- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
I am pro adoption, and would opt that route if I couldn’t have my own. That being said, adoption in this country is a terrible terrible process and usually is very heartbreaking for many family. It’s an ugly truth that very rarely gets talked about.
I have friends who have been going through the proceess of trying to have kids for 10+ years, as well as many friends who work in social services system. My friends are two of the best and most qualified people I know, and yet it’s such a heartbreaking journey. They had a couple of failed private adoptions, where after paying all medical bills the birth-mother changed her mind. They decided to foster-to-adopt which is probably the biggest nightmare I would never wish upon anyone. 18 months with a child they had from infancy, then given to a random relative who came out of the woodworks after origionally saying they didn’t want the child – simply because they are blood. It’s insane. Our system is so flawed, it’s a disgrace. The children they have now I think will be a done deal – but it’s still probably going to be years before it’s finalized.
I am all for adoption, and my desire to have kids is strong enough that I would certainly go through the process if I find out I can’t have them. However, the thought of having to go through that process is not something that leaves a positive taste in my mouth. I hate to sound like such a downer because I do believe adoption is a wonderful thing – I just see a lot of the bad side of it.