(Closed) What are your views on Vow Renewals?

posted 9 years ago in Vow Renewals
  • poll: Do you think Vow Renewals are necessary?

    Yes

    No

    Other - please explain :)

  • Post # 122
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    @louiseW:  In all honestly I find them useless.  I feel the day-to-day is reminder enough of your commitment to one another.  No need to have someonw recite vows again.  I also would prefer to just take a nice vacation than spend any money on a renewal ceremony. 

    Post # 123
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    762 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    @ASDMom:  That’s nice of you. That is, to request donations.  That’s what I am going to do for a baby shower.  I am requesting that people donate to an under-privileged children’s charity as opposed to giving us a gift.  

    Post # 124
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    Bee Keeper

    I don’t think they are *necessary*, but can be sweet as long as the couple has been married at least 10 years…

    Especially if their original ceremony was very intimate, and now they wanted to throw a larger party, or something like that.

    And any vow renewal ceremony after 30 years of marriage or more will probably make me flat-out cry (whereas I don’t tend to cry at weddings). I get very sentimental about long marriages.

    Post # 125
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    1391 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I don’t think its necessary,  I’d maybe do one for 20yr wedding anniversary.  

    Post # 127
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013 - rolling hills of southern italy

    vow renewal ceremonies…where you walk down the aisle? And have people watch you say vows? Not so much. Big fancy party for a big anniversary? Of course, yes!

    Post # 128
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013 - rolling hills of southern italy

    @lollipopmom11:  keep it just between your little family. Get dressed up nice.. Not bridal..go to the castle, bring a photographer. Write something nice for your daughters. I don’t think you even need an officiant. Then go out for a fancy dinner. you could make it a surprise for the girls… It doesn’t have to be a vow renewal.. Make it a family photoshoot all about celebrating your love as a family.

    i know how hard this stuff is. Italy is no walk in the park. I have lived here for nearly 5 years. hold on, it gets easier. a little. not a lot, but some. You have all been strong. Celebrate it. I bet your daughters would feel so special.

    Post # 130
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @SuperPrincessPeach:  

     

     Hope you find a better community. Try TheKnot.com. The members there communicate the way you do. I do feel the need to say that you will not get anywhere in life, if you run away every time someone says something that you don’t like. I assume that you are an adult and not a petulant child.

     

     Just as you are free to say what you like, I am free to give my opinion on what you have said. You DID direct it at me because your post showed “@TakeTwo”. If you don’t want people to think that you are speaking to or about them, it would make more sense NOT to specifically reference them in your posts.

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    Post # 131
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @cath3114:  I don’t see how that could be tacky or a gift grab.  You want to celebrate your marriage with your friends and family, those closest to you.  People who have the means to do that immediately/when they want to don’t understand that, but I do.

    Post # 132
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    754 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I don’t think its necessary by any means. But i think its adorable, especially for big anniversaries or when the couple has gone through a lot. My parents are thinking of doing something for their 30th anniversary in the next few years! 🙂

    Also, not everyone gets to do their dream wedding initially if they have to have a civil ceremony, are in the military or if they elope. So it is nice when they get to have the same rights as any other bride and groom. 

    With that said, i think huge “number two” parties when they have already had a big wedding or when the wife thinks she gets another excuse to go all bridezilla and expect every person around her to stop their lives and give her another “big day” ….I think is awful rude. 

     

    Post # 133
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    560 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @HappinessIsInDaisies:  

    I know a woman who is doing a vow renewal when she has already had TWO big weddings. She was married as a teenager which ended in divorce and then she remarried another dude in a lavish ceremony, even though she was cheating on the groom and told people she didn’t love him.

    Now ten years later, she is having a huge vow renewal for ten years of marriage. It will be a wedding all over again, with the original bridal party dressed in white and all the guests have to dress in black. Best of all she is having this in Florida, which means many of her guests will have to PAY FOR HOTELS AND PLANE FARE. Poor thing doesn’t even realize that people look at her as a pathetic attention whore. Even her family and her in-laws are rolling their eyes because they think she is being ridiculous. 

    The only reason I am doing my vow renewal so early in our marriage is my parents will be retiring and leaving the country long before our 10th or 20th year. My mother’s family tends to die rather young and I don’t know if my mother will be alive by the time our 10th rolls around. I don’t want my parents to have to travel far to come to a small vow renewal and I would like my parents to see me in a wedding gown. I am no spoiled brat who has already had two weddings and wants a third. Wink

    Better late than never I always say. 

    Post # 134
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @TakeTwo:  Holly crap…that is ridiculous! I’ve never heard of a such a thing. Do you have to go???

    Yeah, i think something small is really nice. I like the idea of on our 10th having a small ceremony in New Hampshire. We’re getting married in his home town in Ireland so someday when we’ve had kids and before my parents are too old, i think i would like to do something small with just my immediate family in my home state since we won’t get that chance this time around. 🙂

    Post # 135
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    560 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @HappinessIsInDaisies:  

    Hell naw I don’t have to go. She invited me but I am not interested in that foolishness. I don’t have respect for women who only marry men because they have money, or have the audacity to say that they want a vow renewal because they didn’t love their husband when they got married. She’s very stupid and immature. I have never heard of someone needing a lavish vow renewal when they have already had TWO big weddings.

    My mother does not like small gatherings, so she gave us a lot of crap when we got married about our wishes to have a small wedding. This is part of the reason we eloped. We are paying for our vow renewal and my mother learned her lesson when she was left out of our wedding because of her attitude.

    Post # 136
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I get pretty pissed off of people here on the boards saying that my wedding was a vow renewal because I had to get legally married before the wedding.  That’s a bunch of BS.  Signing the paperwok and having a wedding are not the same thing.

    Regular vow renewals?  I guess if that’s what you’re into.  They alwasy make me think of John & Kate + 8 (remember their vow renwal in Hawaii?).  I think that an anniversary party will always be enough for me.

     

     

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