What are your thoughts on destination weddings?

posted 4 months ago in The Lounge
Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

Are you paying for the bridesmaids and their SOs to go to Europe? If not then you can’t EXPECT them to attend, yes invite them but don’t be disappointed if they decline. They will have already attended your civil ceremony and this sounds very expensive + requiring time off work that may not be possible. 

Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: London, UK

I’m not a fan of destination weddings, purely because for me the priority is having as many of my friends and family there as possible. I don’t personally believe in pricing/distancing people out of being able to attend. I actually quite hate the idea that the venue/location/weather is more important than my loved ones’ presence. 

Also everyone I know who has had or who wants a destination reason is citing it being so much cheaper to get married abroad as a main reason. Which is great for the couple, but just throws all these costs at their guests. It’s just really not my jam. I understand it works out for guests if they decide to plan a holiday around the wedding, but actually I like to pick my own trips and decide autonomously what I spend my money on.

I understand why people choose to have a destination if they want a private ceremony/to elope/just have immediate family and friends there who they know all have the time and money to attend. It’s when those who are allegedly close to you and who you want there start getting priced out of it that I start wondering how people can think it’s worth it. I guess I just value the people more than I value any other element of the day.

(I don’t think it’s a destination wedding if it is taking place in the bride or groom’s hometown)

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee

I dont like destination weddings personally.

That being said the couple can choose the wedding they want. However, they shouldn’t feel upset or try to peer pressure people into coming to their wedding. Not everyone has the financial freedom that others do. 

Post # 34
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737 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - UK

I’m not personally a fan of destination weddings. Ultimately, I think the couple should be able to have the kind of wedding they want, but as a guest, I wouldn’t be attending if it’s that far away.

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I don’t know if yours is truly a destination wedding as you are having it near where one of you lives. I think of a destination wedding as taking place somewhere where almost all of the guests have to travel.

Never been invited to a destination wedding so I am not sure how I would react. Depends on how far, my relationship with the person, etc.

I guess I would think it was OK as long as the couple understood if I declined.

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I don’t know if yours is truly a destination wedding as you are having it near where one of you lives. I think of a destination wedding as taking place somewhere where almost all of the guests have to travel. Never been invited to a destination wedding so I am not sure how I would react. Depends on how far, my relationship with the person, etc. I guess I would think it was OK as long as the couple understood if I declined.

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

socalgirl1689 :  People are often keen to say “oh yeah totally! sounds fun!!” but when it comes time to book it off work and actually pay for tickets, they trail off. 

I don’t know your friends and their finances/personal situations, just preparing you for what may come. You really can’t demand two weddings.

Sounds like you’ll be happy to have all your friends and family at the civil one though 🙂 

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