(Closed) What are your irrational pregnancy/birth fears?

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
975 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I don’t really have any irrational fears, but I am terrified that I’ll end up with another C section. 

Post # 3
307 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Okay I can think of a few: #1 might be that despite my wishes of not having any family or friends visit me & the baby until after I’m home…that somehow some way one of my in-laws will show up and take a raggedy picture of me immediately post-labor and post it to social media. Secondly, I worry that anytime I get upset during pregnancy I’ll be impacting my  baby somehow neurologically – not sure if that’s a thing but it just seems possible. Another is what if when I start interviewing doctors and hospitals that I will find ALL of them to be too intense and aggressive, but that ALL of the midwives and doulas will be too “woo” and spiritual yoga people that I just can’t 100% be sure about…let’s just say I’ve already started looking, and if they claim to be a Reiki master, they are prob not for me. That being said, I’m pretty distrustful the hospital business… Praying I find some honest moderate types out there. Lastly, I worry that I will faint when I go into labor or at some point during the delivery. Not entirely irrational…usually I faint or come close to it at least once every 2 yrs over something since I was a child..not a health “condition”, just sensitive to dehydration and pretty strong medical phobia (I once even fainted after reading an article about a surgery). 

Post # 4
197 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015 - Bali

I’m terrified than I’m infertile. I have nothing to base this on, yet the fear is still there.

Post # 5
1586 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I had a fear that when I went into labor i would be so afraid to deliver that I would just end up delivering at home or in the car on the way to the hospital. I also have a irrational fear of needles so i had 2 fears when it came to the epidural… either that id be too afraid to get it, reaulting in unbearable and traumatic labor or that if I did get it I would jump during the procedure resulting in paralyzing myself.

All in all… I made it to the hospital and it turns out my labor went so fast and becauee of that I was strong enough to bear the labor pains without the epidural and I made I out alive with a happy healthy baby girl

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Post # 6
953 posts
Busy bee

I’m older. I have a terrible fear something is wrong with the baby. 

I’m scared I’ll gain more weight. I’m at the heaviest I’ve ever been already. I’ve always been very tiny with my other pregnancies. This time I’m 30 pounds heavier already and my metabolism has really slowed down. I don’t want to end up huge after and unable to lose it. 

I have done it every time…but…I don’t want to poop on the delivery table. 


Post # 7
1214 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

If you want, I can scare the crap out of all of you with my scary birth stories. 10 days in the hospital each time. First time, low amniotic fluid, baby was failure to thrive, the placenta wasn’t attached properly and aging too quickly, the cord had 1 artery and 1 vein. My body wouldn’t go into labor so I had a section after 3 days of pit. What a let down. Then I developed preeclampsia, an allergic reaction to reglan, and there are about 4 days of my life I don’t remember. My mom held my baby to my breast so I could nurse because she knew how important that was to me. She was 4 lbs 7 oz and only 2 weeks early. Second time- what a doozie. HELLP syndrome, which is a terrible form of preeclampsia, at 29 weeks. It was my sisters wedding and I didn’t want to ruin it. Pretty much I thought I had the mild flu. Until the nausea got so bad and I thought I was dying. I was. My liver quit working, my kidneys shut down, I had retained so much fluid and looked like a marshmellow, and I had hardly any platelets so I lost a ton of blood in that section. She was 2 lbs 2 oz at birth and spent 6 weeks in the NICU. 

By The Way… I gained 75 pounds with my first and 60 with my second. Totally not fair because they were so small!

Post # 8
698 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I had a major mind-spiral last night with a big fear.  As backstory, on our US, they detected two cysts in baby’s brain. They are considered soft markers for a couple of chromosome problems, so we had to go for extra blood testing. Well, last night, I started freaking out that the results are going to come back positive and that either our baby is going to be stillborn or I’m going to have to have a late term abortion. UGH. 

Post # 10
2838 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Pappy8:  I share your fears regarding the epidural needle!! I am seriously scared of it.

PeachyMama:  A friend of mine nearly died from HELLPs while delivering twins (ended up nearly bleeding to death with an emergency c-section). It is very scary indeed. I’m sorry you went through that but I’m glad you are here to tell the story!

Aside from the epidural, I fear a long labor (basically anything >8 hours, IMO). I also fear getting a c-section. I fear something will be wrong with my baby that I could have prevented.

Post # 11
692 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

1. I am SUPER squeemish when it comes to blood.  I’m scared if they show me the baby still coated in blood I’ll pass out.  I also can’t do needles, hopefully if I feel I need an epidural since its in my back I won’t freak so much (if I catch sight of a giant needle though…..)

2. I am also worried about weight gain (aren’t we all?).  I went into this heavier than I wanted to be, I had intended to start an exersize regimen to shed a few pounds while we TTC, but work ramped up so I hadn’t started yet and, well, this happened sooner than we anticipated!  Going to start a more pregnancy friendly exersize next week, once my last art show for awhile finishes up.

Post # 12
1214 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Yeah guys… No more babies for me! I have my two and my step and they are all wonderful. My sister, on the other hand, has amazing birth stories that followed her plan step by step. So you never know! Have your irrational fears, but have peace that if things do go to hell, modern medicine is capable of miracles. They saved me and my children.

Post # 13
861 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

newbabybee:  I had a medically necessary c-section and also worried incessantly that I would go into labour before the c-section. Then there was a huge flood that cut-off our hospital access, so I was imagining me in labour, on the roof of our condo, getting choppered away! Anyway, long story short, 4 days before my scheduled c-section my water broke when I was randomly just lying on the couch. I never went into labour at all, so when I went in for my emergency c-section, we were actually the back of the line for emergency c-sections, so we just waited in triage for 12 hours before we finally got the surgery. The whole thing was actually kind of boring. 

Post # 14
6292 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

Not sure if it’s exactly irrational since it can/does happen, but I worry at least a little every day that I will have a MC. No reason to think so and no family history of any issues but every little pain or weird feeling makes me worry we wont see a healthy poppy seed at our first scan next week. 🙁

Post # 15
2639 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

waitingwonderland:  I used to faint/pass out quite a bit when I was younger, so I know what you’re talking about. 

My biggest fears are massive amounts of ripping during delivery, and, pre-potential-pregnancy,  cervical cancer. I have very high risk HPV and have gone through cryotherapy (freezing off precancerous cells). I’ve had some odd symptoms, lately, but my next pap is in a few weeks, so we’ll see how things are going. Just scared. 

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