(Closed) What are your ring insecurities?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 347
144 posts
Blushing bee

Carat size! Definitely! When you see someone with a huge rock, sometimes someone responds with “He must REALLY love you….A LOT!” I think that’s very insincere for ladies with humble-sized stones. On the other hand, they could be thinking “It MUST be fake! It’s too big to be real.”


Post # 348
430 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

People thinking it is fake because it is big. Shopping last night the sales woman grabbed my hand and said “that thing is huge? Is it fake? It must have cost $xxxx.”. It was embarrassing and uncomfortable. I need to think of snappier comebacks, and not stand there looking shocked and stupid. 

Post # 349
268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

My insecurity is the amount of money that went into the ring, LOL. I do not regret it at all and I love my ring more and more everyday but try not to think about the price tag too much otherwise I’ll start feeling the guilt set in. Another thing is the metal, I wanted rose gold soooo bad but between the jewelers and my Fiance they convinced me to go with platinum for practical purposes such as durability, etc. but now every time I see a pave set in rose gold I sigh a little…

Post # 350
401 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@shelbyBee:  I LOVE your story and stone and value is often far more than price paid πŸ™‚  My center stone is not expensive and I passed up a lot that were just because I was going solely for the stone that matched what color I saw when I think of DH’s eyes when he’s smiling πŸ™‚  Fortunately he loves telling people I picked it based on that and is proud as can be I wanted something that made me think of him lol!  His joy makes me not worry about what anyone may ever think!

Post # 351
52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@minipenguin:  Who cares what other people like! Only you have you like your ring. I have been coveting your ring since you first posted it (not that my opinion should matter)

Post # 352
184 posts
Blushing bee


I LOVE LOVE LOVE my ring.  My Fiance had to get it made as he wasn’t able to find any sapphire rings that weren’t round in our area.  My only insecurity has been that my Future Sister-In-Law chose a very similar ring (with a diamond) 6 months after I got mine.  Now I am super defensive when people tell me that it’s not that unique and they’re getting so popular so everyone has rings like mine! (more the emerald cut with a halo than the sapphire).  People notice my ring all the time and comment on how beautiful and unusual it is πŸ™‚

Post # 353
184 posts
Blushing bee

@phillypheet:  I’m with earlier comments.  THere will always be the “Jones” to keep up with, and I think it’s natural to sometimes let your mind wander into that envious place.  I sometimes think about how my ring would have been cheaper than most of my friend’s rings, many of  whom don’t make as much money ect since it’s a sapphire, but then I remember that it is EXACTLY what I wanted.   Also, lots of the girls I know who insisted on giant rings and spending lots of money on Engagement Ring are super irresponsible with money or have no concept of it.  If you’re starting your life with your Fiance, maybe keeping some $$ in reserve to start your future together isn’t a bad thing.  Specifically, one of these girls now realizes they can’t afford to get married any time soon because her Fiance took on so much debt buying her a big gaudy ring she demanded.

Post # 354
1682 posts
Bumble bee

I’m starting to get nervous that I won’t like the airline around the halo on my ring. I love the ring and my SO loves the ring but people keep telling me that I won’t like the line so I’m starting to believe them.

Post # 355
479 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2003

I definitely have ring insecurities!  

1) My center stone is too small.  It’s a .80 carat and I would love a 2 + carat.

2) The metal is 14k white gold, and I really love platinum.  Altihough the 14k white gold has been fine (no yellowing, has stayed shiny, etc).

3) My diamond wedding bands.  I’ve always wanted two diamond wedding bands, now I have them, and I wonder if it’s too much?  My set is a reset (both the halo and the bands), I’ve been married almost 11 years.  So a big part of me wonders if I should have stayed with a platinum solitaire with a plain platinum band which is SO classic, or keep this blingy set that I also love, because it was an early anniverary reset? 

4) I have the set soldered together which was great while traveling (one ring to deal with as opposed to 3) but now I’m wondering if I should unsolder so I can wear the halo with a thin plain band, or with a thin diamond band that I have, or with just one of the curved diamond bands.  Too many choices! πŸ™‚

Post # 356
2529 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I worry that my e-ring band will wear out. It’s only 1.2 mm wide at the narrowest points, and the way I wear rings, I fear there will be a day when it is too thin to wear. πŸ™

I also think sometimes that the stone is too small. It is a 5mm (0.5 ct) moissanite. We picked it out sort of together– it was my favorite, I sent a few links to my then-SO, he shopped around a bit, and it was his favorite too. But ugh, the band is so thin!

And I kind of wish it was rose gold. I thought I told my Fiance that’s what I wanted but I think he forgot. Oh well, I’ll have a rose gold wedding band!

I love it and it is so beautiful! I just want to wear it forever and I’m afraid it won’t last. 


Post # 357
914 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I will play too.  




I have it custom made and my biggest insecurities are the band and the setting.  


I worry that my band may be too thin for the size of my rock and the setting may be too low as I notice a lot of bride have high setting… and one of my friends said my setting hide my diamond… which is quite true . .. was a bit upset when a female friend thought it’s a 0.75 cart when it’s actually 1.02   …. when i told her it’s 1.02, she asked me again is it the total carat….. which I have no clue on the total weight as the band was throw in for free. I only know the side stones are G color, VS class… 



Oh, and I also worry about the material of my band.  I bought my wedding band and e-ring separately.  The wedding band is platium but the e-ring is 18K.  Although my jewerller ensure me that the 18K will be fine to put together with a platium band.  I still constantly worry, so thinking maybe I will just wear the wedding band alone after I’m married next year… 


Post # 358
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@bethygrace16:  it’s a barely pink moissanite and I’m in love too πŸ™‚

Post # 359
208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@Caddyshack:  I think your ring is gorgeous πŸ™‚ I love Sapphires, i think they are classic and really what doesnt a gorgeous blue sapphire go with? so pretty

Post # 360
20 posts
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Suncor Fluvarium

My biggest insecurity with this ring is that I’m going to get it caught in something and my stones will fall out! It is a very high setting (you can’t tell by this picture and I was a fool to not take a picture of the ornateness before I sent it back to be resized and a stone replaced.). I live in the cold north, always pulling on gloves, sticking my hands in my pockets, generally being cold, and I found for the 2 weeks that I wore it, it kept getting caught.

Another insecurity is that all of the little stones will fall out. It doesn’t show it, but the underside and top side of the ring is totally paved with stones. One of the first things I noticed when Fiance proposed to me is that there was a stone missing from the underside. We weren’t sure if it never had it to begin with, or if it fell out while he was carrying it around for a week (Long story, check out my engagement story!). This set me up for paranoia right from the beginning.

I do love the ring. I can’t wait to get it back so I can just stare at it all day! I told Fiance that he will need to do a re-proposal when we get it back so I can feel engaged again!

Post # 361
1455 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@ladyamalthea:  I think your ring is absolutely beautiful! The word “unique” in my world means “creative/artistic” …. and because I am artsy, I would be thrilled with the description. 

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@wrkbrk: Every time I see your set it stops me in my tracks and I just HAVE to look at it a little longer – I love it!

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