Post # 76
- Wedding: May 2016 - San Clemente Church, Italy
annabelle90: I had tears in my eyes reading your post because I lived this hell many years. There is a piece of federal legislation called the Violence Against Women Act that may apply to your employer if they meet the requirements.
VAWA requires that your job “accommodate” you, provide increased security and some other enforcement provisions that may be useful to you. Hiring your rapist would be in contravention of their legal obligations under VAWA. Please contact your local domestic violence agency for lawyers like me who are passionate about these cases and take them pro bono.
If you ever need to reach out, you are welcome to PM me. If you need help locating resources in your community, I’m happy to help you find someone. All the very best to you.
Post # 77
Biggest struggle. Considering if I want to leave the company I have been working at for the last 9 years. I have no where else to move up at, and honestly, I find myself quite unhappy here. I’m not one to make big deicisions like that, I have to weigh my pro’s and con’s. Currently interviewed at another place, but not sure I want to make that jump if I was offered. We still haven’t nailed down a TTC time, and if we decided to do it around a particular month, moving jobs would not be a wise choice.
Sigh, adulting is hard.
Post # 78
I just want to say this thread really helped me put into perspective my own life worries. I get so caught up on whether I’m competitive enough in my career, am I progressing as quickly as I should, am I as “successful” as my friends/sisters and I get down when I feel I’m not “up to snuff”. I’ve been in one of those down periods lately and this thread really helped me snap out of it and appreciate that I have my health, I have a stable income, I have a really healthy relationship and a lovely pup. Everything that I feel I *don’t* have are super minor in comparison.
I hope all you bees struggling with health and financial worries have positive upswings coming your way!!
Post # 79
I moved to a new country a year ago. On paper my life looks pretty awesome, I get to travel alot with my husband, finances are great so don’t have to work which gives me the time to get my Masters degree. But I get really worried and stressed out that I won’t be able to find a job this time next year when I graduate and move back home. I loved my old job and I really miss working (I’m not able to work as a Nurse in the USA). It will break my heart if I wont be able to get a similar job in the same area when we return home. I also haven’t made any real friends in the year that I have been living here. My husband works really long hours I am pretty lonely.
Post # 80
I just found out I’m pregnant and I’m terrified I’m going to lose the baby. Not for any particular reason, I’m just terrified and I’m in so much more PAIN than I thought I would be at this stage. Cramps like terrible period pains for the whole of the last week which wake me up at night, nausea and pure exhaustion.
I just feel so helpless!
Post # 81
Work… I’m bored yet currently too lazy to look for something else.
Education. Need to go back to finish my degree. Been dragging my feet on it.
School loan debt. Too much of it.
And finally coming to terms with the reality that I probably won’t have biological children at this point.
Post # 82
vintagekitten: I’m so glad you got to read my words. I was really touched by your story because I’ve been there myself with a mum sick. Treasure your time with her and you take care x
Post # 83
annabelle90 : i was reading this thread- i know this is old but if I were in your shoes I would hire a PI to scoop some dirt up on your stalker so you can have him arrested! I bet he makes infractions all the time- a PI will be able to watch him and document it.
Post # 84
Currently I’m just trying to deal with my family. I love my family, but they drive me crazy! Last year I lost my job and moved back home with my parents. Not exactly my proudest moment, as I am 27. But I am trying to make it work.
But the house we live in is very small. My parents rent it but now they are wanting to buy a house. My sister still lives with us, and we would all be helping to pay the mortgage. It’s just stressful because my parents have had so much time to buy a house previously and now that they are close to retirement, they only have so much money they can spend.
My sister and I both have our own goals of home ownership. So we don’t want to spend too much as we need to save also. It just makes the situation hard. My parents also are very picky on the type of house we would live in.
I’m also dealing with the fact that I have a relationship where I’m not sure where I stand. My bf is having a lot of money issues. His hours vary greatly depending on how much work is available and what type of work he will be doing will affect his pay.
Since he’s been stressed about money I feel he has sort of just been focussing on his own problems. Which I totally get. But it’s hard to not feel neglected, especially since I have been so supportive, even though I am stressing out about my life as well. I just want to know where we stand. He doesn’t spend much time with me as he is stressed out or is busy or feels bad because he can’t really spend any money on dates or anything.
I’ve let him know I am perfectly okay with free dates. I’ve also paid for stuff for us as well. I have no issue with that, all I want is his time and I let him know that. But he still resists. I’m not sure if it’s due to lack of interest or his need to be the guy who can take me out on dates and stuff.