Post # 1
So Fiance and I already have a large wedding party. He has 8 GMs and I have 7 BMs. However we have two really great guy friends that we wanted to include in the ceremony. They were actually there the night we met and one of them sort of arranged for us to meet. We are not having any readings at the wedding and we do not need ushers as we already have more men than women. So we came up with the idea of them being the bearers of the rings. One will carry my ring and the other will carry FI’s ring down the aisle. We are not having children in the wedding so there will not be adult ringbearers escorting a little flower girl.
What do you ladies think of this idea? Is it too weird or insulting in any way? We just really want to give them some special honor.
Post # 3
I wouldn’t say so much insulting but definitely a bit wierd to me… when I think ring bearer I think cute little boy with pillow, not so much grown man.
Post # 4
@Meowkers: i remember reading on the bee awhile back where someone was having their brother (an adult) be their ring beared but they were calling him “The Lord of the Rings” which i thought was awesome! Personally, i think that as long as everyone invovled is ok with it, then it shouldn’t be a problem. These days there are men of honor and best women and groomswomen and bridesman..etc.. anything goes!
Post # 5
I’d say it is a bit weird. :/ It’s definitely not a HUGE thing but I’d suggest maybe doing something else for them.
Post # 6
To be honest, it sounds like you are having difficulty drawing the line to limit your wedding party.
Post # 7
@MissCherryLemonade: I would love any suggestions you may have for other ways to include them.
@julies1949: well it’s not about them being in the bridal party but more about acknowledging the fact that these two guys are realy special to us. But I guess wanting to include and honor people is no the worst thing in the world
Post # 8
I don’t see the big deal, but at our wedding my husband’s best man just handed him the rings when it was time.
Post # 9
It doesn’t seem weird to me at all, but in the same time we don’t have ring bearer in France: the best man is in charge of the rings most of the time. I’d say do whatever you want as long as it’s meaningful to you
Post # 10
We are kind of having the same thing, our ringbearer is a 14 year old boy…too old for the cute little pillow, but I want the rings where we can see them LOL I don’t think it’s wierd if they just hold them but it is a little strange if they walked down the isle by themselves. Maybe have the sitting in the front row, and when they ask for the rings they can bring them up? Just a thought! 🙂
Post # 11
I think its a great idea if you are not having children in your wedding. My “Flower Maid” will be 17 yrs old at my wedding, since i didnt have any little girls that i wanted in the wedding party.
Post # 12
Our ring man is fh’s 16 yo nephew. My flower maid ismy 20 yo daughter.
Post # 13
thaks for all the feedback ladies. looks like we’ll have to ponder this idea a little bit more.