(Closed) What are your VENDOR DEAL-BREAKERS

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

OMG! I love this, because I am the same way. I’ve just started planning, but when I get emails addressed to “Mellisa” or “Marissa” I just lose my mind! My email is melissa*******@gmail so I mean, it’s right there… It’s also in my email signature… 

Post # 4
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

my only vendor deal breaker when we were planning a wedding was being just about ready to sign on the dotted line for a $30K reception and then being told, “oh to put a table there for you to sign your certifcate is going to cost an extra $100”

i just couldnt believe they wanted to charge me $100 to have someone move a table 15ft – trained monkeys and children could have done it and that lost them the sale and i happily told them that

Post # 5
21 posts
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’ve ran into mine many times already. I have made appointments to view potential venues in advance, and 50% of the people I was to meet with have not shown up. All had some sort of reason as to why and I still got to see the venue from other people, but this is a huge red flag about theory corporations. If you can’t show up to a meeting what are you going to do on my wedding day? Thank god my search for venues are over. I just hope this isn’t a trend in the wedding industry with other vendors too.

Post # 6
3261 posts
Sugar bee


Post # 7
117 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My is when vendors do not call you back or follow up. That has happened so many times. Do they just have so much business they do not need anymore?

Post # 8
4150 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I hate when vendors take weeks to email me back.  It is such a pet peeve of mine.  I’m emailing you, requesting information so that I can spend THOUSANDS of dollars with you….RESPOND!  It’s so rude.  Even if they’re busy, shoot a quick message back to me within 48 hours.  Right now, I’m waiting for our rehearsal dinner restaurant’s manager to email me back with our drink menu options – I emailed him 8 days ago and we’re spending the minimum requirement 3 times over…EMAIL ME BACK!  Tongue out

Post # 9
3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Inability to return calls/answer my questions.  I was almost going to book one place but wanted a few things clarified.  Despite calling and leaving multiple messages saying I needed to hear soon because I was making a speedy decision, it took them 2.5 weeks for someone to call back with the answers.  I even reached one poor lady a few times that was supposed to be trained but hadn’t been yet and didn’t know anything (and didn’t call me back with answers after promising she would).

I too have an unusual first name.  I would never blacklist based on that because it’s such a common error I’d lose out on good people that way.  I can see your point about someone who needs to be detail oriented, perhaps, such as a wedding planner, but I don’t think it matters for the DJ, florist, etc.

Post # 10
2750 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Vendor Dealbreakers

Dress shopping: No photos, no purchase.

Photographer: Unwilling to give alternatives or suggestions to work with my budget. 

Venue: Limitarions on everything. IE points to spend, but you can only spend it on select items in which the minimum cost exceeded your maximum points. =/ dumb.

Bridesmaid dress on Etsy: Refused to send swatches.


For me, mostly, are rude and unprofessional comments.  I was interested in one venue and the lady who met me (I’m sure she was joking) spent a lot of time making fun of where Fiance and I were raised.  She kept saying “Oh you poor things”… it was so condescending. =/

Post # 11
281 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

This is so funny, hits so close to home!!! lol my name is Brenna, for whatever reason people just can’t figure it out, my name is also in my email address and I was called Breanne, brenda, Brianna, all forms of this name you can think of, I’ve been called. My whole life it was that way 😛 So yeah, I understand the annoyance and I don’t think it’s bridezilla! I think if someone doesn’t have the respect to get your name write in written email, they can’t develop a personal relationship with you, and that’s a big part I’ve found. Tomorrow I go meet with two people about my venue choices, and this was something I was thinking about too. Both women have been very nice and pretty professional so far, we will see how it goes in person! I really think you shouldnt have to settle at all, you will know whats right for you, and even whos the best match for you to be dealing with while planning your wedding. I meshed so well with the women at my reception hall that I just knew it was the perfect space after that. she left me with no doubts and no unanswered questions. You can tell when a person loves working with brides, they are incredibly patient.

Post # 12
7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@eloping: Ha!  Good for you.

I can’t stand it when people take too long to get back to me or are difficult to get in touch with.  I understand that I’m not the only client out there, but I’m planning *insert specific aspect of our wedding* NOW, not in 2-3 weeks, thankyouverymuch.

Post # 13
328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

people who don’t have their s#^! together! I hate it….when we have a meeting, come prepared!! I went to see a caterer and he didn’t provide us with printouts of his proposed menu, and then he proceeded to ask us all these questions that he already should have known the answers to—-they were on the proposal that he sent us! grr…


Treating me like a number. I dislike not having personal attention. Not that I’m a princess or a diva or anything, but is it that hard to have one point of contact for me? Some photogs I have called felt like I was calling a customer service center. Every time I called, someone else answered and I had to explain myself all over again.

Post # 14
341 posts
Helper bee

I was at a bridal show in Sept and fell in love with a decorator’s display.. it was gorgeous! Crystals, LED lights, the right colors.. just beautiful. So I stood there for 10 mins waiting for her to finish texting or whatever she was doing on her blackberry. She finally noticed us waiting to talk to her, she looked at us, looked away, turned to face the opposite direction and CONTINUED TEXTING. So I started talking loudly about how much I liked the crystals and how great they would look in our colors when she turned around again, rolled her eyes at me and sighed (!) as she pushed herself out of her chair. She did come over to answer my questions but it was all one-word answers or reasons why it wouldn’t work. I wonder how many bookings she got that day? Def not mine!

Post # 15
1088 posts
Bumble bee

deal breaker for us was a place that charged $4 for each beer and $6.50 for every mixed drink anyone got at the bar during our wedding.. um no thanks! we have invited 200 guests, I’m not going to pay $4 for each beer, when each person could drink 3 or 4 or more..

so yeah we found this amazing place that lets us bring our own alcohol we only have to pay for the bartender 🙂

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