Of course I have a list
As should have EVERY woman… if you don’t you aren’t being honest with yourself, or out to find the man you Deserve… just willing to take willy-nilly whatever comes along. I AM NOT THAT WOMAN (lol, anymore)
There are a lot of icky men out there… as I found out when I first became single after my Divorce. I came to the realization that a lot of them are folks I wouldn’t want (maybe no one else wants them either… which is WHY they are still single). And the rest of them, ended up Divorced because another GOOD WOMAN on the Planet threw them away… and for a valid reason !!
As someone nearing 50 at the time, I was for sure scared that I’d never find love again. That all the good men were gone.
The pickings were few.
BUT, I am pleased to annouce there are GOOD MEN out there… you just have to be discerning to find them. Set the bar high honey… and you will attract the right sort of guys eventually !!
If you are back in the Dating Pool after an absense may I suggest that you pick up two excellent books so you can get in the right frame of mind…
Greg Behrendt’s “He’s Just Not That Into You”
Dr Phil’s “Love Smart – Find the One You Want / Fix the One You Got”
Greg’s Book will ensure that you don’t waste your time on undeserving guys… and Dr Phil’s will tell you how to narrow down the search to find the guy you want. It focusses on knowing yourself, and what it is you Need & Want… as well as what you don’t want (there are a couple of EXCELLENT Check-Lists so you can SEE what your priorities are… as well as what are your DEALBREAKERS)
These books made a world of difference in turning my head around.
And how I ultimately met & married Mr TTR. A man that is amazing… treats me like a Queen. I am truly blessed !!
Hope this helps,
PS… I intentionally didn’t write out MY LIST here because it is long… (lol my bar is very high)
MY LIST is reflective of the many Chapters in Greg’s Book… as well as the Deal Breaker List in Dr Phil’s… as well as elements that I consider important in a man (honest, trustworthy, same ethics, values, etc)
So it reflects many things… such as WHO I date to begin with (“If He’s Not Calling You / Asking for a Date… Then He’s Just Not That Into You”) as well as how they behave when they date you…
EDIT TO ADD – I found an on-line link to this Book by Dr Phil… not the whole shebang but some decent highlights to give you an idea of some of the things it talks about.