(Closed) What childbirth REALLY feels like

posted 9 years ago in Babies
Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Pretty much the worst cramps in the world. And the back pain… ¦0 horrible! But very, very worth it! Can’t wait to do it again!

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

You know those clamps for toothpaste tubes so that you can squeeze alllll the toothpaste out of the tube? It felt to me like a giant clamp was clamped around my midsection at the beginning of each contraction and sloooooowly was slid down. Then it felt like my insides were going to be squeezed out of my butt, but just before that happened, the clamp loosened, then moved back up to my midsection to start all over again!

Pushing is just like you have to take the BIGGEST CRAP of your life and you CANNOT hold it but, paradoxically, nor can you really get it out. Then when the baby is crowning it just feels like everything is on fire and you have been pulled open with hot pokers. Once the baby is out… relief, for .2 seconds, then panic when you realize your life just changed forever and now, oh God, YOU’RE SOMEBODY’S MOM.

Post # 34
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@ohheavenlyday: haha love the last bit about realizing your someone’s mom!

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I had one failed induction and then finally one that worked! I got my epidural at 1cm, so I didn’t feel any labor. I have no idea what a labor pain feels like. Once it was time to push I pushed HARD HARD for 45 minutes. No pain. The pushing felt like I was doing manual labor though for 45 minutes without stopping. I was in “labor” for 8 hours. The WORST part of childbirth for me? RECOVERY!! I had to have a bunch of stitches because I tore so bad, not to mention the hemorroids I got from pushing. I had to wear that stupid GINORMOUS pad that had layers of ice packs, hemorrid cream and witch hazel for a few days. 

Post # 36
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Buzzing Beekeeper

It’s like riding a super scary roller coaster. The entire time you think you’re going to die and are like “Ahhhhh no no no I changed my mind, get me out of here!” but then when it’s over you’re like “Let’s go again!”

Thank goodness for the mommy amnesia or no one would do this more than once!

Post # 37
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@TheJeanses2012: Oh I forgot about the witch hazel and sitz bath! It took me like 20 minutes to pee since I had a regimen to follow every freaking time I had to pee!!!

And I am about to go through it all again! lol

Post # 38
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Despite what you imagine or are told. It’s just not that bad. Why else would women do it over and over ? and have done so since the beginning of time?

Post # 39
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Bee Keeper

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@julies1949: I’m convinced that we have a defense mechanism that makes us forget the pain of labor so that in hindsight we remember it as less than it really was, LOL.

I agree with the analogy of it feeling like you are really constipated and your stomach hurts (just like really bad diarrhea pain), and you are pushing to try to get it out, but it won’t come out.

For pain?  I didn’t feel any until my water broke.  The contractions were intense, but only lasted a minute, then eased.  I got an epidural as soon as I got to my hospital room and didn’t feel a thing until they turned the drip off after my doc finished stitching me up.  It was awesome.  I was smiling, happy, and enjoying my labor.  I was very aware, instead of having to zone out to ignore the pain.  It was a great labor, and I would totally do that again.

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I had my child au natural as that was the thing to do during that time period. Until I hit transition (about 8 cm), I was wondering what all the fuss was about. I had worse cramping during some of my periods! Then I hit transition and I was like WHOA! It literally felt like my body was trying to turn itself inside out! Luckily transition did not last very long (almost an hr.) and suddenly it felt like I really had to take this huge crap and the nurse looked and there was a baby head! Four pushes and she was out!

I truly believe that all the prenatal yoga I did during pregnancy as well as lots of hiking helped to prepare my body – I also drank lots of red raspberry leaf tea which supposedly eases the birthing process.

SO all that time I spent worrying about labor was for about 1 hr. of horrendous pain. But no one warned me how much my poor little bottom would hurt AFTER birth! Yikes!

Post # 41
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@ohheavenlyday: i loved reading this 🙂 that really makes sense to me…thanks for the explanation! 🙂 lol

Post # 42
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Having had two kids I can tell you that each birth experience is different. I was in labor for eight hours with my first child. I had back labor the entire time and spent 4 hours pushing. It was not fun and I think my panick made it much worse.

My second child I spent the last two months dilated to 4 cm. Labor with her was induced by breaking my water. I walked til I was 9 cm when they made me lie down. I had a total of four hours of labor and experienced no true pain until they made me lie down. From when the made me lie down til when I delivered the placenta was 24 minutes. So only twenty four minutes of pain. I pushed for 16.5 minutes. It was as easy as could be. I actually suggested to the doctor that we do this again next week it was so easy. He of course laughed. He had never seen anyone experience so little pain with natural childbirth. 

One of the big differences the second time around was the lack of panick. I now knew what childbirth was like and I constantly told myself it wasn’t so bad. I also walked. I refused to be hooked up to monitors or made to stay stationary. I told the doctor we were going to do this my way or I was having my baby at home. I was a high risk pregnancy and I think I scared my doctor to death because he knew I would do it. So I stayed mobile and paced and prayed. It was such a great labor and delivery I look forward to doing it again.

True story as impossible as it may seem. I was truly blessed!

Post # 43
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Blushing bee

Well, the only way I made it through (in my opinion) is because I had an epidural.  Personally, that’s the only way to go.  There is no sense in suffering all that pain for hours on end if you don’t have to.  The only draw back to an epidural is it might take you a little longer to push the baby out since it’s hard to feel if you are actually bearing down.  Other than that, I became a firm believer in the epidurals.  I went to lamaze classes and tried the breathing thing and focusing on something, etc.  That all went out the door when the pain got bad.  I was more than happy to see the anesthesiologist when he came in to give me the epidural. 

Post # 44
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

It all depends on the person, and what medications are involved.  From experience, and re-search, being induced is the worst way to go through a natural birth.  The pitocin is supposed to enhance (make worse) contractions more.  If I could turn back time I would have said no to being induced, UNLESS I was risking my childs health.  Granted, my son was 8lbs 4ounces…not sure my 5’2′ frame could have handled much more. 

Post # 45
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Sugar bee

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@weeonebride: I had to have an emergency c-section, but before, for 15hrs, I had HORRIBLE back labor. My God. I don’t even want to know what the actual labor felt like. I don’t wish back labor on ANYONE!

I had an epidural before the surgery, but it didn’t help much. Still felt it.

Post # 46
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I have never had medication while in labor. I am deathly afraid of needles. All you ladies who went the medication route are much braver then me. I would rather the pain then the needle. 🙁

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