(Closed) What are your limits..Am I paranoid?

posted 5 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m probably paranoid too, but I wouldn’t let a 6 or 8 year old walk home by themselves either. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think if you’re not comfortable with them being home alone by themselves, you probably also aren’t comfortable with them walking home from school alone. I don’t know that it even makes you paranoid. 

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I wouldn’t let my kids do that either.

I think the youngest would be middle school like 11/12, and even then I’d be a worry wart.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Nope wouldn’t happen until one of them was 11 or 12.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

My daughter is almost 9 and we live across the street from her school; I can literally see the schoolyard from my apartment balcony. I still don’t let her walk alone to/from. In all likelihood, no, nothing bad is going to happen in the minute and a half it takes to walk from home to school property, but if I’m not there to watch her, if something happened, there’s no way I’d ever know where to even *start*. Maybe it makes me paranoid, but I’m okay with that. If she walked alone to school and didn’t make it, I wouldn’t know until the school called me to check on her absence at around 10am – way too much can happen in that two-hour interval to make it worth it for me to let her go by herself. We do live in a big city though.

I don’t think I would really let her until maybe 11 or 12.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think you’re being pretty paranoid. It’s way more likely that they’ll get hit by a can than ever be kidnapped. It’s just too rare. I think 8 is a fine age to walk a few blocks home from school. Kids are way too sheltered these days!

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

There is no way I consider 6 and 8 to be old enough to walk home from school alone. 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Nope, I would not be okay with a 6 and 8 year old walking home. 

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Katnisseverdeen:  If you don’t think your kids are mature enough that pretty much says everything it needs to say. Some kids probably are at that age, and other’s aren’t. If you aren’t comfortable and don’t think your kids are prepared for that at this age then they probably aren’t, you are the one that knows them the best. I was walking either to, or from school starting in kindergarten but things have changed a lot since ’85.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@crayfish:  the point is, it CAN happen. Ages 6 and 8 = young. They cant defend themselves, they’re so small. And in a rural area, it’s worse because there isn’t a lot of foot traffic to catch if something were to happen. We live in the city and may even raise our future children in the city, there are people out and about every hour of the day – bad stuff can still happen, but if our children were walking a few blocks to school, and someone tried to take one, there’s a higher chance of a witness.

Anyway, unless you really need them to walk alone, I dont see the point to ponder it. The only excuse I’d find acceptable to let really young kids walk alone is if their meal depended on your paycheck which depended on you having them walk alone. Id let them walk when they are old enough to stay home alone, or old enough to scream/kick/punch fight back aggressively.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I wouldn’t! Especially because of the rurl area. If anyone were to lure a kid, there would be no where to run to, no homes or stores near by.

My sister let her 7 and 9 year old walk home from school this year ( and I think part of last) but their school was literally within sight of their complex, and the crossing guard could see them walk to their complex, along with the high traffic, and groups of kids walking home, to the same complex. Different situation all round.

 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I wouldn’t let a 6&8 yr old walk home, you never know what kind of people drive by or want to try and do anything. At those ages they’re too small to defend themselves I wouldn’t risk it.

Post # 16
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Helper bee

My boys each starting walking home when they were about 10 or 11.

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