(Closed) What changed once you got engaged?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

According to him, blow jobs. He claims he hasn’t had one since I got the ring.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@SFreeman2187:  Mine says the same lol.  He says I have 198 more to go before the wedding since he gave me a fancy ring haha

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@SFreeman2187:  Lol, that’s funny.

 

We talk about a wedding, we changed our usual “one day we will..” into “in december” or “when I move in”, etc.

We talk about money and his place as something “ours”…

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I feel that the Fiance is more jealous now that we are engaged. When we were just dating and we been dating for about 4 years now he did not care if I had guy friends. Also now that we are engaged my family acts like my Fiance is god….lol.  One good thing that has happend is that he talks about our future a lot more now 🙂

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Nope, nothing’s changed, and I don’t really see why anything should!

I can see why their may be sometimes a bit more stress if you’re organising a large wedding or having family issues, but no, the relationship shouldn’t change.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - St. Philip Catholic Church/Arcadia Brewing Co.

The stress of planning is for sure there but, I think, it’s balanced out by the assurance that your Fiance has the same life plan (more or less) as you do. The whole relationship is “no matter what” I really liked that. 

 

Also, as someone who may or may not have peeked around at wedding websites before getting engaged, I had about a million different ideas and themes and looks that I loved imagining for a wedding. However, once we were planning our wedding, a lot of that fell away because it was just not “us”. So as far as wedding vision, that all cleared up really quickly. Basicly I went from  planning my wedding to our wedding and that was a big shift just in my own mind.

 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

For the two of us, nothing. But it was amazing how much more seriously everyone else (family and coworkers) took us. It was like a switch flipped, and we’d been together over two years!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@squeak:  

I guess I might be a bit biased as we’ve been together for 6 years and had a child and house first, so I guess I was never really waiting for an engagement signify the ‘start’ of our life togather?

My best friend has been with her man for 7 years and they’re still putting houses and babies on hold until they get married, and they’re not even engaged yet, poor thing.

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have been dating my fiance for a little over 10 years now and we have been more respectful of each other and really taking the relationship more seriously. We also are required to take these marriage counseling classes by the pastor that will officiate the wedding so I think that helped us. And we own these 2 dogs and so we feel like a little family and really are good about making sure we feed them, walk them, play w/ them and such and really try to do it all around both of our schedules.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Not much has really changed for us. Other than he calls me “wifey” all the time and I call him “husband.” I think everything else is basically the same though.

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

When we got engaged, we started to argue a lot due to family conflict.

I always had a great relationship with his parents during the three-and-a-half years we dated before our engagement. But as soon as we got engaged it was like a switch flipped.

He’s their oldest and the first of their kids to marry. Even though we had been together for years and lived together for years, I don’t think they fully realized their son had grown up until we got engaged. They were in denial. So there was a lot of pressure from his parents that we hadn’t had in our relationship before our engagement. They suddenly treated us as if we were children.

My husband and I argued about it a lot, and that continued into the first six months we were married. I have to say, I’m still not completely over the stress and unhappiness his parents caused during what should have been a happy time.

The good news is everything is smooth sailing with our relationship now, and in some ways we’re better for it – we learned to set clearer boundaries with his parents.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

For us nothing really has changed… still the same, the only difference is now on Friday’s we watch wedding shows. But the planning has not been stressful, quite fun actually and hasn’t changed the relationship at all. 

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

FOr us nothing has really changed. We feel closer than ever and we do get into more arguments and heated discussions. Planning our wedding and future hasn’t been stressful and we enjoy it actually. We are looking forward to starting our married life. 

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