(Closed) What are your thoughts on upgrading/replacing rings?

posted 11 months ago in The Lounge
Post # 46
378 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 1985

Beautifully said!  Plus I love your ring even more now!

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Post # 47
1783 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Malibou Lake Mountain Club

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@LunaC:  aw thanks! 

Post # 48
1754 posts
Buzzing bee

It really is a personal choice.  I used to think that the 1 carat round diamond solitaire my husband gave me would be the ring I wear for life and while I will always love it and keep it, it hasn’t stopped me from thinking of getting other rings if our finances permit. This year is our 10th wedding anniversary and my husband gave me a new 1.75 carat princess cut diamond solitaire. I absolutely love it because it’s different from what I had and represents all the good things and blessings we’ve had in the last decade of our marriage.  He even said he would upgrade this ring for me again in 5-10 years if I want and I’m honestly not opposed to it. LOL.  It’s nice to be able to celebrate milestones with new jewelry, but I know it’s not for everyone and I would have been happy just wearing my original ring, but like many have said, people upgrade their homes, their kitchens, their cars, their kids’ schooling, their careers, etc., if they feel the need to and can afford to. Nothing wrong with that.  Life is meant to be enjoyed with whatever makes us happy!

Post # 49
1432 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2021

As someone who is quite sentimental, I personally would never upgrade my engagement ring, and it’s a bit of a strange concept to me. I think ‘placeholder” rings for when a couple can’t afford a good quality ring, so from the outset, they know it’s only a temporary ring, are different. However, I attach a lot of sentiment to the ring I got engaged with, it’s special because we picked it together and to me it’s a symbol of our comittment, so the thought of replacing it for something “better” is so bizarre. Also, in the UK it’s not very common to upgrade, even if you significantly increase your salary and can afford a larger ring, I had never even come across this concept of repeatedly buying new engagement rings or having multiple rings until I came on this site. There’s also a thought that to me if it’s not the ring I got while I was engaged then it’s not really my engagement ring, but that’s my own personal feelings on it and others won’t see it that way. 

I’ve realised after being on here for a while that a lot of women didn’t pick their own rings and never loved them, or they don’t attach any sentiment to it, it’s a just a pretty piece of jewelry to wear that happens to symbolise they are engaged or married. So there are no strong feelings associated with their rings like we have. I don’t think either of us are wrong, we just view things differently. I could see it be potentially hurtful to your partner though, to suggest what they bought you needs to be “upgraded”, although a lot of bees say their partners don’t care, I know my fiancee definitely would as she’s very very sentimental. 

Post # 50
1083 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Personally I would never upgrade my ring. I don’t really wear my engagement ring much anymore. DH and I have matching wedding bands out of titanium. If I were to upgrade my wedding band it would be if we did it as a couple. I have a cousin who got engaged broke up with the guy then got back together with him and demanded an upgraded ring as well.  I don’t need a big flashy ring to prove how much I love my husband or how much he is willing to spend on me. To me, that’s not was love is about. 

Post # 51
4034 posts
Honey bee

I’m not above upgrading my stone at some point.  I was very close to doing it recently, but SO said it was too soon.  

I think styles and preferences change and also financial situations also change.

To each their own.


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