(Closed) What bothers you the most about your SO/FI/DH?

posted 10 years ago in Relationships
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

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@yellowhammerlady: Hilarious! My husband also likes to claim he never gets anything he wants! Men are so silly sometimes!

Well, I really hopes he smiles. I don’t know him (obviously) but I bet he will, especially since he probably knows it is important to you. We don’t take a ton of pics either, which makes me sad, but he is trying. Although he isn’t quite so stubborn about it. Maybe there is a face he can make that isn’t smiling, but that you both like? Maybe like how models “smile with their eyes” but not with their lips??

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Winter12:I can relate to the picture thing! My Fiance HATES having his picture taken and I am not sure why, the boy looks gooo-ood! He does put on his ‘public’ face when there is a photo snapped, so you can’t really tell he is squirming inside. I am convincing him to get engagement pics done and in hopes he will ‘bond’ with the camera then and be ready for the wedding day! 

What bothers me the most though are two things:

1. Leaving all the drawers wide open in the bedroom after he has been in the dresser. 

2. He always asks me a question RIGHT before I put a peice of food in my mouth while we are eating. Then when I try to answer with food in my mouth he always says “What?” 

Silly boys.

Post # 20
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Sugar bee

The only thing that bothers me is his ability to “hog” conversations.  When we’re talking with mutual friends, he’ll butt in while I’m speaking.  I have to gently tell him to calm down b/c he gets sooo excited when discussing things, and usually he realizes it.  His family has noticed it and have to told him to shut up.

Post # 21
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

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@msnelson13: hehe, are you sure you’re not dating my husband? 

He’s literally the slowest man in the world, and has no concept of getting somewhere on time.

I asked him where he pictured himself in 5 years a while ago, and he was talking about having two boys and coaching their hockey teams.  You can’t even enroll until you’re 4, so if we had a four year old and an older kid in hockey, he’d have to be AT LEAST six.  Last I checked we didn’t have a one year old.

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Ranch

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@yellowhammerlady: I think I would cry if my bf (or husband at the time) told me it’s a “stupid F___ waste of money” Call me sensative! hehe I have a potty mouth and have very little patience and all that but my boyfriend is just so nice and calm. He has never cussed that way about something I have said or wanted so it would really surprise me and hurt my feelings, especially if it’s about my ring lol

When we first started dating, he was VERY VERY cheap. but 4 years into it, I don’t know what happened, but he just spent whatever money he had on me. Sometimes I feel bad and I’ll tell him “let’s go shopping for you.” We always end up getting something for me too though. Anything he hears me say that I want, he will get it for me. He spends NOTHING on him. I LOVE him. We aren’t officially engaged yet (tho I suspect it’s coming VERY soon from clues I’ve been getting here and there lol) but I have my promise ring meanwhile and the ONE thing…well…TWO things that bug me about him are 1. He is LATE everywhere OMG. My dad is very punctual so I HATE that. 2. I strongly dislike his dad that steps all over him and my bf is too nice to put a stop to it. Lucky him, I never keep quiet and have a lot to say in case his dad tries to tell me something =) Oh yes and it has now been almost 7 years in total!

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@ beekiss2, MINE TOO! Oh, my goodness. He always answers my questions! AGH. Especially when talking with my dad. I think he’s trying to impress him and not look timid or nervous (my dad is rather intimidating), but, dang it, LET ME TALK. Love him though. =]

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Mine is a video game/football addict. He’d siton the couch for 48 hours straight if he could. Sometimes he complains because ” I don’t spend enough time with him” but when he’s watching all of these things I really don’t like… I can’t can’t just sit there bored all of the time. I’d go insane!

Post # 26
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Blushing bee

Oh man, his lowpoint:

Our first Christmas.  He slept in on Christmas morning (my favorite day of the year!)…  missed our christmas together (just me and him before going over to my family’s house), missed Christmas at my family’s house altogether (with the occasional “I’m about to get in the shower” phone call), and then we were 2 hrs late for Christmas at his dad’s house that evenining….and it was only a 1.5 hr drive.  

I was incredibly pissed about Xmas morning, but I told him that was his one get out of jail free card. 

 

 

@boop — I think we too are dating the same person.  Late SO (even though I’m used to my punctual dad).  Future Father-In-Law that takes advantage of SO.

Post # 27
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

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@CaliRorter: I didn’t cry, I yelled lol. DH has quite the temper and I’m not exactly a shrinking violet. He’s come around, though, so yay!

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@Winter12: Wow. I would be livid. Rims and pretty much any car thingy (like colored lights) don’t make much sense to me. Especially if they’re bought while it’s being claimed that there isn’t money for an e-ring. I would be very offended, to say the least.

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Ranch

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@msnelson13:haha Oh wow, maybe we are! lol Isn’t it so annoying to grow up with a punctual dad, and then be with someone who thinks it is okay to be 2 hours late to everything? We have missed soo many things because of that. Poor guy he gets screamed at all the time over it lol We never fight about anything else but his punctuality.. When we have our “arguments” he NEVER screams at me or anything he just says YES BABY, YES, YOU ARE RIGHT. I WILL BE ON TIME NEXT TIME, but I already know he is lying lol It’s in his DNA to be late. But we love them, what can we do? =)

Post # 29
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

The two major things that bug me about him are:

1. He buys unnecessary stuff. Let’s start with the sports car, followed by a pickup truck because he couldn’t drive the sports car in the winter. Now he’s decided to put a lift kit on the pickup truck so he can get bigger tires and go off roading. He’s had the truck a year and has taken it off road once, for about 200 feet. And lifting it means it will not fit in any parking garages, so we can’t DRIVE IT ANYWHERE all winter. So he bought a practical vehicle, and put money into making it completely impractical. Don’t get me started about the 2 dirtbikes, the mountain bike (he bought a $2700 mountain bike, then wouldn’t spend $30 on a helmet until I MADE HIM), 2 snowmobiles, 2 motorcycles (you note the trend of 2 of each? it’s not because one is for me. It’s because he insists on having a “spare” of everything.)

 

2. He is super unemotional. If I say I love him, 19 times out of 20 he will say “me too” not even “you too” but “me too.” Or he’ll just smile at me. He has the emotional range of a teaspoon, it ranges from pretty happy to minorly bummed out, but he WILL NOT show that. He assumes he does, though, and gets mad at me when I tell him that I need to know how he feels about something. He assumes he conveys what is in his head and he totally doesn’t. He calls it being levelheaded and calm under pressure, I call it being an emotional vacuum.

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Such a stupid thing, but his taste in baby names.

Seriously. At the risk of offending people who’s kids might have these ridiculous names he likes, I’m not going to say what they are. But trust me, they are BAAAAD. Like think of the worst name possible and then the 2nd worst name possible and combine them. That’s his taste.  

And what really irritates me is that I will put a name like Allistair and he’ll be totally into it on Sunday. Then on Monday, I’ll mention it again and he’ll screw up his face like we never even talked about it and be like, “All I think is Allistair Crowley.” And he does this with every friggin name: “Thomas? But what about Tom Daschle?” “Arnold? What about Benedict Arnold?” “Amanda? I can’t name my kid after Mandy Moore.” WTF?? We’re talking about names like Allister, Thomas, Arnold, and Amanda. Not like, Debrickshaw or Madonna.

I’m not even pregnant and this is pissing me off. I swear, our kid is going to be named ‘Default X’ because we can’t agree.

/rant 🙂

Post # 31
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Um, I would say his inability to compartmentalize the areas of his life. Like for me… if I have a bad day at work I’m that much MORE happy when I’m home at the end of the day because home, in comparison, is even more awesome. Not Fiance. If he has a bad day at work, if he’s stressed about studying, if he’s stressed about anything, he can. not. shake. it. It annoys the hell out of me because its like he can’t just leave work and studying “at the office” and come home and be NORMAL. It also means that when he’s really busy with that stuff he tends to ignore me a little bit… like he’ll just walk in the door, quick kiss hello and disappear downstairs to study without a word. Like um… how about a “how was your day, glad to see you, my you look hot today…” SOMETHING. haha. 

We’ve talked about this a lot and it is definitely something that he’s improving on, but it still bugs the crap out of me 🙂

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