(Closed) What are your thoughts on men who have affairs with their assistants???

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

Cheating/Affairs are disgusting, period… with an assistant just makes it even worse in my opinion because it’s playing with a position of power.  I feel sorry for the man’s wife, but I totally understand the fear of retaliation if it was known who spilled the beans.  Can’t one of you who knows about it send an anonymous letter to your boss’ wife or something?  

eta didn’t realize they are both married… ugh, I feel sorry for both their spouses then.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

It’s just disgusting.  It destroys the values of the marriage(s) involved and sets the women’s movement back about 50 years.  

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@wonderingbee:  She’s obviously not too nice…she’s cheating on HER spouse, too.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I think it’s disgusting, but there’s really nothing to be done about it.  I worked at a place where the president/part owner was having an affair with the female COO.  All I could do was pretend I didn’t notice anything, even when they were shitty at being discreet.  Part of the reason I quit that job was I was tired of spending all day in close proximity to scumbags.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think those men are just as pitiful as any man who cheats.

That said – one of our managers is for sure knocking boots with our department admin.  They are both married, her children are almost in college and his daughter is in middle school.  We all find it vile and loathe the fact that not only do they get away with that but she gets away with treating everyone else like crap because he defends her and she only has to do his work.  It sucks.

As much as it sucks, no one really feels it their place to run to HR and say “they’re sleeping together!”  Karma is a bigger bitch than she is, and I’m holding out hope that it will bite them both in the ass, hard. 

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@wonderingbee:  Oh I have a great story that relates to this, that I hardly ever get to tell!  So I was working in this restaurant in my early 20s (wow I feel old), and the owner’s son was married to his high school sweetheart (she got pregnant early), nicest lady in the world, but had just been diagnosed with breast cancer; so she wasn’t feeling/looking her best.  Well the son, we’ll call him S, used to frequent the restaurant with his wife, but after she fell ill, he still came to the restaurant without her.  S starts hooking up with one of the waitresses (who is getting the best tables/shifts), and of course his wife doesn’t know because she’s home sick.  Then, one night the place gets broken into, some booze is missing, but nothing super serious; however, the owner decides to put in surveillance cams.  Of course, the cameras end up recording S and the waitress together, and S is in charge of reviewing the tapes.  He forgets to delete one of the tapes, the wife gets a hold of it, sends it to the lawyer.  Now the wife owns the restaurant with her ex Father-In-Law, and both S and the waitress are out of work lol.  It really pissed me off while I was working there, but it was awesome to hear what happened.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

It’s gross and seems to happen alot in workplaces and offices.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would leave it alone. Not your business, and you don’t know anything about the situation. if they are really so flippant about it, maybe they are in open marriages. This especially would make sense of they are both in the BDSM scene and their partners aren’t.

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