- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
My list was short. And to me, it’s not really a list so much as self respect and awareness. Someone who believed in honesty, with no games. Someone who believes in and supports me and my dreams. Open communication. These are things I didn’t have at all in my previous relationship and I had no more patience or tolerance left in me for disrespect of any sort.
Really, the only list I had outside of those things was someone who loved my dogs. My dogs are a non-negotiable part of me. I would never, ever choose anyone over them. Therefore, I’d never have been able to commit to someone who had allergies that they couldn’t control, or anyone who preferred my dogs to stay away. Now, that sounds like I’m saying I’d refuse to marry a man with an allergy to my dogs, but in reality, it would never have gotten that far. If someone can’t be around my dogs, or around me when I have their dander on my clothes, I wouldn’t pursue anything with that person in the first place. It was a must that anyone I date LOVE dogs and be up to dealing with my dogs’ very clingy, excited behaviors. And I’d never have to worry about someone asking me to choose between them and my dogs, because a) I’d never be with someone who had the personality to ask me to choose, because they’d have been weeded out already, and b) they’d know from the start that I would choose my dogs, which means if they ever intended to ask me to choose, they’d likely have never pursued things with me in the first place.