(Closed) What are your thoughts on a Co-ed Bridal Shower?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Yes, I’ve been to one and Yep, we’re having one.

I’m SO excited about it. We’re calling it a “His and Hers Shower” because we didn’t want to call it a Couples Shower as some of our good friends are single. It’s far from traditional. My Maid/Matron of Honor and FI’s Bridesmaid or Best Man are throwing it. From what I know, it’s a cards/games/dice theme, we’re having FI’s poker table brought in, having it later on a Saturday 6:00-8:30, and having pizza, popcorn, candy, root beer, coke floats…that kind of thing. I am STOKED! <– And I never say that word. Ever.

The one we went to sounds really similar to what you’re thinking, and we definitely enjoyed that. It was much more relaxed and less awkward because it wasn’t just us girls. We all had our SO’s there, that helped lighten the mood and break the ice a bit too. Fiance knew the Bride better than I did anyway!

Post # 4
741 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

If it’s a co-ed bridal shower, wouldn’t it just be considered an engagement party? I’m confused on the difference….

Post # 5
3982 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We did it! But since Mr. Hedgies family and close friends all live in AZ it was mostly my family and friends… oh well. We still had a good time. Guys and girls alike.

Post # 7
996 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We had one and it was a lot of fun.

Post # 8
376 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

sorry as this seems to be a controversal topic in my family. my mom, dad, Fiance and all agree.. shower = woman only! hhaahaha

anytime there is a shower, wedding or baby and its a co-ed my dad and Fiance are like… NOWAY! have fun! 

I always thought it was so awkward for the guys!

— However we are going a joint/co-ed bach party weekend trip!

Post # 9
462 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We are having a Co-ed wedding shower only b/c we are having a Destination Wedding so it is more like a pre reception for those who can not attend the nuptuals. Its going to be a big party basically.. band.. dj.. catered food.. It will be in my back yard.

Post # 10
378 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We’re having a traditional shower and he doesn’t want to be surrounded by a bunch of women (even if a couple of his friends are there). The bridal showers we’ve been to when men were there were awkward for the men (they weren’t really involved, looked like they didn’t want to be there, etc.) so he volunteered to have it only be for me (although the gifts are for us).

Post # 11
18 posts
  • Wedding: February 2012

I have given one, been to one, and will be having one.  In our circle of friends, all the guys and girls get along really well so it is just another party that happens to be for a couple.  We call it a Jack & Jill or co-ed shower.  The key is, if the groom is there, his friends should be there, too.

Post # 12
28 posts
  • Wedding: July 2012

I went to FI’s friend’s couples shower… I thought it was kind of weird and just seemed like an engagement party where everyone brought gifts off the wedding registry (it was friends and family- basically everyone that was invited to the wedding).  It wasn’t my favorite thing becuase it just felt like double-dipping, and I wasn’t really sure what the purpose of it was (although I’m not sure why I feel this way about this event and not about girls only showers).  It was fine but based on conversations with my Fiance and his friends, it was really kind of turn-off for them.

But, all this being said, I say do what you feel confortable with and just go with it!  🙂

Post # 13
109 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012 - Catholic Church, Chateau Thomas Winery

I haven’t been to one but I think it’d be great! 

Post # 14
1718 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

I’ve never been to one but I love the idea! I had a lot of fun at my shower that my in law’s side threw but I know I would have had an even more fun time if my husband (then FI) were there, as they are all his family. The nice thing about a shower with people on “his” side (where he doesn’t go) is you’re kind of “forced” to get to know them better—the family and friends that you’re marrying into. With your Fiance there, it’s a little bit of a crutch (which isn’t a bad thing!) but when you’re thrown into the mix with your future in laws and their friends without your husband, you grow a special bond with them because now you have shared experiences with them outside of your Fiance 🙂

Either way I think it’ll be a fun time!

Post # 15
707 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Fiance and I have been to one, but don’t plan on having one. Anything considered a “shower” and FI’s eyes glaze over. I think instead we’re going to do a “stock the liquor cabinet party,” which will be co-ed 🙂

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