(Closed) What are your limits..Am I paranoid?

posted 8 years ago in Parenting
Post # 32
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I walked to and from school from first grade up through middle school. My babysitter lived right across the street from the elementary building, and it would have been really stupid to put ALL of the kids she watched (most not yet school age) into her Jeep (we wouldn’t have all fit) just to drop me or some of us off at the school that was right there. We lived in a small town where nothing ever happened (although we did have a girl get kidnapped and murdered :). I also walked over a mile from school to where my mother worked after I grew out of the babysitter.

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

This, too, is my sensitive spot…

You would NEVER regret being “too paranoid” when it comes to the safety of your children!!! You just can’t/go wrong OVER protecting them!

Once upon a time, my Ex LOST my then 6 year old daughter. For FOUR HOURS! I can tell you from personal experience, I now know what full-blown Insanity feels like, and what sitting in the back of a squad car for 2 hours feels like because I literally wanted to kill the man. Trust me, it was an all around EXCRUTIATING situation that I wouldnt wish on my worst enemy. Thankfully, she was found safe, and we have a happy ending.

My story and experience doesn’t directly relate to your question, I realize, my point is, you just cannot go wrong with always protecting your child and making certain their whereabouts at all times, even if it seems safe, close, etc.

My daughter is now 11, we live 2 blocks from her school, and my parents still drive 25 mins each way, twice a day, to drop her off and pick her up, most days, when I’m working.

 

Post # 34
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

DD is 8, but we still walk her to school (about 8 blocks away). Some kids her age walk by themselves, but we’re not comfortable with it, yet. I think we’d be more inclined if there was a group of kids in the area around her age that she could walk with, but our neighbourhood is 20+ years old, so all of the children have grown up and are in high school, or are young adults..

She’s taking a course about staying home alone within the next few months (CPR, First Aid, house evacuation in case of fire, etc.), so maybe come next year we’ll flirt with the idea again, but we shall see.

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I can’t honestly say if you are being paranoid ).  I don’t know what I think to be considered old enough to walk home from schoold by themselves(my munchkin is only 9 months.  But my opinion is that they are your children and their safety is in your hands.  If you are not comfortable letting them walk home by themselves then that is totally up to you.  It is your right as a parent.  Stick to it until you are comfortable.  It shouldn’t be anybody elses choice but your own.

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I didn’t walk home alone til I was about 10 or 11 (lived 4 blocks from school). I think part of that was because my mom worked at the school so I just went with her.

But DH walked home from school at age 6. He lived in Germany though & everyone does that. Still only a few blocks. It’s different over there though, at least, where we lived.

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We live in a small town. I have 6 & 9 yr old kids. They aren’t even allowed around the block by themselves, yet. I watch TV and see Nancy Grace too often to know how things can happen even in small towns. I would wait til they’re older, maybe middle school.

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think it depends on their maturity level? I started babysitting my sister and relatives when I was 9 and for other families when I was 10. At the time I felt like I had it all under control. I think we always think kids are less mature than they are.

8 is old enough IMO, but 6 is too young.

 

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

You may be paranoid but rightfully so.. 🙂 I don’t have children but I’d probably wait until 10+. But even then, I have a neice who just turned 10 and my family doesn’t let her walk home alone…and it’s all residential streets between the house/school..and in a very good neighborhood. Nope. She stays at school until someone can get her. Better safe than sorry and sadly this world is full of sick sick people.

Post # 40
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

For anyone interested in this topic, I highly recommend the book, Free Range Kids. There IS a big loss when kids don’t walk to school. They lose independence, a sense of community, exercise, and a connection to nature and fresh air. Crime rates are actually at historic lows in this country, so it has literally never been SAFER for children to walk to school. For more information on why walking is so healthy for children’s bodies, check out the blog Aligned And Well. And as a Public Service Announcement, the “stranger danger” message we all received as children is no longer being advocated because it doesn’t work. Instead, the Center for Missing and Exploited Children now recommends “You can talk to strangers, but never go off with a stranger.” You can read more about the revised message here: http://www.missingkids.com/missingkids/servlet/PageServlet?LanguageCountry=en_US&PageId=3581

I encourage all parents to consider these resources when making the decision whether to allow children to walk to school. Good parents say “no” but good parents say “yes” too.

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