Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
I told my mom and the boy’s mom that they could wear whatever they wanted to our wedding. They are both pretty modern, trendy women and neither has any interest in wearing the traditional “mothers” gowns.
Post # 3
I was going to tell my mom what to wear because i wanted to control everything (bridezilla!) . But after I did some research and read about what mob’s feel, like here http://www.womenrepublic.co.uk/relationships/mother.htm , I too said she should wear what she wants. It’s easy to forget how important the day is to them too. And we all know, if you’re not comfortable in what you’re wearing, its hard to enjoy anything, even your daughters wedding.
Post # 4
They decided to wear gowns in the color scheme…both free to choose whatever design they felt most comfortable with!
Post # 5
My mom is wearing a cocktail length dress (to the knee) because she doesn’t like floor-length dresses. And didn’t want to wear a MOB dress that makes her look “old”. I think Future Mother-In-Law will be wearing a long dress with a jacket. I told them to wear whatever they are comfortable in. Which works out well, because both my mom and Future Mother-In-Law have both showed me what they are planning on, so I do get veto power if it gets too out there
Post # 6
My FI’s mother is wearing a white dress skit & shirt with lace…it’s very pretty! I’m not even sure what my mom WOULD wear if I let her show up in anything, so I’m def. taking her shopping..LOL 🙂
Post # 7
My mom is an honorary Matron of Honor so she’s going to wear a blue dress (my bridesmaids are wearing blue as well) .
My fiance’s mother is surprising us with her dress so I have no clue what it looks like but she’s wearing beige.
Post # 8
Both are wearing. . . . .Black! And not just black – I think they are both wearing black pantsuits.
They both asked so I said wear what you want! I’m just not particular about that and I would hate for them to run out and buy a new outfit just for my wedding.
Post # 9
Both mom’s looked beautiful at our wedding!
My mom wore a floor-length gown with a black skirt and a modern looking wrap top in white (I wore a white dress with black accessories, and she walked me down the aisle, so it was really awesome).
My Mother-In-Law wore a beautiful champage floor-length gown with a lot of lace detail on the top. Both were pretty modern and chic.
Post # 10
I told them both to wear whatever they feel comfortable wearing.My mom is overweight and very self conscious so if she finds something she likes, I’m jumping on board with it. My Future Mother-In-Law wants to wear the same colors as the BMs but i don’t want her to look like the lost bridesmaid! Not sure how to handle it. I encouraged her to go dress shopping with her daughter (my FSIL) to ensure she chooses something relatively stylish. Even my Fiance has doubts about he fashion abilities 🙂
Post # 11
My mom is wearing a cream colored pants suit that she LOVES. Is this approprate? I don’t care if she wears it either way but I would like to know. It sounds like all MOBs wear dresses or skirts.
Post # 12
JBinkley’s response made me laugh=)
FI’s mom KEEPS harping on how the moms should wear the same color as the Bridesmaid or Best Man (mauvey-pink), how everyone needs to coordinate, it’s soooo important because I’ll be looking at these pics forever…blah blah blah. My biggest regret is letting ppl talk me into matching Bridesmaid or Best Man dress, so I truly couldn’t care less what color the moms wear – I LIKE mismatched, in style AND color. My mom loves beige/taupe so I told her to go for it. I’m def afraid Future Mother-In-Law is going to look like the lost bridesmaid!
Post # 13
Both moms decided on a dress a couple of days ago. It turns out it was THE SAME DRESS. But they worked it out between themselves, found something they’re happy with, and we’re all having a good laugh over it.
Post # 14
i have no idea what my Future Mother-In-Law plans to wear but my mom just got her dress and while it’s very cute idk if it’s a “MOTB dress” My mom will only be 40 when I get married, i’ll be 21. The dress is knee length and very modern with browns purples and greens. I wish i had a picture because it’s very pretty i just dk if it’s what i would have pictured her wearing.
Post # 15
i told them both they could wear whatever they wanted. my sister took my mom shopping because she needs assistance in her shopping, but my fmil doesn’t have girls and manages to have a good fashion sense all on her own. they ended up with pretty similar dresses, i think they’ll look nice!
Post # 16
When asked what you want them to do as far as dress choices, never say “do whatever you want”. The moms are asking you for good reasons- and it is very hard after the fact to tell someone that their choice is inappropriate (or horrible looking). In most cases it would not be a big deal, but you will have those pictures forever. I have been told offhandedly and rather dismissively by the MOB that she doesn’t care “what” I wear, so she verbally gave me carte blanche to go out and get anything… but she WILL care if I show up on the wedding day in the same dress, or style, or clash with the Bridesmaid or Best Man colors. I think a good way to approach the matter is to respond by asking what style or color THEY have in mind and work from there. It wouldn’t even be a bad idea to have a “girl’s” day where the moms and future bride had lunch and shopped a few stores together. I would love it if my FDIL would invite me to do something like that, so I could get a sense of what her taste was. Because the day IS supposed to be all about her- it really is the day when she shines in all her glory, and IMO, nothing should distract from that… only complement her radiance.