(Closed) What are your views on Vow Renewals?

posted 9 years ago in Vow Renewals
  • poll: Do you think Vow Renewals are necessary?

    Yes

    No

    Other - please explain :)

  • Post # 47
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I voted other, I don’t think it’s necessary but if a married couple are having an important anniversary coming up such as 10 year, or 20 year or above, and they want to celebrate by renewing their vows, then great! It’s an awesome way to celebrate. 

    Post # 48
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    I think it is appropriate for a big anniversay or after a couple goes threw turmoil as a recommittment to each other. I don’t care if someone wants to throw on every year but I personally find it odd to throw a huge party around it (for those throwing one every year or not on a big anniversary).

    I guess the bottom line for me personally is I can’t afford the wedding that I want and am not happy with anything else then I should wait and save until i can afford it so I am not disappointed.

    My main gripe about those who choose to have a second wedding party is when they say but I don’t count the first one as our wedding day but yet are happy to receive the benefits from it. If you don’t believe you are married don’t take the benefits then.

    Post # 49
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    Bumble bee

    I wouldn’t do it for myself. I feel like saying my vows once should be true enough the last a lifetime but I can see how it is important and special to some people for whatever reasons. 

    Post # 50
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think in some circumstances they are very appropriate. I don’t see them as meaning your original vows expired I think it’s just a way to say publicly that you still mean it. 

    I don’t really see how a wedding isn’t a gift grab but a vow renewal is. if someone wants to have a vow renewal ceremony I have no judgment about it. 

    Post # 51
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @IowaDDS13:  Strongly disagree with your statement about a bride not being allowed to call her wedding ceremony, where she walks down the aisle, and pledges in front of her family and friends to marry the person, and then throws a celebration of this commitment, a wedding, purely because they had some legal paperwork done earlier. Heck, in a number of countries (including here in Japan), the ceremony and the paperwork are always done separetely. Does that mean brides in these countries are not entitled to have what they consider, for them, a real wedding?

    We will be having a vow renewal. It will be the whole shabang. I will rewear my wedding dress, we will have flowers and an aisle, and a bunch of people there. There will even be a reception. And it will be about 14 months after our wedding. We are an international couple (USA and NZ). My grandparents, brother and a large number of my friends and family will be unable to travel. We don’t want them to miss out, so we are having a vow renewal, so my grandparents get the chance to see their first grandchild wallk up the aisle. I don’t really care if people find these sorts of things tacky. My family mean more to me.

    Post # 52
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    I don’t think they’re necessary as such, but I see no problem with them 🙂

    Post # 53
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Id love to do a vow renewal at 10 or 25 years. If a couple want to renew the bond they share, it’s a beautiful statement & a great reason for a celebration. As long as its treated as a vow renewal ceremony, not a second ‘wedding’ ceremony – These are 2 different things entirely. I kind of had 2 wedding dates. I had a private ceremony overseas followed by a reception a few weeks later. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with ppl who want to do a ‘second chance’ wedding ceremony, but it shouldn’t be called a vow renewal if it’s a few months later, you’ve invited everyone you know, you’re spending more than your actual wedding and you’re expecting gifts. That would be a wedding, not a vow renewal.

    Post # 54
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @farawayviolet:  same here. we want our whole family to be there to celebrate with us. that’s not possible for what we’re having later this month. but it is for june. so yeah, we will be married this month, but our wedding is in june. honestly, this is the only place i’ve ever seen such animosity over it. we’ve made our plans known to everybody and nobody has had one negative word to say about it. they’re all happy for us.

    i don’t understand why people have such negative feelings toward something that doesn’t affect them or their own marriage one iota.

    Post # 55
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We are definately having one for our ONE year anniversary. I don’t expect gifts and I am wearing a SHORT white dress. We want to celebrate the fact that we made it through the first year of marriage. Ours is more of a party than a wedding. It will begin at 9 pm, lots of alcohol, no kids allowed. We have been through a lot as a couple and we want to PARTY!

    Post # 56
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    Not necessary at all, but totally fine abiding one stipulation:CAKE!

    Post # 57
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2002

    @SimpleGifts:  +1

    not a must have – but have no opinions to those who do them.

    husband and i loved our wedding so much. we love love. and all things wedding. dressing up. being around friends and family. we’d relive that day over and over.

    were definitely open to doing one ourselves. we SAY that we will do one on our 10 year, just the two of us on a beach. we say we will do a 25 year. with our children. and a 50 year with everyone and the whole fam dam. big party. we’ll be old of course. itd be relaxed but something for us to enjoy with our family, quality time. so maybe thatd just be a party vs having actual vows. but who knows! i hope to be as in love then as we are now! 

    of course no money or gifts. thatd be the weird part.

    i also had the worst times finding a dress, so i look forward to finding another one!

    Post # 58
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I don’t get vow renewals.  Our vows were made for life – they don’t expire.

    We read through them every anniversary (well, the two we’ve had) anyway.  But it’s not renewing them, it’s just a reminder…and we had the very traditional ones!

    Post # 59
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I don’t think thry are necessary but we plan on having one 8]

    Post # 60
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    608 posts
    Busy bee

    I’m renewing my vows with my husband. I will be wearing a white dress. And having a big ole reception. If you don’t like it don’t go to one

    Post # 61
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Not necessary, but to each their own.  I think it could be nice to just have a party at the 5 or 10 mark, or beyond.  I used to be really into the idea until someone on here said “you don’t need to renew them because it implies they were broken.”  At the same time, if it is just a way to honor one another and the marriage I see it as maybe a nice idea.

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