(Closed) What changed once you were married?

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We have a budget- because its OUR money now;)

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Not much for us – we both starting wearing wedding bands and referring to each other as husband and wife (we already lived together).

When people asked me “How’s married life?” my typical response was, “Pretty much the same as engaged and living together life!” ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We waited to move in together.

I just feel like since we were married everything is more special! We’re just closer and way more in love. I love getting used to saying Husband…

I wish all my single friends would get married now too because marriage is so much better than I thought.

Post # 6
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16195 posts
Honey Beekeeper

We didn’t live together before we were married, so it seemed like everything changed lifestyle-wise. And it’s been so much fun!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

We live together! That’s a big one. I never have to get sad about having to leave. 

*We* have money. I don’t have a job yet, so occasionally he’ll say, “Let me know if you need money for anything.” All I really do is buy groceries, but we were together for nearly 7 years before getting engaged and never gave each other money.

Hearing myself called his wife is weird. I still haven’t called him my husband out loud (can you tell we’ve been married ten days?) so I call him by his name a lot more. Because I used to call him Boyfriend, but can’t anymore.

The last one is hard to explain, but we feel a lot more connected now. Not emotionally, but as in everything is ours, everything we have, our future…We’re really a unit now. To everyone, not just to us. It makes everything feel different to us, and a lot more special. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We work through fights better because we’re not just dating, we’re stuck with each other now ๐Ÿ˜›

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

We moved in together after we were in engaged, so living together without wedding planning hanging over us has been AMAZING!

I feel this inexplicable sense of closeness and security.  Sometimes I look at Darling Husband and almost cry because I feel so lucky.

Finances:  we are in the process of totally merging things right now and it feels good to be working towards our financial goals together.  We treated our money as “our” money after we were engaged, so this should make things a lot easier.

I finally feel like we really are our own little family ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Not a whole lot – I do double the laundry but haven’t had to clean a bathroom in almost a year yay! haha.

 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Oh and we are allowed to sleep in the same room at the IL’s now!  Yay!  lol

But seriously, it makes the visits MUCH more tollerable.

Post # 12
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23597 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Haha double laundry. Yes.  Agreed.  It’s so nice to have someone to come home to, that’s the biggest one!

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Nothing besides my name. We lived together for many years before tieing the knot so we were already as married as two people can be without it being legally binding. At first I was a little bummed that it didn’t feel any different but then I realized that it shouldn’t anyway. We’re still as crazy about eachother as we were premarriage, now we’re just husband and wife as opposed to fiance(e)’s. My love for him is the exact same and we still make our decisions as a team, just like we did before. Those who never lived together have a huge transition to go through but those of us who cohabitated before marriage just kinda keep on doin’ what we’re doin’. 

Post # 14
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5295 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

@SarahSmilesDec28:  ha, I was thinking nothing and then I remembered this! yeah, we stay at one house now instead of me staying at my parents’ and him at his.

We lived together for 6 months before the wedding, so that part we were already used to. Otherwise, not having wedding stress and getting to really think about planning trips together, buying furniture/tv and thinking about house stuff!

 

Post # 15
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627 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@SarahSmilesDec28:  Totally agree! My parents were so strict about this even though we had been together over 10 years before we got married. When we stayed over at Christmas is was so nice to be able to go to bed together in the same bed!

Other than that, not too much has changed. Life is pretty similar except we have nicer things now (from wedding gifts/things we purchased with gift cards) and we don’t have stupid wedding plans taking up all our free time! So, life is pretty awesome!

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