(Closed) What attracted you to your SO first?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
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  • Post # 47
    3245 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    @jenilynevette:  The very first thing that attracted me to my SO, the first time I noticed him (I’d seen him on and off at social dances for a few years, but never paid attention until a particular time), was his smile, and general attitude. He seemed interested, and wistful, and pleased to have a pretty girl smiling at him– not embarrassed to be looked at or cocky. And I thought he was really cute. All that was attractive. I have to say, though, that after that first time, I didn’t think he was exceptionally good-looking by any means; it took getting to know him to think he was good-looking again. Weird!






    I guess I would have to say that initially it was his appearance, but what got me really interested after that initial impression was his personality.






    Looks are actually pretty important for me– I have a very distinct physical “type” of guy I’m attracted to, and my SO definitely fits into that. The thing is, a guy may be incredibly physically attractive to me, but once I know a little about his personality, that completely makes or breaks the attraction. I have an acquaintance who is physically just gorgeous. . . but when I got to know him, I decided he wasn’t attractive or pleasant to be around, just because of his character.




    That being said, I’m still not sure if I would be able to date someone who had a really great personality, but wasn’t physically attractive. I consider myself pretty good-looking, and I would want a man who was at least close to my equal in looks. Sexual/physical attraction is a very important force for me in relationships, so I wouldn’t hang around long if I wasn’t physically attracted to a guy somehow.




    Post # 48
    1982 posts
    Buzzing bee

    His smile is what got me. And his eyes. Both still make my knees shaky! 4 (almost 3) days!

    Post # 49
    145 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I suppose it counts as personality, but I fell in love with my SO’s brain first. We met online, and he used alliteration in his profile πŸ™‚

    Post # 50
    3571 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    DH was the most hilarious person I had met in a long time.. I thought he was super funny. I guess I thought he was cute, although he wasn’t immediately my type at all. We just massively clicked and had the best time together, which I think made him more attractive to me over time. 

    (I knew him for a little bit before anything happened between us. Long story there! We were actually dating other people.)

    Post # 51
    2080 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @jenilynevette:  DH is good-looking but his good manners are what initially attracted me him. I always notice a gentleman.

    Post # 52
    1734 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Well we started out as friends and honestly when we first met I wasn’t physically attracted to him at all. But I liked his personality. He’s sarcastic, smart, playful, a little bit arrogant, and a whole lot of sweet. The feelings of “oh hey, he’s kind of hot” came later, right around when we had our first kiss πŸ™‚

    Post # 53
    400 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Saw him across the room, and he was hot.  Personality was a bonus that I discovered a minute later πŸ™‚

    Post # 54
    1462 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    What attracted you to your SO first? For me it was his intelligence I had never met a man that could match wits with me it was so refreshing that I was completely intrigued. I was excited to get to know him because I thought finally I met my match. It felt like he knew me for years and we only had one conversation. 

    He is definitely easy on the eyes. His personality is the second most important because we can talk about anything and laugh about everything. Neither one of us takes ourselves too serious and we to love laugh.

    How important are looks for you? Look are important to me but that wasnt what attracted to me.

    I could definitely date someone who was fairly if not attractive if he had an fantastic personality.


    Post # 55
    181 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Initially I thought he was cute so we started talking. It was personality that really kept me coming back though.

    Post # 56
    1829 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013


    The first thing I ever saw on my DH was his back and shoulders, I was at a bar for happy hour setup by his “mother” who has been my girlfriend for 12 years and is now my Mother-In-Law. He was sitting at the bar with his back to me and I had no clue who he was. I walked up to the bar and just saw the most amazing back and shoulders I have ever seen, who says that? I stood next to him, took a glance and order two drinks one for me and my girlfriend and walked back to my table. Not knowing this was my friends son, the reason we were there!

    She set this happy hour up so that all her coworkers could met her son who just came back from his deployment in Iraq. She wanted us to met him since throughout his deployment we all donated funds, snacks, books etc to his entire platoon during their tour.

    Having no idea what fate had in store for me, I guess I was drawn to his looks but not in the same sense. Like I said I saw his back and shoulders and thought sexy, not sure if that counts as per looks……

    Needless to say at the end of the night I left the bar early, as I left I gave him my number and told him he should take me out on a date, April 11th will be 5 years the day I walked in that bar and saw his amazing back and shoulders, and as of Jan 2013 we are husband and wife. πŸ™‚ 


    Post # 57
    430 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    “Other” for me.  I met my Fiance online and the first thing that attracted me to him was his impeccable grammar.  Yep, I’m a nerd.  Honestly though, that worked out really well because we are a great match and constantly challenge each other in a positive way.  I couldn’t imagine having it any other way.

    Post # 58
    6354 posts
    Bee Keeper

    It was him asking me out.

    I noticed that he was good looking right away but I wasn’t looking for a boyfriend at the time (too close to a recent breakup, didn’t want a rebound). So I didn’t think about him that way.

    Then… he asked me out, and I went. I could see no reason why not to. And it was incredible. It was like movie romantic for both of us. So it must have been his personality, since he looked the same πŸ™‚

    Although I’m shallow about wanting good looks in my partner rather than a fat wallet (never cared about the latter), yes, I could see something attractive about anyone if their personality was deep enough and kind enough, because their emotions will come through in their facial expressions and that’s what would be attractive then. For Fiance though, he was damn good looking and I knew it, even before I knew I wanted him πŸ™‚

    Post # 59
    4655 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Uhh… I dunno kind of a combination of things. I guess the best way to put it is like… energy or vibe or something. He first got my attention from behind me though (by cracking a funny joke to his friend when we were in a reeeeally boring presentation) so I guess it wasn’t all appearance. But when I turned around to see who said that I was definitely like (oh dang he is cute) in my head.

    Post # 60
    108 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    wow there are a ton of people on here who met their significant other online!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! we should do a poll!!!!!!!!!!!


    Post # 61
    2482 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    “Other” for me too. 

    The first things I noticed about my husband were (in order) his hands/wrists, his shoulders, his confidence, and then his butt. 

    I was interviewing with the HR manager at his office and she wanted him to meet me since they were hiring for his department. When he walked in, I was adjusting my position (crossing my legs under the table) and looking down. The first thing I noticed when I glanced up were his hands clasped on the conference room table, immediately followed by his broad shoulders. When we started discussing my resume and the job description, I quickly noticed his confident, knowledgeable demeanor. When he got up to leave, I stood up to shake his hand and on my way back down to my chair, I noticed his tight buns out of the corner of my eye. I’m a sucker for a great ass; I found out (much later) that he was/is a “butt” guy too when admitted to me that the first time I walked out of his office, he couldn’t resist staring at my backside. 

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