(Closed) What can FI’s brother do?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
46415 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Do you have an MC for the reception?

Post # 4
13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Can the other brother not be an usher too?

Post # 6
374 posts
Helper bee

If ushers are in tux’s or wearing a flower, it is official.  It is what is.  If it acts like an usher, it’s an usher.  Today they are called ‘groomsmen’ because not all brides want the formality of having people escorted to their pew or chair.  

Let me say that asking the sisters do a reading and not including brother #2, is not giving them equal status and you may have trouble here down the line.  I’m feeling bad and I’m not them.

I would say if the wedidng is small, let everyone wear whatever they look good in, give them all matching flowers and let them walk down the aisle.  Same with the brothers.  If money isn’t an issue let all the men match, either let them buy the same trousers and jacket and you give ties and shirts as gifts; or tuxes; and tell the girls to buy a dress in ‘x’ color, the length you want, and style [no boobs, no strapless,].  Give them direction regarding shoes [silver, ballet flats/heals, gold, black…] 

Family first.  Still tell the sisters you want her to do a readng; but let them walk the aisle for Pete’s sake.  Tell all the men you are having groomsmen and not ushers and you will let everyone know what they are to do when you figure it out.  Perhaps brother #2 can pass out programs.  Make them if you don’t have them, with as little information as the names of the bridal party and parents if you don’t have a long service.  All it costs is colored paper.  You can DIY.

Post # 7
1636 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

perhaps he could have the coolest job ever…

introducing the bride and groom at the reception, the DJs do.  He could perhaps do a speach or something?  I guess this goes along with EmCeeing, It would probably mean alot to him to do something so special.


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