Post # 1
I know no wedding is perfect, but making sure my guests are happy and comfortable is very important to me – mainly bc other than marrying my man, the PEOPLE are the most important.
Anyway, there is no parking at our (i must say amazing) venue in Malibu so guests will be bused up to the top of the hill. Because of this people will be arriving in staggard groups. The invite says 3:30 start time but the reality is some people probably won’t even arrive to the parking lot for the bus until then. So, I intend to walk down the aisle no later than 4pm. I’d rather my guests be waiting on each other than on me. What do you think?
Finally, we are providing a bit of pre-wedding entertainment. The DJ will play some music, there will be the guest book to sign and snacks made by my stepfather. We are also excited to have one of our signature drinks that will be served as they get off the bus. We’ll have flavored water too and parisols for if it is super sunny. Finally there is an amazing view of the malibu mountains and the ocean so hopefully people will want to take photos.
Unfortuantely I still fear people will be upset they had to wait. I’m also a tad worried that my veil is going to blow all over the place but I can get over that. What do you think?
What are your “day of fears?” and how can we all brainstorm on ways to combat them?
Post # 3
A certain major family member causing a scene, or not showing up at all, but they’re still listed in the program (so people will know they were going to come and then bailed). Not showing up at all is better, but I feel like people will keep asking why ‘X’ is not there every chance they get.
That alone is why initially I was set on eloping and then going on an amazing honeymoon.
I’m also worried A LOT more people will RSVP NO than we anticipated, and we’ll be put into the embarassing situation of practically begging people to come to the wedding.
Post # 4
My day of fear would be that I start balling hysterically as I am walking down the aisle and/or not being able to say my vows because I will be crying so hard. Ugh! Hate being over emotional!
Post # 5
– Ugly crying. I am the worst crier (I get all red faced and blotchy and bloodshot eyes) and I’m super emotional.
– FI’s brother (the best man) will be late. (At this point, I’m hoping that he backs out of the wedding altogether.) And/or leave early, for that matter, since that’s what he and his wife always do.
– My mother’s gross boyfriend bitching about anything and everything.
– My cousin bringing her (not invited) gross boyfriend, despite his name not being on the invitation and the prepared statements I have if she asks.
Post # 6
RAIN!!!!!! We have a back up plan incase it rains but I am praying for a nice day!
I’m also a little worried that my flower girls (our nieces- an infant and a 10 month old who are just being carried down the isle and then handed off to their grandma and mommy respectively) will cry during the ceremony. If they do i guess its ok but I’m espeically worried that th infant will cry because her mommy and daddy are in the bridal party and the mommy is my Maid/Matron of Honor. And really the only other person who the parents would want holding her if she cried is my FI’s mother and I really dont her, my Maid/Matron of Honor or our croomsman to miss any of the ceremony….
My last worry is that my FI’s grandma will make a scene..
So basically all things that are out of my control…..who would have thought….;)
Post # 7
– my photographer not showing up (although this is unfounded as she hasn’t given me any reason to doubt her, it’s just a fear)
– my guests thinking it’s boring (also unfounded, we are totally not boring! Lol)
– ugly crying through the wedding ceremony (I am not a pretty crier)
– having bad pictures (hello double chin. Although if my photographer doesn’t show up this won’t be a problem!)
– having it go by too quickly (this will happen, nothing I can do about it. Hopefully the photographer DOES show up to capture it!)
Post # 8
Literally everything. Especially anytime I have to talk.
Anxiety is the worst. Luckily wine exists and my church is very laid-back.
Post # 9
lovelyduckie I know what you mean. I unfortuantely have this fear for my own brother BUT he isn’t in the program so I see why you have an added worry.
I also agree with you girls about “ugly crying” and uninvited guests.
Oh my goodness, now I’m gaining more fears. No-SHow photographer – yikes… RAIN!?! We don’t have a specific back up plan b/c it is Malibu in September but ugh that would stink.
Post # 10
i was only worried about the weather. it was actually giving me anxiety (i shouldnt have worried as much as i did) but we planned on an outside wedding and although they had a beautiful indoor option i always saw myself getting married in the garden – and we did!!!!! the rain held off for us to get married, mingle outside and get pics outside too!!! i was so happy.
Post # 11
Well, I’m already married, but I remember my fears quite vividly.
I was terrified a vendor wouldn’t show up or would show up very late. To prevent this, I called every vendor a week or two in advance to confirm the exact time they would show up even if they’d told me before, make sure they knew exactly where to go and who to find when they got there, and put all the arrival times in a spreadsheet with the vendor’s name and contact info (cell phone when possible). Then I made copies of that spreadsheet, kept one for me with my cell, and gave the others to my Mother-In-Law, venue coordinators, and Maid/Matron of Honor.
I kept envisioning myself tripping in my poofy dress while walking down our very long, uneven flagstone aisle with stone stairs in two places. Well…I didn’t trip, because I decided that as a clumsy person, I was just going to hold up the front part of my dress so the stairs wouldn’t trip me up. Not the most graceful move, but I didn’t fall! I just wish I’d remembered not to let my bouquet arm swing while I was walking.
Also was afraid of rain, and 17-year-old me that said I’d never get married outside and put myself through that unnecessary torture kept saying “I told you so” in my head. Luckily, it didn’t rain, though you’d better believe I had a really solid rain plan with a windowed, chandaliered tent on a redwood deck overlooking our venue.
I was worried guests would see me before I walked down the aisle since I was taking photos near the ceremony site. They did. And when they did I did not care. I was like, “Do you know that I am getting married?! In like fifteen minutes I am getting MARRIED!” It was kind of fun seeing some people right before the ceremony in retrospect, and I think they got a kick out it, too.
Post # 12
Soooo many, here’s a few: weather, ugly crying, my make-up looking bad, double chin in pictures, messing up the vows since I am being forced to memorize them, priest making a rude comment, food being bad, limo not showing up, people having a bad time, getting my dress dirty, my mom complaining about everything, talking to everyone, dancing… basically everything. Oh lord, basically the whole wedding!!!
Post # 13
@FortiesFlare: hahaha I am dying…these are mine exactly as well. For pics, I’m worried about double chin, backfat and arm wobble.
Post # 14
Shaking – When I get nervous or adrenaline is up I shake pretty bad. Crying – Although I usually never cry in front of people this will be the biggest day of my life. Make-up – No matter what make-up or who does it I always seem to have raccoon eyes. Unflattering pictures, food not being great, kids being bad. Boy the list goes on… Right now I’m stalking the weather and it says rain. Wanted the ceremony outside.