(Closed) What attracted you to your FI?

posted 11 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
123 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

When we first met and on our first date he was such a gentleman, very smart, sweet, a little shy, and so cute!  Our first date lasted almost 8 hours!  We didn’t want it to end.  He  walked me home and didn’t even kiss me goodnight- which was so polite and cute.

Post # 4
327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2020 - Holy Family Catholic Church, reception: National Infantry Museum

Our first date was so cute.  He took me to the most awful Italian restaurant ever, and then to a Comedy Show.  Afterwards we went for a walk on the river.  It was so romantic.  We didn’t stay out terribly late that night, cause it was a Thursday.  But the next night, he was Emcee-ing a show downtown and invited me out.  We were out until 4am and we’ve been together almost every single day since. 

He was so charming, so cute.  And so reserved.  He didn’t kiss me that first night either.  But the next night, under the full moon and the railroad tracks…wow… I get goosebumps just thinking about it! 

Post # 5
106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2020 - Millenium Biltmore Hotel

I just remember I couldn’t get over how darn cute he was. Then, of course, I found out so much more about him and I was hooked 🙂

I love this thread! Can’t wait to read what others have to say.

Post # 6
1276 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

So we didn’t start dating until four years after we met.  Apparently he had a crush on me from day one though…but I had no idea.  We were sort of friends, and I was attracted to him and just generally liked being around him.  But he was always very strange and awkward if it was just the two of us.  So I assumed that he was trying to signal his lack of interest.  Turns out he was just crazy shy (which I never would have guessed and is generally totally unlike him).  Glad he eventually got over that enough to fly to Patagonia, seriously, to go backpacking with me…and he still didn’t tell me that it was about anything other than the mountains until a week into the trip!  Until then it was actually pretty hard for me b/c I was getting to know him better than I ever had, and every new thing I found out made him seem more perfect for me.

We’ve pretty much been hooked since then.  At that point we lived far apart, but even LD I don’t think we ever went a day without talking.  It tooks us a few years to get engaged, but I’m pretty sure both of us knew within about 2 days of that trip.

Post # 7
5398 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

When me met, I hate to say it, but I was expecting someone much less good looking from horrible pictures I had been shown.  So initially I was like, WOW, he’s pretty good looking.  Then, when we started talking, I realized he was such an intelligent and caring person.  Then, what got me hook line and sinker is that he’s so determined, passionate, and one of the most caring people I have ever met in my entire life.  Like Mrs. Bee’s first date, our first meeting was like a fireworks show.

Post # 8
1379 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I love him because I have always, always been able to be 100% myself with him. Not that I typically changed for other guys, but there was never anything I kept from him, never anything I don’t say around him, never a tear I hide, or a laughter I muffle. I am everything I want to be and more when I’m with him — cause he brings out the best in me.

Even when we were friends (after we dated briefly) he was alwyas someone that I could talk to, and I know he felt the same way. His mother was sick with cancer (she’s cancer free for 5 years now!!) and he always called me just to talk, not often, once every 3, 4 months, and he was just someone who got me.  After our "second first date" it wasn’t a question that he was someone I knew I would spend the rest of my life with. 


WOW cheesy! I miss him so much right now!!

Post # 9
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

AW! I love this question!

Let’s see, when I first saw him I was attracted to his blue eyes cause they were mesmerizing and SOO blue.

But seriously? The deal-breaker? When we had our first ‘outing’ with him, me, and his best friend. He stuffed his best friend in his backseat full of junk and I MEAN junk, and we were driving back from the mall, he started playing his cds in the car and it had Whitney Houston, and Shania Twain.

I knew it was love when he and his best friend belted out to Whitney Houston’s "I will always love you" without any shame. I knew then and there that I like him. And I can be sily with him. That’s pretty important to me!

Post # 10
756 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Like fizicsGirl, I had also known my Fiance for a couple of years before we started dating.  He was one of the managers at my college bookstore, where I worked for all of college. We spent a lot of time together, obviously, and would talk a lot during the slow parts of the day.  He was funny, good-looking, smart, and so much nicer about everything than the other managers.  I always thought he was older than he is (even though he’s still 8 yrs older than I am), so when I found out how old he actually was (27 when we started dating, to my 19), I was surprised, and thought, "Well, he’s not THAT much older…" 

After we’d known each other about a year, I started to feel really physically attracted to him, too. When we started dating, he was visibly nervous around me and even seemed intimidated by me, which blew my mind.  On our first date, it took him about 3/4 of the length of a movie to attempt to hold my hand!  We already knew so much about each other because of being friends, and the emotional connection was obvious.  The physical part moved right along after that. 🙂

Post # 11
796 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

He has curly orange hair, and we were able to have really easy conversations. And he’s big and strong! Plus, when I first met him he told me he had a job I’d never heard of (golf professional) so I wanted to find out more about it.

Post # 12
1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

I knew him for a while before we started dating. I loved how open and honest he was (he would talk about anything). I also thought he was very polite (a gentleman) and a real cutie pie too .

Post # 13
7429 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Oh man, I’ll try to keep this short and sweet. I’ve known his since I was 11, he taught me how to sneak out of my parents house (to go hang out with him and his friend josh who i was totally crushing for then).  We always hung out in the same group – he didn’t like me cuz he thought I was bitchy and bossy, I didn’t like him cuz he was a stupid car guy and thought his you know what didn’t stink.  He was a year ahead of me in school, and I only saw him a handful of times in the next 4 years. Then I went to a party to hang out with some other people and he ended up being there, we both had just gotten out of serious relationships, so we bonded over their horribleness.  Its been almost 5 years now, and I can’t imagine life without him. 

Why I love him now?  He’s super sweet, my best friend is now one of his best friends, and my family calls him their son in law already.  He loves me, even with all my many imperfections (I still am bitchy and bossy, just not as much).  Plus hes HAWT!!!  I daydream about him all the time when I’m not with him 

Post # 14
160 posts
Blushing bee

He was tall, really tall. I was 16, 5’8 and tired of guys who were shorter than me. He walked by, all 6 foot 4 inches of him and that was it. And now I can wear heels 🙂

Post # 15
5822 posts
Bee Keeper

He is the kindest person I’ve ever known, and he always brings out the best in me.  He makes me a better person, and I love him for it!

Post # 16
2373 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I wasn’t attracted to him at first, but his kindness eventually won me over.

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