- 9 years ago
- Wedding: August 2009
Okay, I need to vent….
We are having an outdoor wedding at a local metropark. It’s so pretty there and we are praying for beautiful weather. However, bad weather happens sometimes, so to be safe we reserved our home church as a back up location. I talked to the church administrator, cleared everything (she said we didn’t have to pay until we knew if we were actually going to use it), and we were good to go. Recently they also told us we could borrow their portable sound system and chairs (I have a wonderful, generous church :-D).
Well, I just now got a call from one of the ladies at the church. There is a prominent member of the church who is dying of cancer and they are trying to plan a memorial for him. She’d seen that our wedding was on the calendar for next Saturday but knew that we were planning on having it at the park, so she called me to clarify what was going on (the church administrator is on vacation for the next few weeks). I explained that yes, we are planning on having it at the park, but if it rains we’d set to have it at our church (we’ve been watching the weather and it’s going back and forth between sunny and thunderstorms, so it’s still too early to really tell). Her response? “Well, could you just find another back up location?” Oh, and by the way, now she’s calling around to see who we talked to about chairs and the sound system because they might need those, she’s not sure….
“Well, we’ll have the secretary let you know either way by Wednesday [hello! we get married on SATURDAY of that same week!]. But don’t worry, it’ll be a nice sunny day like this weekend, right?”
I just said “Okay, bye” because I didn’t even know what to say to that. But now I’m trying to figure out if I should call back.
Okay, chairs we could rent last minute. We actually have some set aside at a place for us just in case (reserved before we knew we could borrow chairs from the church), we just have to work out details of picking them up. The sound system…..that would be hard to find an alternate for (we had a hard time finding one in the first place), but in a pinch I guess we could do without. We’d still be married, even if no one else could hear what was being said or sung. But a back up location? This late? No way.
And what peeves me the most is that we set this all up months ago so we wouldn’t have to worry about it. It was all set. It’s on the calendar. I know this is a funeral/memorial service thing and that’s important, too, and it was just a back up location so if the weather’s nice it won’t be an issue, but seriously? Can they do that? A week before the wedding?
So yeah, I’m stressing a little bit now. So what would you do? Would you call back and lay down the law? 😛 Or would you just let it go and make alternate arrangements as much as possible?