(Closed) What bizarre thing(s) has your FI had strong opinions about?

posted 10 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 62
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

so i didn’t read through all of the posts, but i have one to share! oddly enough, mr.v has a verrrry strong opinion about the bm’s dresses. Surprised i know, completely insane! his argument is that they must wear the same exact dress (there’s five very different shaped bm’s) because that’s just how weddings are – if the girls aren’t going to wear identical dresses, then the guys should just wear whatever (meaning suites and/or tuxes with mismatched random colors) too (yes – he did go there!). i just can’t seem to get it through his head that dresses fit girls differently and comfortable bridesmaids = happy bridesmaids which subsequently = happy bride. he said if they aren’t going to look identical, then we shouldn’t even have a wedding party b/c “what’s the point? they’re all going to look different and nobody is going to know they’re in the wedding.”. umm, hello – not everybody is going to be carrying RED BOUQUETS! thankyouverymuch! silly silly mr.v – he drives me bananas.

Post # 63
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Strangely enough, my fiance’s biggest thing has been about my veil. He hates the blusher veil (so do I) but I didn’t expect him to be so adamant about it!

Post # 64
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Blushing bee

@ toastercat. My fiance has insisted on polka as well, but wont allow me polka dots! Not even on our dinnerware, or anything even remotely registry/wedding related ๐Ÿ™ I guess when your marrying a man with the polish eagle tattooed on his arm (don’t like that either) you have to expect some dorky polka music. I did however, put my foot down on the dollar dance (Polish tradition aparently).

Post # 65
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

God men are daft… love this post!

My man didn’t want a wedding ring. No way.

Then, after I chipped away at him awhile, ‘Ok, I’ll have a plain one.’.

Then, looking at pics on Etsy, ‘They’re very boring, why do the women’s ones get all the detail? Are there no Celtic pattern ones or something?’

So we’re going to have completely different wedding rings. Hey, it’s progress, I guess… He did jump up and down about something else, I just can’t remember right now…

Post # 66
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2020

my husband was really involved in all the decisions., we went to all the vendor meetings together and planned everything as a team. the one thing he was funny about though was the send off, i think he was afraid sparkelers would cause a fire or something, because he vetoed them right away!

Post # 67
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My man doesn’t care about much, which is good because I have strong opinions and don’t want to compromise Smile

But it can still sometimes be difficult, because I’m trying to keep some plans a secret, and he is naturally curious. So I’ve been telling him that my dress has sleeves and a collar. I think he might actually believe me! 

Post # 68
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My Fiance has a strange aversion to any shiny clothing…so you can imagine what issues this creates as most fancy dress material, like satin, is shiny! I think he’s getting over it though…the BMs all preffered the more structured look of satin for their dresses as opposed to chiffon or a matte, drapy fabric, so we went with that and he’s seeming ok with it. But other than that, he’s mainly had strong opinions where most guys probably do- their tux, music, food, & venue. He did insist the venue had to be on the water but not on the beach, though…and of course I was doing all the legwork for that! Managed to satisfy it though- we both LOVE our venue. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 69
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My Fiance cared sooo much about the cake that he drew it before we went to meet the cake lady. He had picked out the colors, flowers, tiers, etc. It was the only element he really cared about! It was kind of sweet though.

Post # 70
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We are getting married on the beach and our colors are tangerine, lime, and watermelon. My Fiance is insistant that the guys were different color shirts to match the colors. My BMs are in a solid color. I think it’s great he is so involved, but I’m not to sure about the different shirts….Oh well. It’s cute that he is trying!

Post # 71
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

The only thing that FH had a strong opinion about was he wanted to have a vintage car drive us to the reception. So we will. ๐Ÿ˜€

Post # 72
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2011

This hasn’t exactly been with our own wedding planning, but as we’ve gone to many weddings together over the years, my fiance has grown strongly against the ‘big, poofy dresses’ – a.k.a, the ones described on Say Yes to the Dress as princess or ballgown. But I’ve never been very keen on big dresses anyways, so it works out ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 73
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Blushing bee

@dancer, i think it’s ADORABLE that he’s trying, but I’m with you on being a bit hesitant. Could the guys have their own color boutinnere or pocket square? you could even take the color further to small elements such as socks or cufflinks. Good Luck, Your wedding is going to be adoreable!

 

My fiance aparently has very strong feelings against flip flops. Yet he agreed to (and ended up loving) linen pants. WEIRD!

Post # 74
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Worker bee

He cared about the centerpieces.  I wanted a vase filled with tall willow branches and he said no because he didn’t want “dead trees” on the tables. 

Post # 75
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

LOL, I need to chime in here because all of your responses are too funny! Its almost like my Fiance has had a little bit of each of these things to comment about- but by far the strangest thing he has latched on to is..

my shoes!? haha, he is so weird! He is insisting i do not have any sort of bow or flower on the front of my shoe, it totally freaks him out! And whats even funnier is that this runs common in our regular life too, not just for the wedding! Eventually I got to the point where i was so frustrated bc he hated everything i came home with (that he wasnt even supposed to see) that I told him to show me what he likes…and of course he shows me $800+ Loubs!

I said to him -You can dream on (but i know i secretly will be dreaming on too bc they were amaaaaazing!)

Post # 76
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My Fiance and I luckily have been teaming up with a lot of the wedding planning which is working out for the both of us, since we both have the same taste. 

The only thing that is making me bananas is that he feels that there has to be some sort of logical progression with EVERYTHING!  And he wants the decor guy to pick our wedding colors.  I wanted to starting Bridesmaid or Best Man dress hunting with my Maid/Matron of Honor but we can’t because he REFUSES to let me pick the colors and thinks “it’s not time to do all that yet”.

Silly Fiance… I need to tackle as much as possible ASAP!

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