(Closed) What are your thoughts on a bridesMAN?

• catwoman1701
• 8 years ago

@Waitingbee57:  I say why not. I was my brother’s best man (thankfully I didn’t have to throw a bachelor party!). The other thing I was going to say I dn’t think you need to match the same number as your Fiance if a) you don’t want to or b) don’t have anyone else. I’m not going to I’m just going to have my sis as my Maid/Matron of Honor. He’ll have his brother as his best man and his best friend as a groomsman. It’s all about what works for you!

• classyashley
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: October 2013

@Waitingbee57:  Just to reiterate. You don’t have to have even sides, there’s absolutely no rule about that. You don’t need to ask someone just to ask someone.

• JBishop
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: August 2014

I have a bridesman and Fiance has a groomsmaid. We also have mismatched numbers on both sides, but we don’t really care. 🙂

• Westitude
• 8 years ago

I never understood why people think it’s weird to have a bridesman.  He’s your friend, it’s 2013, you can have anybody in you bridal party that you want to –I say go for it.  I had a bridesman also and I was really glad I did it. 

• Regina-Phalange
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: July 2015

I love the idea! I brought it up with my Fiance and my brother and they both think it’s weird, so I guess we’ll be sticking to abitrary wedding party gender roles. 🙁

• MexiPino
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: October 2015

@Waitingbee57:  I don’t see a problem with it. I only have a few close women, so if SO had a lot of men he wanted included I would totally have some of my close male friends on my side. Really, after my cousin, my sister & my best friend the next 5 closest people are men. To skip over them and pick some random cousin or not-that-close friend who be really weird. 

• Fizzy8
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: October 2013

Go for it!

I have a MOH- Man of Honour. No one has batted an eye. As you can see from the responses, it’s not as unusual as you might think! Good luck. 🙂

• lorelai
• 8 years ago

I don’t think it’s a big deal.
One of my friends had a ‘BridesMan’, and in our wedding my husband’s best ‘man’ was actually a female – we called her his Best Gal.
You can also have an uneven wedding party if you want, but if he’s your best friend don’t let antiquated ideas like that hold you back! If he means a lot to you I say include him 🙂 It’s your day, do it your way!

• moiraine
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: July 2013

@Waitingbee57:  I have a MAN of honor 🙂 

• pengoala
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: September 2011

I love the idea, it’s totally cute!

• angelinthesnowxo
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: November 2013

@Waitingbee57:  I’m having a bridesman.  My maid of honor is actually a man of honor!  My best friend of like 15+ years is a guy, so there was never any question that he would be my man of honor.  My other two bridesmaids are my other lifelong best friend (she, my man of honor, and I have all been best friends for years … They’re actually planning to fly in together for my wedding) and my cousin (who is more like a sister to me).  I chose the people I’m closest to for my bridal party.

So in answer to your question: Go for it!  It sounds like he’s a great friend and that it would mean a lot to include him.

• Goofball
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: September 2013

Choose the people who you want to stand with you based on the relationship, not their gender! FI’s sister is the BW (best woman). She was a little confussed at first because she thought he was asking her to be one of my bridesmaids. 🙂 She choose to carry a bouquet though so I’ll do something similar to what my two MOH’s will be carrying. FI’s brother is his Bridesmaid or Best Man. 

• icanhearyousmile
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: November 2013

I have two bridesmen and my FI’s “Best man” is a woman. Who cares!? They mean so much to you. My two bridesmen are my two best guy friends (other than Fiance, of course), one I met in highschool and the other I met during my stint living in Colorado. We were inseparable. I’m honored to have them on my side and I’m so excited about it! Of course, now we have more pickles than melons, but I’ll work out the walking details later. xD

• CelticBeachBride
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: September 2014

Do it! The people who mean the most to you should be standing by you. 

I’m having two bridesmen (best friend from high school and my “gay boyfriend”/best friend from grad school), and my fiance is having three groomswomen (his two sisters and his best friend from college). I’m so glad they’ll be standing with us on our special day!

• CarolF
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: October 2014

I have a “bridesdude.” My little brother. Future Mother-In-Law hinted that he belonged with groomsmen and I just laughed and said, “Well Fiance didn’t change his diapers so I told him he couldn’t have him!!”

🙂