Post # 1
We want your submissions for a new WB article on bridesmaid gift ideas.
Reply to this thread with your best gift ideas for the modern bridesmaid! For those already married, what did you give your bridesmaids? For those about to be married, do you have something special planned?
We may feature your entry in an upcoming article!
Post # 2
Buy the stinking dress instead of making them waste their own money on something they don’t want and then handing them a trinket that they probably also don’t want as a way of saying thanks.
Granted some parts of the world do that already. In those cases, the gift should be like any other gift – something that individual person actually desires or enjoys. Like a favorite treat, gift card to a place they like to shop, tickets to a concert they’d love, etc.
I’ve only been a bridesmaid once. I got a purple clutch to match the purple dress I had already bought. I’ve never worn/used either again. Waste of money and although at the time that was considered an appropriate thank you for participating in a wedding (mid 2000s), these days it’s just an empty, useless reward.
Post # 3
I let my bridesmaids wear whatever they wanted, paid for them to have their hair and makeup done, and bought them personalized gift boxes from boxfox. I filled each woman’s box with treats and items I thought they would like. For example, one was geared toward food and cooking, another toward skin care and makeup, and another toward sports and the beach. It was fun picking out the items and they all seemed to get a kick out of it.
Post # 4
A good, useful product or memorable experience! Among other things, I got my girls a monogrammed Hydro Flask. They are great at maintaining proper temperature for hot and cold beverages. I asked everyone about their preferred monogram too!
I found black silk robes for the photos (not personalized, so they can use them again, though I am glad that this isn’t the only thing I gave them), paid for hair & makeup (not a gift, but saved them the expense) and for the bachelorette party, I found makeup bags on Etsy that had their first names printed with a nice cursive foil (about $6 each). Those were filled with little hangover cures.
In the article, please stress the important difference between photo props and genuine gifts! Photo props are robes, PJs, earrings and makeup that only serve to execute the bride’s vision for a day. Gifts are something to show gratitude for going through the whole fuss to support your marriage.
Post # 5
ibtyen : I gave my girls small modern stud earrings. This may be considered a prop by some, but I purposely chose something that was quite classic subtle and well made, rather than costume jewelry that can be difficult to wear again.
I also bought them each a small bottle of Moet champagne. This was not to drink on the day (I had other champagne for us to drink). I put this in a bag with their robe that said bridesmaid on the back (MIL purchased them otherwise I wouldn’t have used these) and a card with a long letter written inside about how much they mean to me.
Others may say this wasn’t much of a gift, however I also paid for dresses, hair and makeup and had them wear whatever shoes they wanted, so my wedding could have cost them nothing. I think that’s better than making them pay to be in the wedding and giving a more expensive gift.
Post # 6
I bought my bridesmaids a small Tiffany necklace, something that suited their styles and could be worn well after the wedding. They loved them, and two of my bridesmaids have been wearing it almost daily or daily since the wedding. I tried to pick something classic and understated that I knew they’d love. I didn’t ask for any special purchases, but everyone did decide to do their hair and makeup professionally. I wouldn’t have been able to afford to cover everyone’s hair and makeup appointments, so I told them it was totally optional. I told them to wear whatever shoes or jewelry they wanted, but they all wore the necklace I gave them. It looked cute and coordinated, since I also got one for my mom.
Post # 7
I think that a timeless piece of jewellery is okay and not necessarily a photo prop.
Wine is always a good idea (not for the day of any event).
I hate the idea of robes because the silk/satin ones aren’t practical since they are usually too sheer and won’t stay closed and terry cloth is too bulky.
The most important thing is to not, under any circumstances get anything with the wedding date, bride or groom name on them, or even the bridesmaids name on them. Pretty sure we all stopped buying items with our names on them long ago – and certainly wouldn’t want to be gifted that!
The best gift, imho would be for the bride to pay for the expensive dresses that will never be worn again.
Post # 8
If you expect them to use or wear it for your pics, it’s not a gift. Buy a gift chosen for each indiidual’s taste/ interest/hobbies. A group gift is rarely a thoughtful gift.
ps please don’t rationalize that a robe, jewelry etc is a gift that can be used again, so that makes it a gift. It doesn’t.
Post # 9
I sent them pictures of necklaces and asked them if they liked them and which ones. They all luckily liked the same one so I gave them that along with some drop pearl earrings. I made them each a box with makeup (brands and colors I knew each one liked) and self care items (sheet mask, bath bombs). I gifted them their shoes (neutral colored wedges they already have reused). I did ask them to wear their jewelry in the wedding except for one of them whose neckline didn’t look right with a necklace but I know they all wear those necklaces regularly and they’re silver and genuine diamond so it’s not like it was a cheapo thing. The earrings are 14k gold and cultured pearl and I’ve seen at least one of them reseating those. I do consider the jewelry a gift for that reason. I also go them substantial, super comfy robes that we didn’t end up doing a picture in but at least one of them I know uses it and I got myself the same one and use it all the time. If I’d gotten them a satin “bridesmaid” embroidered robe I wouldn’t consider that a gift I would consider it a prop. I’m seeing comments about prop vs gift and if it’s something of good quality that they like and will reuse feel like it can serve a dual purpose. I also had the photographer get a picture of them with their SOs that I will be framing and giving to them.
Post # 10
Just buy them the dress or let them use their own clothes!
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My favorite bridemaid experience, we all got variations on a theme based on what we like. Everyone got a bag, a gift card, a snack, a bottle and a book. So the fitness-loving bridesmaid got a new gym tote filled with a gift card for GNC, a purifying water bottle, some gourmet trail mix and a book of great hiking trails in the area where she lives. I was just about to move to Asia, so I got a Chinese silk purse, a bag of fortune cookies, a bottle of sake, a pocket language dictionary and a gift card for for some e-book downloads in case I had trouble finding an English book store. It was awesome, and so thoughtful!
Post # 13
Shop for them individually like you would for their birthday. A gift is supposed to be about the reciever so if it has anything to do with your wedding then it is not a gift for the reciever.
Post # 14
1. The bridesmaid dress that the bride want us to wear.
2. that the bride does not dictate specific appearances (shoes/pro makeup/pro hair) and can let us use what we have.
I don’t want earrings nor spa gift card – I can probably find better deal myself, or I might not even that. I would appreciate a spa gift, but the no 1 is much higher on the list if I can only choose one.
Post # 15
I am getting my bridesmaids the traditional props (Onsie’s for taking pictures, jewelery to wear on the wedding day, pashmina’s to wear for pics if it gets cold) but then I am also getting them personalized things that they would enjoy. I’m purposely getting each a different necklace that they won’t wear the day of. I am getting also getting them personalized water bottles since 2 are workout buffs and one is an outdoors enthuisast! I am putting in my favorite pictures of us and other little things they will like.
To me, I want it to be more personalized to each person rather than just a bunch of props for the wedding day.