(Closed) What are your groom's duties for the wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 17
979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

-Men’s attire

-finalizing the ceremony (I did first draft, he and his Brother-In-Law are editing it, Brother-In-Law is our officiant)

– picking the mother/son dance song

– and building our ceremony backdrop


I don’t feel like I’m asking for much, but its like pulling teeth to get him to get this stuff done.  He did take a day off work today to build our ribbon wall/backdrop.

Post # 18
750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2001

Showing up

Post # 19
1416 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Buying his own attire.

Writing his own vows.

Getting his own friends/family’s addresses.

Showing up.


Post # 20
685 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Get a tux.  Put it on.  Show up.

Maybe shower.




Post # 22
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@kateisstoned:  He’s actually been pretty involved:

– designing and printing all of our stationery
– guys attire
– his friends/family friends/family addresses
– arranging transportation
– the entire honeymoon
– help select ceremony music
– getting the alcohol
– arrangements for the gift opening the day after
– dealing with his parents

Post # 23
5063 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

•  Honeymoon

• All the guys suits

• he is buying my dress

• helping plan details

• saying I do

Post # 24
2961 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

He asked to have the duty of picking the music and dealing with the DJ.


Other than that…he wrangled all of him Groomsmen together months ago (before he moved to america) to pick their suits, and he has to show up sober to our ceremony on the day. We will be in Vegas, he won’t have seen his friends for months, and we have a nighttime ceremony so that kinda stresses me out.


Post # 25
2440 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Nothing Undecided Lazy bum…. Actually, he’s been in charge of bankrolling a good deal of it, in spite of the fact that he’d ratehr just elope. That’s sort of how we’re handling things. 🙂


Crazy guy doesn’t even want to help plan the honeymoon! He gets stressed out and shuts down #wtfisupman

Post # 26
8575 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

He’ll be in charge of all the bachlor party related things [along with his gromsmen], I don’t really want anything to do with it.

He’ll also be helping us decorate the day before. [he’ll be hanging the organza & chadaliers on the ceiling.

Otherwise, he just needs to show up!

There have been other aspects that we have worked on together, such as the theme, colors & honeymoon, but he wasn’t responsible for them 100%.

Post # 27
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

My groom is helping a lot, especially with things that are special. We are planning our ceremony together with our rabbi, picking music together, picking food together. 

His most important job is to give anyone a hard time when they don’t get back to me 🙂 One time I emailed and called my venue three times over two weeks and didn’t hear back, so he called them and they got right back to us! Funny how getting another person involved can accompish that. So from now on if anyone gives me problems he’s on it! And that’s what partners should do.

Post # 28
2902 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

My Fiance is doing all the flower design (lol)

Mens attire


These are his main things but he is involved in every aspect. 

Post # 29
633 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

He doesn’t have duties…we’re planning together and we’ll handle most of the decisions together.  I’m actually leaning towards hitting up the courthouse as this point, but he’s resisting that!

Post # 30
33 posts
  • Wedding: August 2013

My groom has planned and organised everything except my dress. we talk over ideas etc but he has been the one who has put the vision into place. Vision is something I struggle with Unless its there i front of me.

Post # 31
3451 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013


  • handling his own attire and that of his groomsmen

  • pick up cognac in duty free

  • arriving in Destination Wedding locale 2 days before me in order to purchase all groceries (we’re stocking guests’ fridges with a few items), oversee alcohol deliveries and season/prep the meat for our self-catered welcome BBQ

  • making all arrangements with the officiant

  • handling any and all photography related matters
  • designing any printing/signage outside of what I’ve already done (you want a program for a 30 minute ceremony? Yeah, you’re gonna have to crank that out on your own)
  • Making arrangements for his groom’s cake (upon which he insists, but I’m pretty sure no one will eat because black cake is effing disgusting)

  • Doing each and every thing pertaining to the at-home reception the following weekend (which I think is stupid, and barely even agreed to attend)

  • talking me down off ledges, as needed

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