Post # 1
I’m thinking about just wearing one single ring as my wedding band/ring instead of adding a band to my current engagement ring. For one thing, I think my engagement ring is lovely, but it just isn’t me. Any band that would match it would be a band that I wouldn’t be super fond of. I am not ungrateful, unloving or unsentimental. I’m not replacing the engagement ring (and if you’ve read some of my earlier posts, you know that I was very, very tempted to and felt conflicted about it for awhile), and I’ll be wearing it for more than two years because we have a long engagement.
I feel like since I get to choose my wedding band/ring (My Fiance wanted the proposal to be a complete surprise, so he didn’t consult me at all on the e-ring), this is my chance to choose what I like. So… I’m thinking about either just wearing a new band that doesn’t match the current engagement ring (and maybe asking for an engagement-type ring for an anniversary) or just getting a new ring (and maybe asking for an eternity band or something for an anniversary). The downside to just wearing a band would be that it might be difficult to find an “anniversary” ring to match it later.
If I go with the first option of going with a completely new ring instead of a band, I think I’d like to look for a bit bigger center stone– maybe that sits a bit lower– which is not a solitaire– not because I’m into tons of bling, but because I don’t want it to have what I think of as the traditional engagement look. I don’t want people to get the idea that I’m still “just engaged” or that I want to seem that way. My current engagement ring is more of a traditional solitaire, and I don’t want to just trade it in for one that’s like it but just bigger– I’d rather go with a completely different, more wedding-ish look.
Post # 3
i plan to wear wedding band only.. dont like e-rings and love the simple look of a single band on the left hand
Post # 4
I think your ring is lovely, (but if it’s not your style there’s nothing wrong with that). I would just wear a wedding band and get a different engagement-looking ring to go with it later on.
Post # 5
Im just keeping my engagment ring and not getting a band bc I love it so much! Maybe I will get a band in the future.
Post # 6
i’d like to wear mine together but they just dont fit together so i’ll be switching my e-ring over to the right…
I think its fine for you to pick your own wedding band and have it not match, it doesn’t have to be a band either and i dont think ppl will just assume your just engaged.
Post # 7
@SnuckyFox: Oops! Sorry! I wasn’t very clear in my description… The ring in the picture is the one that I would like– that I think might pass as a wedding ring because it doesn’t look as much like the traditional solitaire engagement ring, which is what my engagement ring is. Again, sorry about the mix-up!!
Post # 8
@jadebinkx: I love the green in your rings! So gorgeous and eye-catching! And that’s so reassuring… I’ve been afraid that people will think I’m still just engaged if the ring doesn’t look wedding band-ish enough.
Post # 9
You can do whatever you want.
I think you’re on the right track getting a ring you like and just wearing that without the e-ring, then getting a complimentary band for the e-ring later.
I couldn’t decide between two wedding rings rings, so my Fiance agreed–one of them will be used in the ceremony and the other I’ll get in a few years as a gift. He’s fine with me moving my three rings (2 bands, 1 e-ring) around so long as I have at least one of the three on my left hand!
Really, it’s up to you.
Post # 10
@AnneNM82: Oh! I didn’t realize, blame my poor reading skills. I think that ring is stunning and timeless. I would snatch it up in a heartbeat.
Also, I saw a woman today who didn’t have a seperate band but I could easily recognize that she was married. Maybe it was the style of her e-ring/band or her age (most get married young around here), but it got the point across.
Post # 11
I think you should do whatever you are most comfortable. It my mind, if someone is wearing a ring on their left hand, and on their ring finger then they are spoken for. Engaged or Married, either way they are “off the market”. I don’t think there is a right or wrong answer for this situation…to each her own 🙂
Post # 12
@SnuckyFox: No worries! I’d tried to edit my post to make it more clear after I’d posted it– but all it did was to somehow create a second post that was almost exactly the same… 🙁 Anyway, yes, I think this ring is my second love! 😉 Unfortunately, I’m not sure where it’s from– I ran into this picture of it on “Project Wedding,” and for some reason they don’t list who carries the ring! Grr! And although I can’t try it on, I have a smaller, non-diamond, everyday right-hand ring that is very similarly shaped which I love– so I’m fairly sure I’d love it once I could try it on too…
@bissell: That makes me feel better. I want my ring to symbolize our commitment and our love and… us… but I was afraid of sending some sort of “I’m not totally committed” message or something because of the lack of a band. But you’re right; even if someone did think I was “just” engaged, it would still mean that I’m spoken for.
Post # 13
i am hoping for just one ring- an eternity band engagement ring. i’d wear it on my left hand and it would serve as both engagement and wedding ring.
Post # 14
I wear both of them on my left hand. They’re different styles, my ering is notched and my wedding band doesn’t fit it but it really doesn’t matter to me.
Post # 15
I’m in the same boat. I love my e-ring because my fiance picked it out, but it’s not something I would have picked out myself. I am thinking about getting an emerald-cut amethyst, surrounded by small diamonds for my wedding band and just wearing that. so many little decisions to make!