(Closed) What are your thoughts on a bridesMAN?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 47
405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think it’s awesome, so I think he should be a bridesman. Someones gender should not determine if they can stand next to you and support your marriage on the day of your wedding.

Post # 48
1192 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

you can absolutely do it! I have two bridesmen and Fiance has two groomsmaids. We put a little explaination on our wedding website for people like grandparents who might not be as familiar with it, but it was what we wanted.

Post # 51
471 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I am having three bridal attendants, two are men.  Anyone who has a problem with that can walk right out the door before the ceremony starts for all I care. 

The three people that I’ve chosen are my very best friends.  The first is a longtime childhood friend.  We’ve lived in different states for 6 years now but we are still very close.  I’m her MoH in September.  The other is my gay ex fiance turned best friend.  Yeah, it’s weird to outsiders, but he’s been there for me for years, and him and my fiance get along great.  The third is a close friend from college who really stepped up and was there for us during my fiance’s cancer treatment.  Almost everyone we knew either distanced themselves from us during that time or they only cared about how he was doing.  This guy was there for my fiance and went out of his way to make sure that I as the primary caretaker was doing ok too. 

There are no other people in my life more deserving. 

Post # 52
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I say go for it.  Your bridal party should be comprised of the people who mean the most to you…and who you’d most like to have standing up for you on your big day.  I personally don’t think gender is a concern.

I originally had 7 bridesmaids, now down to 6, and when my FH was trying to figure out his lineup, I actually suggested that he have one of his female friends in his line…a groomswoman or even his best woman…I would have been perfectly happy in either case.

Post # 53
1332 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I am having a guy on my side and my Fiance is having a girl on his.  It happens.  It is not a big deal at all.

Post # 54
2445 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I have bridesman and he’s amazing. Best decision ever to kick a bridesmaid out and put him in. I should have chosen him from the beginning but I was dumb and listened to other people.

Post # 55
815 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I had two bridesmen.  Why not?  They’re two of my closest & oldest friends!

Post # 56
2851 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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@Waitingbee57:  haha…well, maybe you can do something with his ensemble so he’s different from the groomsmen, and it’s clear that he’s one of your half of the party. I think that would be fun!

Post # 57
4462 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Why not? Whoc ares what other people think. It’s not about them and you’re never going to be able to make everyone happy.

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