Post # 1
So, our day isnt until May. But I was talking to some newlywed friends and 1 said “nothing has changed. nothing” another said “nothing really changes, except now you can yell at him more” and other people just in conversation have said almost along the same lines. And of course the obvious, you have started a life together and your married to your best friend and everything…. So i got to thinking of the hive this morning, and figured I would just throw it out there….
What have you noticed that changes after you tie the knot?? (besides obvious last name changes and jazz)
Post # 3
No changes here. Now we’re just legally bound to each other!
(We had already been together for 8 years, 5 of which we were living together.)
I’m not sure why things would change. It would be a red-flag to me if they did. Of course over the years you’ll change some, but if the wedding was a significant turning-point in behavior, that would alarm me.
Post # 4
Just a deeper bond and sense of commitment to eachother. I don’t think anything outwardly or lifestyle-wise changed, but I definitely feel connected on a deeper level.
Post # 5
I think the majority of people who say ‘ nothing changes” are those who have already been living together and such for some time. If you are waiting until after your married then I am sure it will be a big life change for you, which is exactly what I am looking forward too:)
Post # 6
Um healthcare costs drop (my insurance is better), his pay check gets a little bigger (dropping health coverage.) We get to giggle and call each other husband and wife. Um we are much more relaxed and are more focused on the future, but thats mainly due to wedding stress being over.
Post # 7
We live together also. And yes, like you said misrusticj , I think the BIG changes come when you are waiting to live together.
I was just thinking about it all. and Just curious! 🙂
Post # 8
Nothing has really changed for us, but we’d lived together for about a year and a half before we got married. The thing I notice most that’s different is that people view your relationship differently and take it a bit more seriously when you can call you SO your “wife” or “husband”. The title seems to carry a lot more weight than boyfriend/girlfriend/fiance(e)!
Post # 9
No tangible changes. We lived together for four years before we were married and had already bought a home together etc. So the day-to-day remained the same. I can’t quite put my finger on it, but there is a slight shift in feelings. Even though I knew, before we were married, that we were committed to one another for life, that bond feels deeper and more serious now.
Post # 11
The biggest change for me was that once we got married I all of a sudden caught the baby bug. It wasn’t something I was considering doing so soon until after we got hitched.
Post # 12
@MeganTacky2247: We’re just us, with rings. 🙂 It’s a good thing!
Post # 13
Nothing. We are still the same exact people.
Darling Husband and I didn’t technically live together before and we bought a house a few months before getting married. So this caused more stress and while I always knew he was slob once we had the house and extra responsibilities it started to stress me out. I now have a cleaning lady lol
Post # 14
The only thing that has really changed is my weight. Ooooops! 🙂
Post # 15
Except for my name and that fancy piece of paper that we now have, nothing has changed for us. We’ve been together for almost 7 years and cohabitated nearly the entire time so we didn’t really expect anything to change since we were living as a married couple long before it was legal. Being married does feel different though. I don’t really know how to describe it but now that we’re husband and wife, our bond seems to be much stronger. Not saying we weren’t bonded before but now it just feels more intense. Before we were married, I didn’t really believe our married friends when they would tell us that it feels different but it really does. He’s my husband now. There really is no relationship like that of a husband and a wife.
Post # 16
We weren’t living together first, so it was a big change for us! Our relationship is essentially the same, except a bit deeper. I feel even more like we’re tackling life together, even though it’s a bit corny. We were also waiting (in that sense), so that’s a pleasant change too, haha.