Post # 1
I have a friend that told me she had 2 condoms break in the past 2 months while having sex with her boyfriend. I was too stunned to ask any more details at the time and I haven’t seen her yet since that conversation, but I’ve never had a condom break. Now I’m paranoid! What can cause a condom to break?
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Post # 4
When me and Darling Husband were dating, we used a brand once that didn’t fit right or something, and they broke all.the.time. We switched brands, and didn’t have any breaks with the new brand (I can’t remember which either brand was, because we stopped using condoms so long ago).
Post # 5
I just want to add that I think the nonwater based lubricants can break down condoms.
Post # 6
Several factros such as; the friction from sex which creates heat and wears down at the condom, lubricants that are oil based speed up this process, improper fit, or just plain bad luck. We have only ever had one condom break and it was a special extra thin barely there type of condom. needless to say that was the last time we used that brand
Post # 7
I think PPs have it covered. I can’t say I’ve ever had a condom break, or even threaten to. Slip off, yes, but break, never. Brand is important for fit/avoiding slippage too, though! If you’ve been using a brand you like and works for you and him, stick with it (and maybe recommend it to your friend?).
Post # 8
hmmm, I never realized brand would make a difference! If anyone can remember what brands weren’t trustworthy, PLEASE let me know!! lol I think Trojan probably has a good reputation, but just want to make sure we stay away from the bad ones.
Post # 9
Not putting it on properly (a surprisingly large number of people don’t use them correctly)
Non-water based lubricants
Out of date
It’s really important to put them on correctly; when used properly, condoms are about 98% effective. But their actual efficicay is around 92% because so many people don’t use them properly; if in doubt, read the instructions, and practice; you must make sure they’re the right way round, and that you pinch the tip before rolling them down the shaft of the penis. If you don’t pinch the tip, air can collect which causes them to split.
Also, not all men are the same size; some men may need smaller condoms, others might need larger ones; my ex needed to buy special extra-large ones. They do exist, so always make sure they fit correctly.
They can also slip off on withdrawal; I usually get a man to hold it as he withdraws to stop any leaks.
Wild/active sex should not make a difference if they are used properly. Similarly, the ultra-fine condoms are just as effective; when I did use condoms, these were always what I used, to minimise the loss of sensation. If they fit properly and are used properly, there shouldn’t be any issues, but obviously breaks can and do still happen, as they are not 100% effective.
Post # 10
Condoms just break. Yes, it is VERY scary! Double or triple up on methods (NFP, pullout method- on top of condoms, BC, etc.) that is my philosophy.
Post # 11
@MadameTussaud: I guess I should have said that better– I didn’t mean so much that some brands are untrustworthy, more that some will work better for the two of you, or how he’s shaped, or whatever. There are some cheaper ones out there that don’t have such great reputations, like I’ve used Lifestyle condoms successfully, but not liked them much. I like Durex Extra Sensitive, mostly because they fit Fiance well and don’t smell very latex-y. But like others have said, it’s much more about using them properly than picking out the “right” kind!
Post # 13
When the crazy lover pokes holes in them! haha J/k
I think its just misconception on how to properly put a condom on , coupled with poor fit. Bad luck does happen and so does wear and tear form certain forms of lubricant.
Post # 14
@MadameTussaud: NFP = Natural family planning! ( charting temperatures to know when your ovulating etc etc)
Post # 15
@cbee: I’m all for doubling up (SO and I always have), but you can’t double up when using NFP. Hormonal BC would make the temping and cervical mucous useless. If you’re using barrier methods, that’s FAM and not NFP because NFP requires abstaining during ovulation. It doesn’t seem like a very big difference, but it is the difference between the two.
Post # 16
Fiance and I have always used condoms and in 6 years of doing it 2-3 times a week we have never had an accident. In saying that I never put them on (I am too afraid to!), he always puts them on and hold onto them when he withdraws. We also store them in a little box inside the bedside table to make sure they are safe.
I am not afraid of them breaking as I know they are used correctly. Make sure they fit, they are no more than 2 months old and they are kept in a safe environment and you should be ok 🙂