(Closed) What are your thoughts on someone throwing their own baby shower?

posted 8 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

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puplelishious:  you are probably right about work, we always do that at my work for girls before they go on mat leave!  But having your baby is definitely more exciting and even though I’m not pregnant right now, I moved away from friends and family so I understand that part of it 

Post # 17
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Blushing bee

Must be where I am from (low middle class)  but every shower I’ve been to has been throw by the pregnant woman herself. I would never side eye some one wanting to celebrate with close/friends and family. In fact when the time comes for me I have to say I would most def not want anyone to throw me a shower, I am a total control freak and Like what I like. 

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Post # 18
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Blushing bee

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puplelishious:  My cousin’s now ex gf threw her own baby shower because she had envisioned a specific theme and wanted to be in control to ensure everything was perfect. It was a very nice babyshower and as a guest I didn’t feel any different attending it. I do know some guests were being snarky making remarks about it but since their comments were falling on deaf ears it didn’t go on for long. She enjoyed it and so did the guests. 🙂

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

This sounds super tacky!

Post # 20
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Oh I would clutch my pearls and die on the spot. Oh wait no, I would buy you a lovely card and gift because I don’t care who is throwing it, you were getting a gift for that baby anyway. Frick people are uptight and cheeaaap about showers. 

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

It definitely wouldn’t bother me, like

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HappySky7 said, if we’re close enough friends to be invited to your shower, you would have been getting a gift anyway. I don’t ever pay attention to who is hosting those things anyway.

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

You can’t host your own baby shower, but a fun “baby bbq” party for both women and men, where you don’t register for gifts, and where you don’t open the gifts, is perfectly fine.  Your friends and family will want to celebrate with you.

 

Gifts at a baby shower are mandatory, but at a party, gifts are just optional.  So don’t feel guilty about throwing a fun party! 

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I don’t see the issue. I get that it is written in some etiquette book somewhere that it is in bad taste to throw yourself a shower. But what difference does it make? A shower is a shower, regardless of who hosts it. I’d happily attend your shower and not give it a second thought. I’d bring you an awesome gift, too.

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think throwing your own shower is a no no!

Post # 26
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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puplelishious:  You could always plan/pay for it and then simply ask to list someone else as the host if you don’t want to put anyone out. Generally though, I’d wait for someone to offer to host…

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Post # 27
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think it is a little inappropriate, but if one of my friends was throwing herself one, I’d still attend and give a gift.

I, myself, not having many friends/family around me realize that there are many ladies who don’t have someone to throw them a party, or have friends with the means to do so.

Post # 28
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Helper bee

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puplelishious:  I think this is a cultural thing. I never thought it odd to throw your own shower. I didnt think of it as gift-grabby; still dont. Throwing your own birthday party or anniversary party can be gift grabby too by the bee’s standards but people do it all the time. I say go for it!

Post # 29
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I would find it a little odd because the purpose of a shower is to receive gifts.  Basically you’d be inviting people to give you gifts, which may not sit well with your guests.  If you’re simply wanting to throw a party (i.e. host some guests and provide food/drinks), I don’t think anyone would have an issue with it.

Post # 30
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Honey Beekeeper

If you throw a BBQ, I would not make it about the baby at all. 

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