Post # 1
Darling Husband and I have worked very hard to establish a routine with Dirty Delete (8.5 months). It works for her. (She sleeps 13 hours a night, on average, + 2 naps a day) it works for us (we get time together at night, and about 20 minutes in the mornings to have a cup of coffee together) and the whole household runs nice and smooth on a normal day.
That being said, my WHOLE FAMILY says I am too rigid with her routine. I mean, for a special occasion (most recently Thanksgiving) we drop it, and go with whatever flow is happening, but like today–bedtime is in 30 minutes, and I would like to go to the store, but since it’s a want, not a need, I just figure I’m SOL.
They think that’s crazy, and I should just go about my day whenever I want/however I want, and she’ll deal.
Post # 4
I’m also a non-parent (but TTC this summer!!) and I agree 100% with what you are doing. When you don’t stick to a routine you are worse off and so is LO. So you’ll have what you need from the store, but your LO may be pitching fits later on in the night. It’s a trade off. Having that time together (you and your husband) is priceless and what a marriage needs to be nurtured. I also believe wholeheartedly that it is so much better for the child.
Post # 5
If it works for you, go with it. People forget that every kid is different and while their LO may have been okay with changes in bedtime and schedule, other kids aren’t. I’d rather plan a trip to the store during the day, then deal with an overtired tantrum at 9pm. Remind them to she’s still very little- you may find more flexibility in your schedule as she gets older, but its perfectly fine to use a schedule that works for you for now.
Post # 6
I think you should do whatever works best to keep your family rested and relatively peaceful. Anyone else’s opinion is unimportant!
Post # 7
Everything in moderation is a good mantra. Routine’s are great, they’re reliable and people can depend on the same things happening at the same time, right? Sure, until some unforeseen circumstance throws a wrench in the works and you have to switch things up and your child, who rarely has had to adapt to new things is going in forty directions and your already stressed. It’s not a terrible thing to deviate, stretch and rearrange how, when and where things happen with children, it teaches them coping, confidence and comfort don’t always come from predictability, and as a parent, gives you more freedom and power knowing you aren’t a slave to the routine.