(Closed) What bothers you the most about your SO/FI/DH?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My husband is a bit like that too. He rarely cries. In fact, I wasn’t even sure he could cry until last month when our (his) dog got hit by a truck last month… And I’ve known him for about 10 years!

Anyway, what annoys me the most is that he works for big ranch/company that his father co-owns, and he is basically next in line to own/manage it with his brother. He works so hard for this ranch, which is good because I love that he is driven, and he has basically made it so that I can be a stay at home wife if I so choose, but sometimes I just feel like I’m not important. I mean, we have only been married just over three months… Act like it!! 🙂 But as I said, he actually is really great, and I am probably just being spoiled (his fault :)) about this. I actually am really glad how he provides and I still get to live out my dream of “owning” a ranch.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My Darling Husband is so hard on himself! He’s so patient and accepting and kind with others but yet he’s ridiculously hard on himself!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Only 14 pictures!? How do you deal with that? I’m such a huge picture person, I have pictures of Fiance and I all over the place.

What bothers me most about Fiance is that, he PMSs worse than I do! When he gets in a bad mood, I don’t even want to be around him because every little thing is the end of the world. He’s such a pessimist. But he’s my pessimist!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Winter12:awww Maybe someday he’ll change his mind about pictures!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Fiance likes having his bff spend the night and plans to have him move in with us if we have a free room…which annoys the heck out of me and not sure I would allow that.  I like his bff, I just think at some point in a man’s life, he needs to grow up and start working so he can have his own place or do something for himself …he’s 26 years old and lives at home, gets allowance from his parents, doesn’t drive and doesn’t work. Fiance has to pick him up and drop him off each time he wants to hang out. he lives an hour away too!  He is a nice guy, but so darn lazy. grrrr..so i guess his lazy friends is my gripe with fiance.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@swtTea: Oh, boy, that would NOT fly with me!!

Funny about the credit card thing. It is flip-flopped with us. He has one, and I won’t get one. I use debit cards because I want to make sure I have cash to back it up. I grew up in a relatively poor family; him, not so much. But I do get the credit rating thing. However, my mom put my name as co-owner on a car that we took out a loan for, so I have credit from that, and I’ve also paid off all of my student loans already.

I wonder how you could get him to take more pictures… Do you think he smile at the wedding?

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

My SO has no sense of time, short-term or long-term.  

He’s late everywhere.  He doesn’t plan ahead or have any sense that it takes time to get ready or to travel to somewhere, so he usually doesn’t start getting ready for something until 5 minutes before we’re supposed to be there.  I’m always waiting on him, and since I’m the girl, people always assume it’s my fault that we’re late. 

Similarly, he has no sense of how aggravated it makes other people that they always have to wait on him.  Everyone will be ready to walk out the door, and he’ll always say, “hold on, I need to run pee.”  For most men, this is a 20 second endeavor.  For him, this takes several minutes.  Or if it’s time to get ready…it’s not just jumping in the shower for him… it’s a 1.5 hr sh!t, shower & shave eternity.  And he doesn’t use hair product or dry his hair or anything…  it just takes him forever.

From a long-term standpoint, again, he doesn’t plan ahead. 

He doesn’t realize that dating for 3.5 yrs is a LONG time.  He doesn’t realize that it takes a year to plan a wedding, then a while to actually get pregnant after you start TTC at my age after years of BC, then the pregnancy lasts 9 months.  It’s not like you decide one day to have a family, and the marriage and kids happen the next day.

Similarly, getting a new job doesn’t happen overnight either.  The day that you decide you’re ready to be at your new job doesn’t mean you’ll be there the next day.  You need to plan ahead, apply ahead, job search in advance. 

Lord help me….

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

My husband is kind of like that, pretty unemotional so I always joke with him that he has a black heart (which he doesn’t, he’s pretty awesome actually).  He smiles in photos, but something about photos make him smile all doofy.  I don’t know how many of our wedding photos we had to photoshop a better smile on him because he didn’t even look like his normal happy self!  Somehow posing for photos gives him this funny little nervous smile.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

My Darling Husband is cheap. If it’s something I want. If it’s something he wants, he’ll spend whatever amount of money neccessary.

A good example are Christmas gifts. I want an e-ring as a replacement for the one that belonged to my grandmother that Darling Husband lost a year and a half ago. The rings I like are all signifigantly less than $1,000. It’s important to me (I know it’s just jewelery, but it is important to me, trivial or not) and he could easily afford it–wouldn’t even have to save up. He could pay cash to MoissaniteCo tomorrow.

Darling Husband wants a new computer. He does not need a new computer. In fact, he currently has two computers that work perfectly well. Doesn’t matter–he wants a new one and it will cost, according to him, anywhere from $1,000 to $2,000 “depending.”

He called the ring I want a “stupid f


waste of money,” but if I ask him why he wants another computer, since he’s got two already and all, he gets very defensive and says I never let him have anything he wants.

 

 

 

 

 

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