Post # 1
I am getting an enhanced moissanite from moissaniteco.com. The only problem with moissanite is that I can have any carat equivalent size I want (What a problem to have lol)! It’s easy to want a bigger stone when it’s so affordable!
I do want it to be passable as a natural diamond. My SO and I are well off, so a 1.25ct stone would be believable and pretty impressive considering most people around here have less than 1ct diamonds and it averages around .5ct.
My SO and I went to Tiffany’s to try on the exact setting we are getting (we are getting the famous Tiffany replica from Excel Diamonds). I tried on a .98ct diamond and I did think it looked quite striking on me, especially in the mirror and not just when I looked at my own finger. However, I’ve been looking at all these photos online of HUGE rocks set in the Tiffany setting and I definitely love the look of a big stone, ain’t gonna lie lol.
I was set on a 1.25ct equivalent (7mm), but now I am contemplating a 1.5ct (7.5mm)! Which should I go for? Looking at bluenile.ca, a 1.25ct diamond with similar stats to moissanite would cost around 10-11k, while a 1.5ct would be around 14-16k. We could afford either of these, but that extra 5 grand on the ring would seem quite extravagant, and while people might believe we actually did that, that kind of frivolous spending might be frowned upon…….. but I still like me a big sparkly lol, especially since either way we wouldn’t be spending anything close to that much!
My SO wants to get me the biggest rock that I feel comfortable wearing. I actually was okay with a 1ct at first but he’s been pushing me to go bigger and bigger lol!
So what would you do? Get what you really want despite what people may think or get the more modest but still impressive rock that no one will question?
Post # 3
I don’t even know if I could tell the difference between a 1.25 and a 1.50…
Get what you want! Who cares what anyone thinks or who would question it.
Post # 4
Lucky you to be able to afford $15,000 on a ring! Go for whatever you want, who cares what others think. If you’re not going into debt for it, then it’s your choice and shouldn’t matter what others say. It’d be a different story if you were taking out a second mortgage or loan to buy it though.
Post # 5
Why not shop around on prices for diamonds. We got mine at a local store and saved 2-3k compaired to a stone with the same 4C’s at jared.
I just dont like the ideal of trying to pass of something as a diamond. I love a lot of the non diamond e-rings when they are ruby, topaz etc but not something that is supposed to make people think its a diamond.
Post # 6
@mishelleez: Well, I don’t have any hang ups over that. 😛
Post # 7
I don’t think many people could tell the difference between a 1.25 ct and a 1.50 ct just by looking at it. You will only be wearing one ring..not the two side by side. I also doubt that many people have any clue how much the price differential would be either.
Just get whatever makes you happier. Try on rings of both sizes and go with whichever one looks best to you.
Post # 8
@DeathByDesign: …i’m also getting moissanite, and i say GO BIG GIRL. lol. who cares what people think, honestly. 1.5 is not that much bigger than 1.25 anyway…
Post # 9
I’m not really sure why if you and your Fiance can afford a diamond, why you would be buying a Moissanite and saying it’s a diamond?
Moissanite’s are beautiful stones in and of themselves. So I think for me personally, I wouldn’t want to try to pass something off as a diamond that isn’t – especaially since it seems that you want a diamond and can afford one. It would be different if that wasn’t the case – but you stated a few times that you and your Fiance can afford one.
Why buy something that “looks like a diamond” and say it’s a diamond, if you want and can afford a diamond?
-In the end, get what you want no matter what other people may or may not think.
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2010 - Philippe Park
Eh, I’m with mishelleez. I can understand not wanting a diamond just because you prefer something else or because of social reasons (conflict diamonds, etc). But, if you want a diamond, get a diamond that you can afford.
I, personally, would feel uncomfortable essentially lying to everyone for the rest of my life by saying that I have a huge “diamond” when really it was a moissanite and I’m just trying to get one over on people for the “bling factor”, you know what I mean? An engagement ring isn’t about that, at least not to me.
Edit: Sorry, didn’t answer the question, got caught up in the whole “faking it” topic. Despite the whole fibbing issue, I say get the size you want! It’s your ring!
Post # 11
I’m with everyone else…. get what you want but don’t lie about it. If you want a moissonite or a white sapphire or whatever and be honest about it. If you want a diamond, get one you can afford.
Post # 12
I’m with the PP (but, you’ve also seen my choice in carat sizes…) and I LOVE a big stone, hehe. It’s also a balance act between what you want/are comfortable with and what he wants you have.
In some posts I’ve seen some women (after a while) wish their stone was bigger…so give it more thought and follow your heart!! Either way it will be a gorgeous symbol of the love and commiment you two share…
Btw, if the 1.5ct is the stone of your dreams…GO FOR IT!!
Post # 13
@SouthernTulip: Because we would rather spend that money on our mortgage and our future. Plain and simple. IMO, I can have the exact same thing in moissanite as I can have in a diamond for a fraction of the cost. I just don’t feel right spending that money on a rock. We got to where we are today by being very smart with our money, and 15k on a stone just doesn’t seem like a good idea to either of us. Just because we can afford it doesn’t mean we should buy it lol.
I’m not going to be going around saying “look at my diamond!”, but I am going to let people assume it’s a diamond for the most part. I don’t think that is a crime. Diamonds are such a fraud already anyway.
Anyway, I’ve made my decisions on all this already 🙂 I just want to know what people would do if they were in my situation.
Post # 14
The bigger a moissanite is the easier it is to tell it from a diamond…although that might be for more like a 3+ carat, not a 1.25 or 1.50.
I wouldn’t focus so much on the price of similiar sized diamonds since that’s not what you’re getting.
Post # 15
Ain’t nobody’s business but yours so get what you want!
For the bees commenting about passing off non-diamonds as diamonds, please see this thread, where we’ve already hashed all that out.
Post # 16
I totally understand and respect that decision, like other said I just personally would have a problem with essentially lying to people about what my ring was. Not criticizing – just saying my personal opinion.
But seriously, do what you want because that is really all that matters 🙂