(Closed) What costs are YOU covering for your bridal party?

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Post # 61
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

I’m in Australia and paid for dresses, hair, makeup and jewelry. They provided shoes (I just asked for silver). The guys wore suits they owned and we provided shirts for them. I also bought shirts and ties for my three pageboys and the dress for my flower girl (which was $17 from Kmart and SO cute!).

Post # 62
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

We paid for makeup for the girls and bought the boys’ ties.

The girls picked out/paid for their own dresses, and professional hair was optional. 4/5 of them wanted their hair done so I also paid an extra fee to bring a second stylist so we could start at 9am vs 7am. We just said black shoes so I think most of them already owned the ones they wore. The boys were in white shirt/grey pants/black suspenders and I think most of them wore stuff they already owned. We got everyone gifts.

I’ve always bought my own bridesmaid dress… I guess the logic is we’ll all have our turn someday 😛 I’m in two other weddings this year besides my own and have purchased my dress for both of those. 

Post # 63
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: December 2017

As my girls will have the ability to pick any dress they like, as long as it fits with my color scheme and is floor length, they will be paying for their own dresses. I will be covering their accessories. I am paying for either hair or makeup – their choice. 

The groomsmen will be asked to pull together their formal wear, and from there we can build around what they already have. We will be covering anything that they still need. 

Post # 64
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We paid for the bridesmaids dresses, and half of the grooms suits. Paid half for the hair and make up , I brought the jewellery. I also covered accomodation the night before. girls paid for their own shoes and boys wore shoes they already had

Post # 65
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Rydges Hotel

We are paying for bridesmaid dresses, and their hair and makeup, pair of earrings, robes, groomsmen pants (we are not going full suit as it will be a summer wedding), suspenders, bowties

 

We are not paying for alterations and shoes. 

 

I’m from NZ and it’s pretty norm here for the bride to pay for the bridesmaids and groomsmen

Post # 66
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Worker bee

Hey! I wrote a post asking about paying for things too and I am so interested in this topic. I love, love, love when the bride/groom pay for everything. I think it is the right thing to do because your supposed to be inviting other people to be a part of your wedding, not pay for it. Now I understand things can get expensive but as long as the bride/groom are offering very, deeply inexpensive options I see it as okay. 

I’ve never been in the bridal party, but my boyfriend has been two, — and the thousands (yes thousands, we flew and had hotel expenses in addition to them having us pay for the tuxes, shoes, bachelor party, etc.) we spent on those has left us both fully committed to two things:

1. We will never, ever “pay” to be in someone bridal party/groomsmen again.

2. We will not let anybody pay for anything at our wedding. We would rather have a teeny-tiny wedding we can personally afford rather than a big one that we need everyone else to chip in for. 

 

These are, of course, just our personal opinions based on our own experiences. We are trying to save our money and literally do not even go out to eat, so paying for a 150 dress when I have 10 in my closet is not something I’m intersted in.

Post # 67
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I’m not engaged yet, but we have actually already talked about our plans in regards to this. My SO would pay for the shirt or tie or vest or whatever extra for the groomsmen. They would wear whatever suit they already own (all of the men my SO would want as his groomsmen already have black suits, as they’ve been in various friends’ weddings already).

I wouldn’t require a specific dress for each bridesmaid, just a long dress of a specific color or color theme (at the moment I’m actually thinking of doing all floral bridesmaids dresses). We would pay ~$100 towards their dress and let them pick whichever dress they want. I’d make sure to have a couple suggestions for each girl of dresses that are within the anount I set if they don’t want to have to pay for their dress. But I know a couple of friends who would be happy to pay more for a nicer dress (and would also obviously totally understand that I can’t pay for over a certain amount).

So I would basically be paying for their dresses, I just want them to be able to pick the dress they really want but I also obviously can’t just pay an unlimited amount for the dresses.

Makeup I won’t pay for, as I wouldn’t require it and I probably will do my own makeup.

Hair I’m not sure if I’ll pay for. I certainly wouldn’t require it, but I know that my two friends who will be my bridesmaids would get their hair done regardless, leaving just my SIL (brother’s wife) who would be less willing to pay for it. I’d feel bad if she were left out, so might just pay for all of them to get their hair done if we have enough money.

As for accessories like shoes and jewelry, I wouldn’t pay for that. I wouldn’t have any requirements regarding those and honestly don’t care what shoes or jewelry they wear.

I was the Maid/Matron of Honor and a bridesmaid in two other weddings. When I was the Maid/Matron of Honor, it was for my SIL’s wedding to my brother and I paid for the dress. I did get to choose it though, and it was under $100. I didn’t mind at all, it is normal where I live. When I was a bridesmaid at my sister’s wedding, originally she was going to pay for it and then I was going to pay her back, but ultimately she decided to just buy it for me as a surprise, which was nice.

So it is normal in my area for the bridesmaids to pay for their own dress, but I wouldn’t really feel comfortable with it myself. I totally don’t mind at all paying for my bridesmaid dress in others’ weddings (as long as it’s a reasonable price lol), but I wouldn’t want my bridesmaids to spend money they aren’t comfortable spending just because of me.

Post # 68
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I’m in the U.S. and I don’t think the bridal party should have to pay for a dress they’ll wear for one day or rent a suit for one day (even though I’m letting them choose the style/fabric) We are having a somewhat inexpensive wedding, and the dresses I like seem to be around $50-$75. I only have 3 bridesmaids, so Fiance and I are paying for their dresses and suits. 

Post # 69
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Busy bee

I covered hair and makeup and their lodging for 2 nights.  They bought the dresses they picked out, the only thing I asked was the color.

Post # 70
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

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smalltownbigworld :  We’re covering several big costs:

– I bought all 4 of my bridesmaids their dresses.

– My fiance bought his best man (the only person standing up with him) a new suit.

– I’ve rented a house to get ready in the night before/day of my wedding, so my bridesmaids don’t need to book any type of hotel room.

– I’m arranging transportation for the wedding party, because two are from the UK and have said they don’t feel comfortable driving in another country, and two are younger drivers who haven’t perfected their skills yet!

– I think my fiance wants to buy matching ties for himself, the best man, and both of our fathers, but I’m not sure if that’ll end up happening.

– Any costs we aren’t covering, we’re being extremely flexible about. I’m letting my bridesmaids choose whatever shoes and accessories they want to wear. They can do whatever they wish with their hair and makeup.

– My bridesmaid dresses weren’t expensive, so I’ll probably end up doing some type of nice, small gift. My fiance isn’t buying a best man gift because he dropped over 500 UK pounds on a suit for him!

Obviously, we aren’t expecting showers or extra parties in our honor, but I believe they are in the works.

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