(Closed) What can I say to keep my sister from “slutting up” her BM dress?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

One hemline will not ruin your wedding, I promise. Make your case that you don’t want it shorter, and then allow yourself to just not worry about it if it is shorter. You’ll have 56,483,953 things you care about more the day of, I promise! 🙂

Post # 4
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690 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Tell her that all bridesmaids must have their dresses at the knee-length or lower. No exceptions. If she wants to change into a more risque dress for the afterparty, then she can do so.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Tell her you want the two dresses to match exactly, including the length of the dresses! I would get your mom involved if I were you.

Post # 6
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3364 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Tell her thats the style you wanted, Knee-Length! And she doesnt need to alter it. She can do so after the wedding. Im sorry TessaMas, that must be so frustrating! I say stick your guns! This is YOUR wedding day! =) Im hoping your sister keeps it classy for you!

Post # 7
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610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m in the same boat as you. I have 4 bridesmaids. (2 are sisters). I asked them to have them hemmed right above the knee. Everyone agreed to this. But, now my one sister took hers in to get hemmed and texts me that it isn’t short enough and she’s getting it hemmed 5 inches above her knee. I tried to explain thats not what i want and other girls already got theres hemmed above the knee and hers won’t match now. There is no reasoning and i gave up because it is already at the seamstress getting hemmed now. It sucks but, you can’t control everyone even if it is your big day don’t let it bug you. You will still be the center of attention and just think when it’s her big day maybe you will want your bm dress a little shorter lol.

Post # 8
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13096 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Tell her that she is free to make the dress whatever length she wants after the wedding but that for the wedding you want both dress lengths to match – at the knee. Then you have to hope that she respects you enough to follow your wishes.

Post # 9
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7770 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Tell her how you feel. Tell her you will wear what she wants on her wedding day 🙂

My sister picked out the dress- I never even saw it until I put it on that day!

Post # 10
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270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I don’t think a dress has to cover, or even touch, your knees in order to look tasteful and appropriate. But, you’re entitled to have what you want. Could you offer to go with her to get it hemmed, and let her get it a little shorter, to make her happy, but just make sure she doesn’t do anything too crazy?

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Put your foot down! Unfortunately I wasn’t stern enough with 2 of my 4 bridemaids and they hemmed 4-5 inches above the knee. I am not kidding! One of the girls looked like she was ready to go clubbing. It does make a diffrence so make your wishes clear and tell your sister she can make you wear what she wants on her day. Pulling the bride card on this one will be worth it, trust me. I sure could see the dissappointment in my grandmother’s eyes and it broke my heart to hear her dismay about the short dresses when we talked about the wedding later on. Not to mention many of our wedding photos are now cropped to the top half only. It’s a wedding not a fashion show or singles mingle!

Post # 12
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862 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

well I would try and convince her to respect your wishes… and if not, joke’s on her because she will stick out (and not in a good way…)

Post # 13
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5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Put your foot down.. You have a vision for your wedding. She doesnt need to alter it in any way. She can do whatever she wants to that dress after the wedding but, you need to tell her that the dress needs to stay in the exact condition it was when she picked it up from the store.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I think what you told her is enough. You may just want to remind her that it should not go above the knee. If she undermines you then tell her she simply can’t stand with all the BMs OR she needs to order a new dress. Sisters tend to push things… but I don’t think she should get her way.

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