggle just getting things done.  It is stressful because like every teacher I do not have enough hours in the day to get things done, plus the stress of having what is basically 2 jobs piled on my plate.  I have the equivalent of 18 classes and it’s getting to be a lot to balance.

But…I choose to look at the positives.  Even though I have Crohn’s disease, I don’t let it control my life.  Even though my job is stressful I still have a job that I love doing.  Life is too short to let things get you down.

Post # 35
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9548 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

Well I’m 4 years into my PhD and my advisor got denied tenure. Luckily he got a job at a new university, but this means that I have to drive 10 hours round trip once a week to run my experiments, for the next year, until I graduate. This also includes spending 3 days a week away from home. FML.

Also, I have a 31 year old manchild living with us for the past 8 months. He doesn’t clean up after himself, he doesn’t work, he never leaves the f-ing house and he sleeps all day and stays up all night. He constantly undermines my authority and is disrespectful towards me. My Darling Husband won’t stand up to him or ask him to pay us for rent/bills (or give him a definitive date to GTFO). I told him 2 weeks ago he’s got to go, and during that convo he admitted using us/taking full advantage of us and his situation. 2 days ago I woke up and our front door had been left wide open. It was 18 degrees outside and the cat (a purebred Ragdoll) was missing. I’m not sure how much longer I can live with this human turd. He’ll eventually leave for what I’ve been calling his “Eat Pray Love” journey, where he plans on traveling to 20+ countries. Must be nice to get to live bill free for 8 months so that you can travel the world and soul search. Wish I could do that.

Post # 36
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284 posts
Helper bee

My biggest struggle right now is my anxiety.  It is consuming my life.  I am on meds but the only ones that seem to work are the benzo’s that I can’t take every day.  I’m tired all the time because I don’t get quality sleep even when I sleep for 8 hours plus.  But I’m trying to manage with meds, exercise, journaling, yoga,  gratitude.

i’ve also been looking for work but it appears that my prayers may have been answered, so I’m so beyond grateful! 

Post # 37
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494 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Learning to live with Cancer. Understanding how effects my daily life and the people around me. Luckily I’m able to work part time from home, but I need benefits. 

Also dealing with an incredibly sweet teenager (my son) but he is Dad is a bit of a f-off who just quit his job of 16 years to just “relax”. We’ve never had a parenting agreement so he sees him when it’s convenient for him. We don’t live in the same area (2 hours away). His Dad flakes on him, a lot, which in return I get backlash from my son. We’re working on it, but it’s not fun. At times I feel like I have two kids… my son and his Dad. 

Post # 38
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1941 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - City, State

Finances. Fiance is in school and not working. We are able to take a big vacation this year because of some great sales but i told him we NEED to cut back on our (his) spending but he seems incapable so i feel like I have to babysit his spending. He just doesn’t seem to get it and I know it’s because he’s had everything handed to him his whole life but man is it frustrating. I don’t know how to get through to him. 

Post # 39
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1839 posts
Buzzing bee

We are adjusting to life with a new puppy. We love her dearly, but wow–all free time goes to exercising, socializing, classes, training, potty breaks, etc. — and we have no time to ourselves anymore. It’s so very worth it, but it’s a struggle at times. 

Post # 40
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760 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Dealing with severe depression. Surviving every single hour is a struggle. I am in a lot of pain and am emotionally, physically and mentally exhausted. It’s been 3 months I am on meds/in treatment and despite some days seeing some progress, some days I just want to give up.

Post # 41
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125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Currently…my mom passed away 1 month ago and today is her memorial.  🙁

Post # 42
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3245 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

The money and logistics around my SO and I moving in together. The area we picked is a place we’d both have to pick up and move to, so trying to sort out the cost and logistics of both of us moving on top of trying to find work and a place to live in a location neither one of us live in has not been fun. I try to remind myself we still have 18-24 months to sort everything out by our deadline, but we’d much rather do it sooner than later if we can.

Post # 43
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5752 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

Working on buying my dream house in the Bay Area.

Everything else in my life that I’ve ever wanted or wished for has come about in the last several years and I’m deeply grateful for all of it. It feels like this is my last hurdle to truly living the life of my dreams (which I never could have imagined having 15 years ago) and I’m feeling pretty impatient about it all. Especially when I see friends who live in other states and have large homes with mortgages equal to what I pay to rent a 2 bedroom apartment!

Post # 44
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309 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

My family is slowly drifting apart as we grow older and our lives are taking different paths. It’s sad. My parents are not in the best of health so trying to ensure everything is good with them is sometimes a task. I feel sad about my job and that i am not moving forward. I don’t feel as though I’m great at something. My SO is an amazing programmer and the joy he gets from doing it makes me wish I had some sort of gift as well. 

Post # 45
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521 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

autumn_amber: 

I’m so sorry to hear about your mother & your surgery! That must be terrifying and of course, it’s difficult to get over the loss of a loved one… Especially when you have a big event coming up. Hearing about stuff like this really makes me sad because I understand how difficult coping can be, even after some times has passed. I hope your biopsy turns out to be nothing dangerous!!

Housing is crazy isn’t it? Where we live $800k in a better area still gets you an old, outdated/ run down house. When my parents bought 15ish years ago, you could get a similar condition home in a slightly farther location for about $300k. That’s a small condo now! I have no idea how anyone can afford to buy a home. Like you guys, we aren’t getting help either. Sometimes I’m sad about that because our siblings get lots of help from our parents, but we don’t. It’s okay though, when we are able to buy our own home it’ll be 100% us.

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