(Closed) What are your irrational pregnancy/birth fears?

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

Mine were a little bit more truly irrational. I was terrified that my kid would be a dwarf (I have NO idea why.. it doesn’t run in either family and even if he was, oh well) and I was also scared he’d have one of those giant port wine birthmarks across his face. I had no reason to suspect either of these things, but I was obsessed.

Then at my 20 week ultrasound they told me they thought he might have a chromosone disorder and we had to have an amnio and wait 2 weeks for the results. They thought he had a trisomy. Once we found out that he was totally healthy and had no disorders it put the stupid fears into perspective.

Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I’m afraid I’ll die during childbirth. 

When I was little my horrible mother was pregnant all the time. Seriously, she had tons of kids.

I was a teeny tiny little kid. And when I was 4ish, she told me that if I were ever to get pregnant I would probably die. It’s stuck with me all these years. I plan on seeking therapy for it. Ugh. 

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - Winery

I am a nurse and I have seen/read a lot of things. SO many horrible things can happen! I could never be nor would want to ever be a labor/delivery nurse. HELL NO. I’m a super emotional person and I could not handle it. MY number one fear about having a baby is the birth process itself. Placental misattachment, placental tear, having a complication and the baby gets stuck, tearing my vagina open straight to my anus. I mean, the list is endless! Most of all, I’m scared I’ll bleed out and die or that my baby will die. Shit happens, and it sucks, but shit does happen. You could do everyhing right and the baby could still die, inside you, without you knowing. HOW HORRIBLE?! And everyone that I express these fears to always says, “oh you’ll be fine!” HOW DO THEY KNOW? They don’t know for sure. No one does. I could literally be that ONE person out of A MILLION or whatever it is, to have a complication and die! It’s so scary to me. I love babies. I literally tell everyone, “I would LOVE to have babies! But I don’t want to HAVE babies. *insert birthing motion*” There’s so many children in the world that don’t have mothers that need adopting. I’m seriously considering that. I just CANT EVEN phathom..  🙁

Post # 19
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Bee Keeper

newbabybee:  I thought I was going to die in child labor.  I really did.  I even had my husband swear that he would choose our daughter over me if it came to it.  (I was nuts)  14+ months later both my daughter and I are fine.

Post # 20
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

This early on, I’m mainly afraid that either I will miscarry, or that there will be genetic/chromosomal problems. I tested positive for carrier status for cystic fibrosis and Tay Sachs, so now we’re waiting on my husband’s test results. It will probably be another week or two before we hear, UGH. I also worry that my anxiety will harm the baby. (HELPFUL)

I’m sure that as time goes on, I’ll have other fears, but that’s where I am right now.

Post # 21
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

ykyegbride:  I’m sorry, that’s a terrible burden to carry. I will be thinking good thoughts for you.

Post # 22
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Worker bee

waitingwonderland:  I’m worried about passing out as well! I’ve passed out from getting a flu shot…not because of the needle, but because of the thought that there was a virus being injected into my body and I could swear I could feel the fluid going up my arm ::shudders::. 

It also ties into my other fear…when I pass out, I lose control of my bowels and vomit as well. I really don’t want my husband to see me pooping on the delivery table, even though I know, it’s bound to happen. Ugh!

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We’re not even TTC yet, but Darling Husband is type 1 Diabetic, and a part of me is convinced I’ll get gestational diabetes. At this point I’m more concerned about that than the possibility of our children developing diabetes (which is actually more likely to happen to DH’s brother’s kids than ours).

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

These aren’t really too irrational…Right now I am afraid of miscarrying but I have nothing to base this on. I’m also afraid that I won’t be able to follow my birthing plan or there will be some kind of medical issue. Just hoping for a healthy baby!

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

newbabybee:  Right now (38+6), my most irrational fear is that she’ll just never come out.  I’m really ready to get this show on the road, and sometimes I feel like it could happen any time now, but others I’m afraid I’ll be 2 weeks over and have to be induced, and then end up with a c-section because she just won’t come out.  I’m also afraid that my labor will progress so quickly that we won’t make it to the hospital in time – as a first time mom, I know this is unlikely, but still – I do not want to end up giving birth in my living room or car.

Post # 26
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

newbabybee:  I am terrified of having a c-section. I have a scar already from a surgery I had when I was younger, granted this surgery was much more invasive than a c-section so my recovery is a lot worse than a c-section would be, but I don’t want to go through that kind of pain with a newborn. 

I am terrified of what my body is going to look like post-baby. I am already looking into workout thats I can do at home with baby. (DVDs). 

I am scared of labor because I don’t plan to have an epidural (as of now) my mind could change if the pain is too much but I am hoping I can bear it because I am much more scared of the needle going into my back 

I am almost 24 weeks (sun), and I am still scared that something can happen to the baby, miscarriage/stillborn/cord getting wrapped around baby. – It doesn’t help that I am traumatized because of what happened to my mother- she has 3 ectopics, 4 miscarriages and 1 stillborn. I know everyone is different and its not hereditary but its scary to think that its a possibility for that to happen, not just to me, to anyone

I can go on if you like but these are my major fears

 

 

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I have two big scares. The first is that I will die during childbirth and my Darling Husband will be left alone with this little one. The second is having a miscarraige. My Mother-In-Law carried her first little one to 8 and a half months and had a chord issue late in the 8th month. She was practically full term and expecting to have the baby any day without knowing until she went in for her last doctors appointment. It terrifies me.

Post # 28
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Helper bee

I’m terrified of losing the baby. I’m 18 weeks almost 19 and I’m also terrified that my anomaly scan will show no heartbeat or a horrendous problem. 

I’m also scared that if I make it to labour I won’t be strong enough to keep going. That my baby will suffer because I’m so unfit or tired .. 

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Delivery day. The whole thing… I’m terrified about all of it: labor, potential delivery complications, the umbilical cord getting wrapped around my baby’s neck, etc. I keep myself up at night thinking about things that could go wrong; it’s completely irrational and kinda nutty, lol.

MrsBearBear:  For what it’s worth, I really thought I was infertile too. My husband and I had VERY unprotected, careless sex (TMI) for three years without any pregnancy scares. Our sex was also pretty regular (3-5 times a week at most, we never went more than two weeks without having sex). I wasn’t monitoring my cycles or TTC. My period came on time, every single month with no delays. My husband (then boyfriend) had even joked with me that I’m probs infertile bc there’s no way I shouldn’t have gotten pregnant in the 3 years we’d been together with how often we were having sex! I just laughed it off because we weren’t TTC so what did I care? Then one day, BAM, pregnant. And now we have a son due in August. It literally took us three years to get pregnant and that was just by chance.

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

mightywombat:  thanks! I actually heard back the other day and my test results were negative so no chromosome disorders for baby 🙂

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