(Closed) what are your ideal baby making ages?

posted 12 years ago in Babies
Post # 62
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

my mom had kids when she was 24 and 26.  I’m already going to be 26 next week and there is no way I’m ready to have babies yet!  30 is what we’ve been saying lately, but now that I’m going to be 26 next week 30 seems really close and I don’t feel like I’ve lived my life the way I want to yet.  I’m selfish and I want to be happy and figure out my career and travel before a kid comes into my life.  With the way things are going and how long my PhD is taking I’m not sure I’ll have done all those things by 30.

Post # 63
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Worker bee

I’m 24 and our first baby is due in September. My husband is 32. We’ll probably be done having kids when I’m 30-32.

Post # 64
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Newbee

I’m 21 and I want to start right away.  I want a really big family (4-5 kids) so I’ll probably be having kids in my mid 30’s.. haha

Post # 65
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I just had my first child at 23 and I think that 25 to 35 would be ideal. I think basicly when you are stable and with with enough income to provide for them.

Post # 66
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i will be freshly 27 when we tie the knot in september… Fiance and i don’t plan on trying until i’m at least done with law school, which by then, I will be 29  a few months shy of 30..

ideally i’d like to have my first child at 32, second at 34, and maybe another at 35 🙂

then we’ll be done.

Post # 67
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Helper bee

I want kids young so I’m in that small group too. I’m 22, 23 in October, not engaged (yet….soon though) and not getting married till 2012 so that would put me at 24/25. I want to be done having kids by the time I’m 30ish. And being that I want like 4 kids, the clock is ticking! Haha!

Post # 68
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Busy bee

I originally wanted to start when I turned twenty five…which was two weeks ago hehehehe

Post # 69
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

No worries to all the ladies worried about their FI’s being older. My dad (who was 27 years older than my mum) had my brother when he was 56 and me when he was 60! He still managed to keep up with us at the playground. He did pass away when I was 12 but that was due to a disease. Point of this is to have hope!

Post # 70
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I, too, sort of romanticize being pregnant and being a mom in my 20’s. But ideally I’d like to wait until I’m 30 to have a kid (I’m 23 now) !

Post # 71
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I am hoping 32- 33…  I will be 31 when I get married, and some of my friends think it may be late, but honestly, I feel lucky that I am getting married and have some leverage to look ahead! 

Post # 72
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We’re aiming to start TTCing a year after the wedding – so I’ll be 27, Fiance 31. Depends on how the career is going though.  Fiance wants to be a young dad because his father is older.

Post # 73
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I plan on being at least 30 before I start having kids. Who knows if that will happen, but I’m 22 now– we’re hoping to travel for 1-2 years and still both want to do some type of graduate studies. He’s pretty ambitious and I dont think I’d want to have kids even if only one of us was still a student. You never know though I suppose, but I know having kids right now or even in the near future is a definate “no.” Its hard with all the baby fever I’m experiencing on facebook with everyone I know getting knocked up but (even though this sounds snobby) I have more ambition than a part time job at Tim Hortons and a nursery in my room located in my parents basement!!  

Post # 74
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I used to think that i wanted to have children in my mid to late thirties. I always felt I had to much to do and see before then. But now I think I prefer to have them in the next few years- I’m 25, will be 26 once i’m married. My parents waited until they were in their mid thirties and in all honesty, as they grow older and I need to help care for them, I don’t want to put that burden on my children when they are my age. It’s really hard to balance a fresh career, a wedding, and parents in poor health. I also know that my OBGYN said that chance for birth defect dramatically increase after the age of thirty….

Post # 75
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Melissa- I have said almost the same thing- “Why can’t my two year old biological child magically show up on our doorstep?”

FH and I are both 30.  FH won’t finish residency for 3-4 more years.  We are fine financially.  Having a baby wouldn’t be great for my career, but it’s not going to be better or worse than it is now.  Emotionally/mentally, I am so NOT READY.  I am guessing we’ll have our first around 33 or 34- we want two kids, and I don’t want to wait longer than that for health issues, but really hoping I am mentally ready by then.

Post # 76
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We agreed to stop preventing two months ago, and now we’re actually starting to “try” this third cycle. I will be 24 soon, hubby is 25.  Ideal for me has always been 25ish, so hopefully it happens within the year. After reading all the above posts I feel like this is young! But we’ve really enjoyed ourselves this past year of marriage, traveling a lot and doing whatever we want. But I’ve wanted a child since I was a child myself and just feel ready. We’ve owned our house for nearly 3 years, have good jobs, financially stable, and are ready to tackle the challenges of parenthood! 

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