(Closed) What are your thoughts on telling people you are TTC?

posted 4 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
Member
663 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - EDD 06/12/2016

Prettysmile40:  my best friend is the only one who knows. We have been together 7 years but are still young (22&24) so I just don’t want to hear people’s opinions! Everyone else will find out once we are pregnant.

Post # 4
Member
1727 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Prettysmile40:  After my chemical pregnancy I told my mom we were trying. That was basically because I was sad and I needed to talk to someone else. My mom and I are very very close. Our friends know where are planning to try “soon” but they don’t really know that means now! 

Post # 5
Member
600 posts
Busy bee

Prettysmile40:  We’ve told DH’s mom, and my coworker knows but other than that we keep it to ourselves.  I agree – I don’t want people asking about it, especially since it’s not going well!

Post # 6
Member
4675 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We were trying for a year before I got my *hopefully* sticky bean. When people ask, I’ve always kept it simple. I’ll say, someday, or soon. And I leave it there. It’s not being deceitful, just short. I don’t want people bugging me about being pregnant every time I see them, or have to listen to their well meant, but not well taken advice. 

Post # 7
Member
1066 posts
Bumble bee

Personally, I find it strange that people announce that sort of thing, it’s basically telling your friends and family “hey- we’re having lot’s and lot’s of unprotected sex, isn’t that exciting?!” I understand sharing it with very close friends or your mom/sister if you’re having fertilty issues just for support, but otherwise I just think others need to wait for a BFP announcement to get excited for us.

Post # 9
Member
193 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Prettysmile40:  We didn’t tell a soul when we started TTC.  Both of our families were really excited for us to have kids but I didn’t want any sort of outside pressure.  I’d tell my Mother-In-Law that we were still 5 years away from thinking about kids.  It took my Brother and SIL 16 months to conceive my nephew, so I was worried that it could take us a while too and I didn’t want anyone to know we were trying.  After month 2 of trying, I told my BFF and then I had to lie when I got my BFP.  🙂 

When we told my in laws we were pregnant, my Mother-In-Law was in disbelief!  She laughed about how I had lied to her about our timeframe but she understood and was just super happy that we were pregnant!

I was so glad that we didn’t tell anyone and we could just do things at our own pace.  🙂 

Post # 10
Member
14978 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I dont think that not telling is being dishonest.  It’s no ones damn business so I dont understand why they would feel entited to know and feel lied to if you didn’t tell them or hid the fact.  I personally don’t even care to know if people are trying.  What does that matter.  Announce it when it happens and when it’s real.. otherwise you’re just telling me you’re starting to have unprotected sex.  Umm, yay?  Have fun with that?

Post # 12
Member
1132 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

On the flip side, I HATE knowing when people are TTC. Everytime I see them/talk to them, all I can think about is “are they pregnant? Why aren’t they pregnant yet?” I can’t help it, it’s human nature!

I wish people wouldn’t tell me…

Post # 13
Member
618 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Prettysmile40:  I don’t tell anyone that we are TTC. Like many PPs said what really is the point? The big news is once you’re actually pregnant. Other than that it’d be a little awkward I think and I wouldn’t want people constantly asking how it’s going.

Post # 14
Member
600 posts
Busy bee

Prettysmile40:  Thanks! We’ll see, I was having a really hard time with it for awhile but I think I’m just about in a place where if it doesn’t happen, I’ll be okay with it. 

Good luck to you! 

The topic ‘What are your thoughts on telling people you are TTC?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors