(Closed) What attracted you to your SO first?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: What attracted you to your SO first?
    Appearance : (76 votes)
    33 %
    Personality : (127 votes)
    56 %
    Other : [explain] : (24 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    1348 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    A person’s smell is usually the thing thay attracts you to them the most apparently. Something to do with finding a compatable immune system in our partners so our children are healthy?

    For me, it was more personality. I think he’s good looking, but if I’m honest I wasn’t drooling or anything, and I wasn’t interested in dating him until we became closer and started talking to each other more.

    As for whether or not I could date someone with terrible looks as long as they had a great personality, I don’t know. I think there needs to be balance. Once you’re in love it’s different, but I don’t think I would be interested in dating someone who I was grossed out by. One of my exes is hardly what I would call good looking, but I don’t think he looks disgusting either. Someone doesn’t have to be good looking, but I think there needs to be a little attraction, or at least no negative feelings about the way they look.

    Post # 4
    6110 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    My Fiance and I were set up by our friends. My roommate’s boyfriend told me he wanted me to meet his friend and showed me some pictures. I thought he was cute but what really got me was that this friend told me he doesn’t sleep with girls on the first night. I know he could have been lying and it’s silly, but that’s what really got me interested. Turns out it was true lol (he didn’t try anything the first night even though I slept over (fully clothed lol) and we only kissed the second “date”). So I guess I was first attracted to him because of his non-douchy-ness haha

    Post # 5
    4311 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Def his hawtness.  I didn’t get to know him until like 10 years later, haha!

    But for me, personality is HUGE.  I have definitely dated less attractive men and become more attracted to them via their personality.  Had my husband been a douche even though he was hot, I would not have dated him.  Luckily for me, he is as nice as he looks!

    Post # 6
    2999 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Him getting out of his big truck and unprovoked buying me a cran and vodka lol

    Post # 7
    1848 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    We had mutual friends and a mutual hobby (hockey). I had a feeling he liked me, but I let it go because I’m vain like that LOL. Turns out I was right.

    It wasn’t love at first sight, but the first thing that attracted me to him was the fact that he was a complete gentleman. He didn’t (obviously) want in my pants immediately. All of the guys I encountered before him were either so obvious about getting me in bed/too aggressive/played too many games, so I was at ease with Fiance.

    He’s still a gentleman. 🙂

    Post # 8
    85 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    i would have to say his looks first then his sense of humor hes a total package and I feel so lucky to have him!!

    Post # 9
    4495 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Fiance is very good looking, but I would definitely say his personalty. Good looking people are a dime a dozen.

    Post # 10
    5371 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

    His appearance attracted me to him at first (: I actually thought he was really full of himself the first time I met him. I’m so glad I gave him a chance because he has an amazing personality! If I had to choose one or the other, I would choose personality.

    Post # 11
    11233 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    His hot face and body lmao.

    Considering he didn’t talk to me (too shy) for two MONTHS after we first met, all I had to go on were his looks and what I heard about him from others.

    Post # 12
    2780 posts
    Sugar bee

    Lol I met my SO online. He messaged me and I contemplated messaging him back cause I didn’t think he was that cute in pictures. A couple days later I replied and so glad I did because he is the sweetest, cutest man I have ever met. He’s wonderful to my daughter and I.

    Post # 13
    2685 posts
    Sugar bee

    We met online, so I really couldn’t gauge him on looks as much as personality (he had like 1 picture in his profile).  The first messages he sent to me were really sweet and thoughtful, and they really stood out from the others I interacted with online.  His good looks just sealed the deal 🙂

    Post # 14
    1684 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I’m so shallow!

    I saw him across the yard at a crowded frat party and felt like I just had to introduce myself.  The amazing personality is what kept me with him from then on Smile

    Post # 15
    7770 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Definitely personality!  People’s looks don’t really entrance or entice me.  Or impress me.  He was so nice and polite and confident and those things were very attractive to me.  I also was able to make him laugh and laugh with him and that is really important to me.


    Post # 16
    685 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    His eyes. We locked eyes the first time we met – before we even said a single word. We have been together every day since then.

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