Post # 1
So my girls dresses came in today which is so exciting!!! I only have two bms, my sister, and a friend. My sister tells me she is going to pick it up today so she can start on getting it hemmed. I wrote her back and was like “what do you mean hemmed?”. She proceeded to tell me that it is too long (it is about an inch past the knee) and that she wants it shorter. I wrote her back and said PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do NOT get it any shorter than the knees. Knee length is ok”. She hasn’t responded yet. What do I do if she gets it hemmed shorter? How can I explain to her how important it is to me for her to look nice and not trampy. My sister is notoriously known for her provacative Facebook Pictures and trampy clothing. I just want her to respect my wishes just this once.
Post # 3
One hemline will not ruin your wedding, I promise. Make your case that you don’t want it shorter, and then allow yourself to just not worry about it if it is shorter. You’ll have 56,483,953 things you care about more the day of, I promise! 🙂
Post # 4
Tell her that all bridesmaids must have their dresses at the knee-length or lower. No exceptions. If she wants to change into a more risque dress for the afterparty, then she can do so.
Post # 5
Tell her you want the two dresses to match exactly, including the length of the dresses! I would get your mom involved if I were you.
Post # 6
Tell her thats the style you wanted, Knee-Length! And she doesnt need to alter it. She can do so after the wedding. Im sorry TessaMas, that must be so frustrating! I say stick your guns! This is YOUR wedding day! =) Im hoping your sister keeps it classy for you!
Post # 7
I’m in the same boat as you. I have 4 bridesmaids. (2 are sisters). I asked them to have them hemmed right above the knee. Everyone agreed to this. But, now my one sister took hers in to get hemmed and texts me that it isn’t short enough and she’s getting it hemmed 5 inches above her knee. I tried to explain thats not what i want and other girls already got theres hemmed above the knee and hers won’t match now. There is no reasoning and i gave up because it is already at the seamstress getting hemmed now. It sucks but, you can’t control everyone even if it is your big day don’t let it bug you. You will still be the center of attention and just think when it’s her big day maybe you will want your bm dress a little shorter lol.
Post # 8
Tell her that she is free to make the dress whatever length she wants after the wedding but that for the wedding you want both dress lengths to match – at the knee. Then you have to hope that she respects you enough to follow your wishes.
Post # 9
Tell her how you feel. Tell her you will wear what she wants on her wedding day 🙂
My sister picked out the dress- I never even saw it until I put it on that day!
Post # 10
I don’t think a dress has to cover, or even touch, your knees in order to look tasteful and appropriate. But, you’re entitled to have what you want. Could you offer to go with her to get it hemmed, and let her get it a little shorter, to make her happy, but just make sure she doesn’t do anything too crazy?
Post # 11
Put your foot down! Unfortunately I wasn’t stern enough with 2 of my 4 bridemaids and they hemmed 4-5 inches above the knee. I am not kidding! One of the girls looked like she was ready to go clubbing. It does make a diffrence so make your wishes clear and tell your sister she can make you wear what she wants on her day. Pulling the bride card on this one will be worth it, trust me. I sure could see the dissappointment in my grandmother’s eyes and it broke my heart to hear her dismay about the short dresses when we talked about the wedding later on. Not to mention many of our wedding photos are now cropped to the top half only. It’s a wedding not a fashion show or singles mingle!
Post # 12
well I would try and convince her to respect your wishes… and if not, joke’s on her because she will stick out (and not in a good way…)
Post # 13
Put your foot down.. You have a vision for your wedding. She doesnt need to alter it in any way. She can do whatever she wants to that dress after the wedding but, you need to tell her that the dress needs to stay in the exact condition it was when she picked it up from the store.
Post # 14
I think what you told her is enough. You may just want to remind her that it should not go above the knee. If she undermines you then tell her she simply can’t stand with all the BMs OR she needs to order a new dress. Sisters tend to push things… but I don’t think she should get her way.