(Closed) What?!?! Can they DO that?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

When is the coordinator coming back?

Call her back and tell her what you said here. You have had this planned for months and while you understand that this other thing is important, that is not the point. Talk with her about timing. Neither your wedding or this memorial will take the entire day. See if they can have it after your wedding (so no decorations get messed up!).

I would be frustrated too. This is not something you should have to deal with a week before your wedding when you have already made proper plans!

Post # 4
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699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oh never mind about the coordinator. I see that you said she is coming back in a few weeks. Is there anyone else at the church you can talk to? Your wedding is clearly on the books and they cannot just push you out!

Post # 5
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262 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I would totally call back and make sure that they keep your plans as set.  I’m sorry, but that’s BS for them to change them like that. 

But that’s just me.  I would NOT want to have to deal with finding a place last minute.  Especially if you had already made arrangements. 

Post # 6
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469 posts
Helper bee

Oh Oh I’m from Perrysburg! What park and church? I’m jealous I always dreamed of getting married in Toledo but my whole family has to travel no matter what and FI’s doesnt if we do Cleveland.

 

Anyways, I would call and say that while you really sympathize with the memorials purpose you set these plans months in advance and you WILL BE PAYING if you use the church there for you are not making other plans!

Post # 7
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1205 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’ve heard of churches making accomodations for funerals. I have a friend who was asked to leave the church by 2 for a service when she was planning on having the place all afternoon for a reception.

Just tread carefully. I know you’re upset, I would be too. I think a memorial service should be easier for THEM to move. Suggest that. Maybe they could do it on Sunday.

Post # 8
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1 posts
Wannabee

Why are they planning a memorial service before he actually passes away. That seems odd to me. Also, why can’t they hold the service on Friday or Sunday afternoon. Does it have to be on Saturday? My home church is really good about working around events already scheduled. I can’t imagine anyone that would try to cancel a wedding (or even taking it away as a back up location). Just seems somewhat inconsiderate. Hope everything works out for you!

Post # 9
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2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’m confused I thought the man is dying.  He hasn’t died yet and they are already planning his memorial?!  I would call back and ask if they could do the memorial on Sunday after the church service or Saturday morning before your time slot.  Don’t get mad just try to work with them.  I don’t blame you for having a back-up plan.  I’ve had two weddings get rained on recently and it hasn’t rained here in Months.  Go figure!

Post # 11
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1064 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

He’s not even dead yet, that’s so weird.

Post # 12
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299 posts
Helper bee

All I can think here is how terrible it is that a community is planning this man’s memorial before he’s even dead hah, no matter how you spell it out, it’s HIGHLY inappropriate!!!

Post # 13
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314 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I have to agree — it’s morose that they’re planning this poor man’s memorial and he’s still alive. And downright absurd that they’re planning it on your wedding day! Prominent community member or not, it’s disrepectful all the way around — to him, his family and to you. Since both events at the church are “wait and sees,” why can’t they be penciled in on different dates? I’d be livid!

Post # 14
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2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I’d say they’re being very rude about this whole thing. The church is booked — hold the memorial another day. (Not to mention, it’s very disturbing to me that they’re PLANNING A MEMORIAL BEFORE HE’S DEAD. Ew!)

Post # 15
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751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would be very upset to. I would hope to get ahold of the cordinater and that he could sort it out. I know my preacher would.

Post # 16
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751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

How does this none dead guy feel about them planning a memorial before he is dead geesh

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